sunnie23 Posted August 5, 2003 Share Posted August 5, 2003 anyone have any advice on how to stop analyzing every little occurance in my relationship? right now things are absolutely amazing, and here i sit, at my desk, trying so hard to find a problem. why can't i just be content with the way things are? i've never been like this before, and i have a lot going on (two jobs, university, etc.) i'm driving myself crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 5, 2003 Share Posted August 5, 2003 You are obviously in love and insecure. You need to get to know more about love and understand that it flows in whatever direction that it will and you have no control over it. Just let it be and enjoy it. Author Dennis Whaley coined the malady "analysis paralysis" and if you analyze everything that happens in your life you will be totally numbed or paralyzed mentally and not enjoy one moment of it. Unless you want to go through life on the edge of neurosis, you will stop this nonsense and enjoy life as it comes. If you have problems with insecurity and self esteem, see a counsellor to get over it. These kinds of feelings have a way of destroying a relationship in the long run. Certainly you aren't enjoying it right now if you're spending the vast majority analyzing things like a general in the midst of war. Lighten up and chill. Kind of funny that the first four letters of analyze are ANAL. Now, that's not what you want to be??? Link to post Share on other sites
cliche_boy Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 But tony every1 knows that, he was asking HOW to stop analyzing. Im intrested too cos i got the same problem. There is absolutely no problem in my relationship but i tend to make them up, Check this out... My gf was late on her period and she got it when she was with her gay friend. Ive always been suspicious she's cheating on me emotionally with him, i know all about the emotional affair. The part of it i picked out was that emotional energies are expended outside the relationship leaving less for the primary relationship and weakens it. She didnt tell me she got it untill i saw her that night. I figured if that was me, ide be straight onto the phone or write a sms, i wouldnt be able to keep it in, she was prolly able to do this by telling her friend this kind of personal information instead of me - Emotional energies expended outside the primary relationship, weaking it. Ofcourse i didnt tell her this.. but what the hell!? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 I'd suggest trying to shift gears. I suspect people get stuck thinking about certain subjects and then they return to them by habit. Try switching your brain train to a new track - one of your interests or hobbies, maybe. Or join something new or take a course - anything to give your mind something else to dwell on. Link to post Share on other sites
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