Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 50 percent end and the ones that don't aren't any good after about 10 years and... Only the man takes any risks that why women are so eager to get married Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Thanks for saving my life .. Now why is it that YOU say we should never get married ? Your post seems disjointed and doesn't really make any sense.. could you explain it further ? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Is sostupid slow tonight? P.S. My husband of 13 years disagrees with you. Oh and no..he didn't take any more risk than I did. If anything it was the other way around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Thanks for saving my life .. Now why is it that YOU say we should never get married ? Your post seems disjointed and doesn't really make any sense.. could you explain it further ? point 1. Marriage does not fill any need only a perception of one point 2. The man getting married will only get screwed over in the end... biased family courts ect. point 3. Why even consider it? It doesn't accomplish anything it is just a big waste Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Thanks for saving my life .. Now why is it that YOU say we should never get married ? Your post seems disjointed and doesn't really make any sense.. could you explain it further ? This should be good! Yes, I'd like to hear more Staring. Oh and let me take a guess..you've never been married, right? (Have you ever had a g/f?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 This should be good! Yes, I'd like to hear more Staring. Oh and let me take a guess..you've never been married, right? (Have you ever had a g/f?) Your husband only disagrees because you haven't divorced him yet Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 point 1. Marriage does not fill any need only a perception of one point 2. The man getting married will only get screwed over in the end... biased family courts ect. point 3. Why even consider it? It doesn't accomplish anything it is just a big waste Is that all you've got? Point 1. Perception is reality. And as long as my H and I both feel that it fulfills a "need" then it DOES indeed feel a need. Get it? Point 2. How so? We're not getting divorced. Anyway, both my H and my ex got 50/50 JOINT custody of the kids. So I'm not sure where you're coming from with that. These days a man would have to be completely incompetent and mentally unstable to not get joint custody. Point 3. It's not a waste to us. We have a nice family and we don't believe in having kids out of wedlock. Any questions? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 point 1. Marriage does not fill any need only a perception of one point 2. The man getting married will only get screwed over in the end... biased family courts ect. point 3. Why even consider it? It doesn't accomplish anything it is just a big waste But how do I relate that to my life ?.. I mean if I'm going to be alone wouldn't that be worse ? There is only so much I can talk to my right hand Your point 1 is off base... Of course marriage fills a need..for the easy starter it gives my son a father and mother married with the same name.. it gives the family continuity. Your point 2 is off base... I don't believe I'll be screwed in the end.. thinking like that will get you nowhere in life.. If decisions were made in my life from the point of weakness ( like you want to make decisions ) and not strength then I would be in a world of hurt.. Remember to always make an informed decision from your strengths instead of your weaknesses.. Your point 3 is off base for me too... It has accomplished a lot in my life.. maybe it hasn't is yours but leaving your weakness and bitterness at the door will open your eyes to things you could never imagine Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Your husband only disagrees because you haven't divorced him yet Yet? Why would I divorce him? We love each other. And please don't presume to know what my H believes or doesn't believe. He's an attorney who handles divorce cases every single day. If anyone should be scared of marriage it should be HIM. So what's going on at sosuave? Nothing I gather? So you're buying what they're selling over there? How sad for you. Anyway, what's the problem? Don't get married. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 But how do I relate that to my life ?.. I mean if I'm going to be alone wouldn't that be worse ? There is only so much I can talk to my right hand Your point 1 is off base... Of course marriage fills a need..for the easy starter it gives my son a father and mother married with the same name.. it gives the family continuity. Your point 2 is off base... I don't believe I'll be screwed in the end.. thinking like that will get you nowhere in life.. If decisions were made in my life from the point of weakness ( like you want to make decisions ) and not strength then I would be in a world of hurt.. Remember to always make an informed decision from your strengths instead of your weaknesses.. Your point 3 is off base for me too... It has accomplished a lot in my life.. maybe it hasn't is yours but leaving your weakness and bitterness at the door will open your eyes to things you could never imagine I honestly dont understand a want for marriage I have no dersire for it at all Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Staring.. Have you ever been married ?.. have you ever been in a loving caring relationship ? I'm guessing that your peers are the biggest reason for your fear... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Staring.. Have you ever been married ?.. have you ever been in a loving caring relationship ? I'm guessing that your peers are the biggest reason for your fear... To explain further its not a fear just a lack of want Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I honestly dont understand a want for marriage I have no dersire for it at all Well good for you that you know what you want in life.. that is half the battle.. Nobody says that you should have to get married.. It is a choice.. a life decision that a couple makes.. Why start a thread about it though ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Well good for you that you know what you want in life.. that is half the battle.. Nobody says that you should have to get married.. It is a choice.. a life decision that a couple makes.. Why start a thread about it though ? Because I find it futile and that bugs me a little Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 To explain further its not a fear just a lack of want I went thru period(s) in my life that I didn't want to be married myself.. I was working on my career and building a business and didn't feel I had time for one.. But your likes and desires cycle throughout your life and I found myself in a place that made me feel comfortable enough to get married.. I'm in such a place today.. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 50 percent end and the ones that don't aren't any good after about 10 years and... Only the man takes any risks that why women are so eager to get married Are you serious??? How is it you think the men are the only ones taking a risk:confused:? Are you perhaps still living in the another reality? I am the only one in my marriage that took a single risk...and I have seen that in most of the marriages I know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 I went thru period(s) in my life that I didn't want to be married myself.. I was working on my career and building a business and didn't feel I had time for one.. But your likes and desires cycle throughout your life and I found myself in a place that made me feel comfortable enough to get married.. I'm in such a place today.. This isn't a cycle all the women in my family married their man for money with intent to divorce so I have no want really Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Are you serious??? How is it you think the men are the only ones taking a risk:confused:? Are you perhaps still living in the another reality? I am the only one in my marriage that took a single risk...and I have seen that in most of the marriages I know. Emotional risks aren't really risks because there are no reasons for them all they are chemical reactions in your brain. When I said that i was referring to how if you wanted could legally take everything and leave him Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Are you serious??? How is it you think the men are the only ones taking a risk:confused:? Are you perhaps still living in the another reality? I am the only one in my marriage that took a single risk...and I have seen that in most of the marriages I know. I know that "risk" comment got to me too. I came into this relationship with no baggage. No kids, no debt..nada. He on the other hand, had a kid, an ex-wife to deal with, debt, child support, etc. etc. With me, he got a second income to help dig him out from under it all. Where was his risk? I don't get it. What do you mean it's "futile and it bugs you." I don't see what the problem is. You don't like marriage then don't get married. Those who believe in it don't push it on you do they? So don't try to insult those of us who are happily married or believe in marriage, k? We all risk our emotions and a broken heart so I'm guessing you speak of financial risk. Clearly I was the one who had more to lose there. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 This isn't a cycle all the women in my family married their man for money with intent to divorce so I have no want really Oh so now we get to the root of it. That's sad. Sad and wrong. I was married before. Also to a professional. The marriage didn't work out. I left with what I came with and took nothing. We had no kids together. Not all women are vultures. Maybe one day you'll be lucky enough to find one who isn't. But if you think we all are, then you most likely will never meet a good woman and will remain alone for the rest of your life. That doesn't sound like a good plan to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Oh so now we get to the root of it. That's sad. Sad and wrong. I was married before. Also to a professional. The marriage didn't work out. I left with what I came with and took nothing. We had no kids together. Not all women are vultures. Maybe one day you'll be lucky enough to find one who isn't. But if you think we all are, then you most likely will never meet a good woman and will remain alone for the rest of your life. That doesn't sound like a good plan to me. What is bad about being alone I have been my whole life I dont see it as a lose Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 What is bad about being alone I have been my whole life I dont see it as a lose If I had to be 100 percent honest though I want to proved wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 What is bad about being alone I have been my whole life I dont see it as a lose Then you have no problem. I have no issue with someone who is happy alone. My own sister never married and most likely never will. That's fine. Is English your first language? I'm just curious. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Staring Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Then you have no problem. I have no issue with someone who is happy alone. My own sister never married and most likely never will. That's fine. Is English your first language? I'm just curious. I was born in germany but I never speeck it over here Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Living life is a risk everyday. I could get hit by a car tomorrow, all because I crossed the road. Nice attitude buddy. Keep that up, you'll be a lonely old man, in diapers, waiting to die. Alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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