Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 Be careful in the future if you decide to deal with him on any level. Since you wrote that text he will most likely contact you to see if you are weak enough to get with him so he can prove to himself that the sex was good or else she would not have come back for some. Part of you will be wondering if he misses you or is he coming back to prove a point. You really got him below the belt. He doesn't want to hear that you won't even come back for the physical. (especially if things were great in that department) It has turned into a bruised ego thing for him now. Way to go! Thank you for your support mscomplex. Been as i've been the one keep on contacting him first i think he thinks that i'll keep on texting him again and again. In that department he said it was great, felt great etc, so he definitely would've wanted that part, i'd never have agreed to that. I don't think he does miss me, well not in the way i would've wanted him to anyway, it was all physical for him. I hate the way he's made me feel, words can't honestly describe how hurt i feel now and betrayed by the person who i thought genuinely loved me. How am i going to get over this??? Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 im so stupide for texting him. i did it at 9:45 am and now its 3pm and he hasnt called. either hes not out of work or hes not going to call. i just needed to know if i was holding onto nothing.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 Give it time hun, i'm sure he will reply back to you. Don't hold onto any hopes though, i mean if you did get back together, what would happen then? It'd be sooooo hard to trust them again, knowing that deep down they don't want anything serious with us, i personally don't think that things could be the same ever again. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 i guess it couldnt. at least not in this decade. not until he grows up and realizes whats in front of him. not until he proved he was in this 110% and put some effort in. man, how quickly do peoples feelings change? its crazy Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 i guess it couldnt. at least not in this decade. not until he grows up and realizes whats in front of him. not until he proved he was in this 110% and put some effort in. man, how quickly do peoples feelings change? its crazy I know, guess that's part of life isn't it. My feelings have definitely changed towards my ex, i've seen him for what he really is. We don't need people like that in our lives, we're only young, we have plenty of time to find the one and shouldn't settle for someone who doesn't want to be a part of our little worlds. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 babes i was reading your first post and was wondering- after nc for 2 yrs with the ex, how did u get back in touch with him again? how did u guys initiate getting abck together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 babes i was reading your first post and was wondering- after nc for 2 yrs with the ex, how did u get back in touch with him again? how did u guys initiate getting abck together? He was the one who contacted me. At the time he said letting me go in the first place was the biggest mistake of his life, haha what a hypocrite he is. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 he didnt even text me or call me, babes. nothing. and its almost 6pm here. he def. isnt working. i cant believe he hasnt responded whatsoever. not a peep. im seriously shocked. i dont even know who he is anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 he didnt even text me or call me, babes. nothing. and its almost 6pm here. he def. isnt working. i cant believe he hasnt responded whatsoever. not a peep. im seriously shocked. i dont even know who he is anymore. Maybe him not replying is a blessing in disguise? It isn't that though is it, it's just all the waiting around wondering if he will or won't contact you. What did you say to him exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 i just said "can you please call me when you have a break at work or when you get out?" and he didnt text me or call. i know his schedule....he rarely works till 5 on fridays. he is such a coward! to avoid confrontation he does this?!?! its so rediculous. i never would have thought this from him. i would have at least expected a text. 2+ yrs and not even a text.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 Well you're far more patient than me as i would've pushed and pushed until he answered me (not that i'd advise this). Maybe he feels it's best if he doesn't contact you, as not to get your hopes up etc. It's a difficult one as of course we don't know what he's thinking. If you really, really, really need answers then perhaps try calling him but screening your number first? Understand how frustrating all this must be for you. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 no way....i am done with him. he wanted to avoid confrontation. he doesnt even know what id say! he could have at least text me and said, "i dont want to talk". im not gonna push him but wtf??!?! be a man, do SOMETHING. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 Your choice hun, either way now you can't let it niggle at you, otherwise that's going to stop you from moving on. To move on just remember that he hadn't had the balls to reply, show him your better than that, you don't need him, move foward now, forget him, they're not coming back an we're freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee . Link to post Share on other sites
mscomplex Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 he didnt even text me or call me, babes. nothing. and its almost 6pm here. he def. isnt working. i cant believe he hasnt responded whatsoever. not a peep. im seriously shocked. i dont even know who he is anymore. Based on what you wrote in your text, if you did not use his name, it sounds pretty generic. You can save face by just sending a follow up text and say, I am sorry for the text earlier. It was meant for someone else and I went to you by mistake. Please disregard. I have done that in the past and it worked to make me feel better. It may work for you. Just a thought. And don't do it again. That is your freebie! NC!!!! Ya hear? Especially now that you know he won't reply. It's agony waiting to see what will happen. My ex contacted after that to explain why he did not reply before. It was not during the break up but during a disagreement or something but I remember it working for me. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 hes a moron. i dont even want to bother responding to save my a$$. he didnt even know what i was gonna say! and he still didnt want to deal with it. a coward. i would never do that to someone whose heart i broke. i would at least let them talk. i mean, why bother saying "ill always be here for you, call me whenever" ??? to be nice? Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 Your choice hun, either way now you can't let it niggle at you, otherwise that's going to stop you from moving on. To move on just remember that he hadn't had the balls to reply, show him your better than that, you don't need him, move foward now, forget him, they're not coming back an we're freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee . you're so right babes---im freeeeeeeeeeeeeee. free from some idiot who doesnt know a great thing when it stares him in the face! Link to post Share on other sites
mscomplex Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 you're so right babes---im freeeeeeeeeeeeeee. free from some idiot who doesnt know a great thing when it stares him in the face! I was only suggesting the follow up text if it continued to bother you but you seem to have a great attitude about it now! You slipped. We all have them. Stay strong. You can do it. We all can. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 ya know what mscomplex- sometimes the slips make u realize u have to get ur own head out of the clouds and see clearly. get him off the damn pedestal u put him on and realize hes not the end all be all. so i was wrong. i was wrong about him....that just means i get to fall in love again and hopefully find a love that will last. i love being in love Link to post Share on other sites
mscomplex Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 U r so right! Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Author Share Posted August 9, 2008 Any news Hope? Well i text mine, damn, one of his friends told me that when this friend and his gf split up, my then bf made a pass at her!!!! Now i'm not sure what to believe, this friend kinda likes me more than a friend, his ex was a liar, but i feel as if i didn't know my ex at all. I needed to know this otherwise it's gonna eat up at me..... no reply as yet but figured best to do it now when it's only 1 day of no contact than to do it when it's further progressed. Bloody hell what did i ever see in him, he was a horrible person!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Author Share Posted August 9, 2008 Well he text back saying that's not true, going to leave it there and move on from it now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Author Share Posted August 9, 2008 I asked him what had happened to us and he said: "It didn't feel right anymore. You always didn't trust me and it made things hard. Neither of us were happy anymore. There ain't anyone else x" I said: "Ok, i agree with all that too, you weren't my kind of person, too cold and you weren't capable of having a adult relationship hence my unhappiness. To be honest my biggest mistake in life was knowing you, if i could take it all back so i hadn't met you at all then i honestly would. No bitterness though, i'm just glad to have moved on. I hope you manage to sort yourself out so you can find your happiness, life is too short isn't it. Bye, bye x" What does everyone think? I feel like i have proper closure now, he wasn't the one for me hence my unhappiness. I really am going to move on now, no contact is the way forward. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeDiesLast Posted August 9, 2008 Share Posted August 9, 2008 i think if you're done speaking to him babes, leave it at that. mine didnt even call me back. he sucks. i got no response and i gave no other response. i wanted so badly to just text him back and say "wow,not even a call or text back to me. who ARE you???" but i didnt. he doesnt even deserve that. i dont know who hes turned into. But at least now you can be done with your ex! and i guess im done with mine...not that this is any easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Author Share Posted August 9, 2008 I appreciate mine replying to me, i think in the end the relationship wasn't appealing to either of us, as i said he didn't want to commit, we wanted so many different things we were pulling in opposite directions, that's no relationship. I'm glad i can leave it to rest now and concentrate on ME. Give myself time to heal from it all, i'm sure i'll come out of this a much stronger and wiser person. You'll be fine too, you honestly will, you have your answer by him not replying. I'll keep this thread growing , record my progress and hopefully in a few months time can look back at it when i'm in a much better place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Author Share Posted August 9, 2008 Feel, really, really, sick to my stomach , know this is for the best as he wasn't treating me right but it still doesn't make any of it any better . Link to post Share on other sites
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