Wife's been cheating for 1/4 of our marriage

[Heroic]

Call a lawyer and put a big footprint on her butt as she is walking out the door.

 

Check paternity on your child.

[icepop]

Tough choice. I had a wife who cheated on me 3.5 years into the marriage. We had a two year old at this point. We never went to counseling. She again, twice. Once with a woman. We had another son together. Then, she ran off with some a**hole her Mother introduced her to during her "vacation". THis basically ended a 17 year marriage.

 

BTW, I provided extremely well for her.

 

My point ?

 

Dump your wife now. You are looking at long-term headaches. I guarantee it.

 

Sorry, I wish I could be more positive. But, Good Luck to you !!

[Andy L]

Have a DNA test and keep on with your live as better as possible.

I am sorry for your so short time marriage.

[bimmyboy]

Thanks everybody for your advice and kind words. It means alot and helps even more. Things have started improving over the last couple weeks with regards to my mental state anyways . Just trying to find the balance between work and paying for everything and spending time with my son. I'm sluggin it out and I'm sure things will get better.

 

New issue though, lol, always new issues. What's weird is this one week on one week off parenting thing. I feel like two totally different people. One week I go out or go and try and have some social life to distract myself from my situation the other I'm full time dad. So far it hasn't been a problem and I've been able to keep the two very distinct. The hard part comes in here; the only social circle I have is basically with the guys from work. We all do quite well and they all lead a pretty fast lifestyle if you know what I mean.... Lotsa booze, women, travelling etc... Fun as hell but it's not really me and now I feel like the one with the double life.

 

If I don't go out and see people and keep myself occupied during my week without my son I'm sure I'd just be crazy depressed and thinking about all the wrong things. Am I wrong in behaving in this way at the moment or is it justifiable?

 

This should keep u guys busy for a while.

 

Thanks

 

J

[mark982]

even though you're basically doing the same thing as your stbx(except not dragging ur child to parties)don't make it right. now is the time to cover your azz,you never know WHO your ex might have following you. myself i'd just keep it nice and slow till this all blows over.

[Darth Vader]

even though you're basically doing the same thing as your stbx(except not dragging ur child to parties)don't make it right. now is the time to cover your azz,you never know WHO your ex might have following you. myself i'd just keep it nice and slow till this all blows over.

 

 

Isn't that something else, it just goes to show how hypocritical cheaters really are. It's okay for them to screw other people, but, oh no, God help you if you start moving on! I'm not saying cheat, but, you see what I'm saying here!

[Dexter Morgan]

You know what? I think you CAN do the single father thing.

 

me too. unfortuntaley, no matter how much of a wretch my boys mother is, its not enough to prove her unfit. So I don't get that chance.

 

I'd give anything to have full custody and them be with me every night.

its the ONLY way I can guarantee their safety and a well adjusted raising process.

 

yes, bimmy, YOU CAN be a single father. Whats the alternative? Leave your child with a bed hopper and partier??

 

I don't know if it will help, but tell your lawyer that she chose the partying/sleeping around lifestyle over the family and that might make a difference in the eyes of a judge.