Mary3 Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 I'd say go for it and encourage him (in a nice way), since you said he mentioned himself that he was not confortable with his weight. I used to be in a relationship with a guy who was even more overweight than your bf is, and I did not *really* encourage him to lose weight (unless he got into the subject himself) because I was worried he might take it the wrong way. He ended up not feeling loved (well, we had other issues, as well) - as his family and his close friends were asking about his weight and encouraging him to lose some, he found it a red flag that I was the only one not breaking the subject. At one point he even wondered whether deep down I wanted him to keep being overweight because I was insecure and his weight was a turnoff for other girls. Its a shame your bf felt that way feeling you wanted to keep him heavy due to insecurity. I can tell you this : If a guy lost a great deal of weight and was thin by my standards I would no longer be attracted to him. So you like what you like. This weight problem apparently consumed him so much he felt things in his mind that were not true Link to post Share on other sites
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