i feel so stupid and ashamed: little scarred dots and bumps around my nipples

[embarrassed0202]

alright, this is going to be really hard for me to type out. My boyfriend and I have been on and off for almost 2 years now. I have been intimate with him, but never really with the lights on because I have a problem.

 

I know that it's normal to have a few hairs around your nipples, and it did start out that way. and I plucked them or whatever, but it seemed like when i did that they just came back thicker or whatever and more of them came.

 

now around my nipples is like scarred from all of that plucking and trying to get them out. hair still grows there, but i still continue plucking it out because i mean SERIOUSLY ...GROSSS!!!

 

but like i said there are like little scarred dots and bumps around my nipples and i want to give myself to my boyfriend fully but i feel like i can't. i'm soo embarrassed, i dont know what to do.

 

i love him so much and i know he loves me, and i know he gets frustrated when i get all fidgety when he moves into that region, but i can't help it, i feel like i would just die if he knew waht the really looked like or something.

 

Please help me i dotn know what to do! about any of it!!!

[my_mother's_daughter]

You know, most women have bumps and dots around their nipples if you look closely enough, it's a mature adult breast!!

 

As with most inadequacies, we tend to focus on them to the point of obsession and most of the things we end up seeing magnified are usually not so apparent to somebody else's eyes. True. Most of us have something about ourselves physically that we hate to have seen by others; even beautiful celebrities profess to have the most bizarre insecurities about their appearance. Bottom line is we're all different and none of us is perfect.

 

I imagine if your boyfriend sees your breasts, he won't run screaming, dump you that day and hook up with a woman renowned locally for the perfect skin around her nipple area.... Next time he moves into that region, relax and prove me wrong.

 

As for the woman renowned for her nipple skin(!), I bet her nipples are perfect but she hates the dimples in her ass...

 

xxx

[michellechgo]

Embarrased,

 

First of all you shouldn't feel stupid or ashamed. Women tend to be way to hard on themselves. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Perhaps you have a hormone imbalance. The body is covered with hair on some it is more visible than others. Whenever we pluck, tweeze, wax , or shave the hair always comes back with buddies. I would go see a doctor and find out if their is an underlying medical issue to be dealt with. In the meantime you can try a bleaching cream to lighten the hair and if tweezing is causing irritation and red bumps you can try waxing it may hurt more initially but at least you won't have as much irritation and it takes longer to grow back. If this really bothers you, then you may want to look into electrolysis.

 

Michelle

[embarrassed0202]

I need to go see a doctor?? ahhh, you guys this is so not cool. I think I am depressed from this honestly.

 

First of all, how do I go about doing that? i'm sorta younger, so I would have to tell my mom about it. I think she would think I was gross or something.

 

This is something that seriously makes me cry everyday. and no matter what I do, the irritation on my body that I caused before doesn't go away.....

 

 

what should I do??? Please help you guys, dont just skip this one. I need some really good advice, this has been dragging my life down for a long time.

[my_mother's_daughter]

I do believe I gave you some pretty good advice already.

 

Your problem seems to lie not so much in the existence of the hair but the damage which you have done to your skin.

 

Short of an operation which removes the skin on your chest and replaces it with perfect skin (i don't think the operation exists) the best way to deal with this is to combat the psychological problem which is exacerbating it.

 

As I've already said, I bet it's not as bad as you think.

 

I don't know what advice you expect... There's no fix-all in this life

[Immortal No More]

You need to stop plucking the hairs immediately...Im assuming you pluck them as soon as they are long enough each time...the irritation you are experiencing are the nerve endings in your nipples going crazy over being abused. Stop plucking, go see a doctor and see if he can give you something to make the nerves go back to normal. If you continue this way, you may find that later in life, you will have constant pain in your nipples.

[rhass13]

To all of you out there who have these bumps:

 

I have it too. And don't worry about it. Really, I've always been self conscious about it. But I also didn't want to hold myself back from my lover, I wanted to be equal. I even asked if it was noticeable, and they had no idea what i was talking about. I pointed at my nipples and exclaimed: "Honestly, who's nipples do that?!?" and she answered with "yours do and i love them" That was seriously a huge weight of my chest. I felt so happy that she didn't freak on me, or even notice until i pointed it out.

So i guess the moral of the story is, just don't worry about it. They love you for you, and everything that goes with you. Like the others said, you can see things wrong with yourself, but others usually can't. just be happy with you are, and don't lose sleep over it. Others have the same problem (like me), and when in doubt just exclaim: "Who's nipples do that?!?"