KBM2324 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I am really trying my best to find a way to deal with this "small" situation. I'm the type of woman that like to take control in the bedroom...i like to get on top and please my man....and of course all woman like to be touched in all the right places...but at times i really dont feel sexy when i'm making love to my man because of my chest size...it kinda distracts me from enjoying myself...cause while we are having sex i'm thinking and watching how much attention he is giving my breast and if he really like them. I mean to be honest..i wish had big breast to give him something to watch while he's enjoying himself..you know something with some bounce to it. I just recently had a baby like 3 weeks ago..and any ladies that had a baby know what i'm talking about...after you have the baby your breast gets filled with milk...so when my breast were big...he just looked at me more..he gave me a lil more attention to my breast..and here is the down fall...after a while your breast are going to go back to it's normal size after all the milk gets out..so now i really feel shy cause he saw me have big boobs..and now i'm back to my small chest again...i just want to feel sexy and confindent...my friends say there is nothin wrong with me..but they dont have a small chest like me..so they dont know how i feel....they say your a pretty girl why do put yourself down like this...i mean i have a nice shape..and nice curves..i'm a size 9..nice peach butt...but i just lack where i think really makes u feel like a complete woman and that's my chest....i wanna feel sexyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!! I dont want plastic surgery..unless that plastic surgeon on e! Does it...what's his name dr.gray? But i dont have money like that...lol Link to post Share on other sites
rproctor Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 No one is perfect, you say you have other great features, count your lucky stars! Some people are brought into this world ugly as sin, and they have NO appealing physical features. So, just because you got jipped on a couple ounces in boob size shouldnt restrain you from enjoying your sexuality. I mean, how important are boobs anyways? I dont really care to be honest, and I am guy. I mean, sure nice big boobs are great, but so are cute little boobs. Besides, big boobs usually sag and droop with age. Do you really think that having big boobs would make you happy? Or do you think it would just make your man happy? Link to post Share on other sites
SnapCracklePop Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I am really trying my best to find a way to deal with this "small" situation. I'm the type of woman that like to take control in the bedroom...i like to get on top and please my man....and of course all woman like to be touched in all the right places...but at times i really dont feel sexy when i'm making love to my man because of my chest size...it kinda distracts me from enjoying myself...cause while we are having sex i'm thinking and watching how much attention he is giving my breast and if he really like them. I mean to be honest..i wish had big breast to give him something to watch while he's enjoying himself..you know something with some bounce to it. I just recently had a baby like 3 weeks ago..and any ladies that had a baby know what i'm talking about...after you have the baby your breast gets filled with milk...so when my breast were big...he just looked at me more..he gave me a lil more attention to my breast..and here is the down fall...after a while your breast are going to go back to it's normal size after all the milk gets out..so now i really feel shy cause he saw me have big boobs..and now i'm back to my small chest again...i just want to feel sexy and confindent...my friends say there is nothin wrong with me..but they dont have a small chest like me..so they dont know how i feel....they say your a pretty girl why do put yourself down like this...i mean i have a nice shape..and nice curves..i'm a size 9..nice peach butt...but i just lack where i think really makes u feel like a complete woman and that's my chest....i wanna feel sexyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!! I dont want plastic surgery..unless that plastic surgeon on e! Does it...what's his name dr.gray? But i dont have money like that...lol Trust me KBM2324.... I am a guy, and many of us are not all about boobs. Nice curves and butt? Sounds fantastic to me... Really, you don't need big boobs to be sexy. Did you ever watch the sitcom 3rd Rock From The Sun? There was a line in one episode where one Dick Soloman says something like "women want to feel sexy by having boobs... men lose their sex appeal when they get boobs". Link to post Share on other sites
Carmen87 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I really don't understand this obsession women have with wanting bigger boobs. It is not all it's cracked up to be. My boobs are a little too large for my body, and I HATE the attention it draws. I would much rather have smaller ones. You need to just learn to accept your body, it is what it is. The only way to permanantly changed your size is surgery, and you have already ruled that out. I am sure your SO doesn't care, and if he does then you shouldn't be with him anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KBM2324 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 @ rproctor.....GOOD QUESTION.....SOMETIMES I THINK IT WOULD MAKE HIM HAPPY...CAUSE SOMETIMES I THINK THAT ALL MEN LIKE AND WANT A WOMAN TO HAVE BIG BREAST....BUT HONESTLY IT'S MORE ME..I WOULD MAKE ME MORE HAPPY AND JUST FEEL LIKE A COMPLETE WOMAN Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 don't feel bad, "alot" of us guys are small boob men,i sure am. another thing to think. when you get older,they won't hang down to your knees:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author KBM2324 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 I dont why it's so hard for me to get past this...i mean when you see pics of "eye candy" girls it just makes me feel like damn this how men expect us to look...i mean can a woman really have a nice body with a small chest...is having a small chest really a flaw? That's how the world makes it out to be..and then you fall under the "iity, bitty, titty commitee" it's not fair..smh Link to post Share on other sites
Carmen87 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I dont why it's so hard for me to get past this...i mean when you see pics of "eye candy" girls it just makes me feel like damn this how men expect us to look...i mean can a woman really have a nice body with a small chest...is having a small chest really a flaw? That's how the world makes it out to be..and then you fall under the "iity, bitty, titty commitee" it's not fair..smh Never set your standards at what Hollywood says is sexy. Most men really don't go for the fake look. Also, to everyone saying big boobs sag I hate to break it to you but ALL boobs sag no matter what size they are. Its life. Link to post Share on other sites
Tyra Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Well, I'm one of those woman who doesn't have large breasts. Nevertheless, I've accepted it, and still considered my body to be perfect and flawless. Like the other threads stated from guys, some guys like big breasts and some like small breasts. Guys have different aspects that they desire from a woman. Some men are "leg men".They love women legs. I use to be shy when I first started having intimacy with my man, until he told me how perfect my body was. And that made me feel even more confident in myself. So the more and more we had intimate moments, I was comfortable. It's o.k though.Remember, not every female in this world want big breasts.While some women are getting breasts implants, other women are getting breast reductions. Your man should love your body even what.Remember that.Accept this, you are beautiful no matter what. As long as you have something to work with, you're o.k.LOL!! Most guys say as long as they have mouthful, they are fine.Don't beat yourself in the head because of this. Link to post Share on other sites
trubella Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 and any ladies that had a baby know what i'm talking about...after you have the baby your breast gets filled with milk...so when my breast were big...he just looked at me more..he gave me a lil more attention to my breast..and here is the down fall...after a while your breast are going to go back to it's normal size after all the milk gets out..so now i really feel shy cause he saw me have big boobs.. i dont know about that, before i had my son was a small b cup, now im a full c after having him, especially since i put on a little weight theyve gotten bigger. im sure he loves you regardless if your boobs are small or big, just be thankful for what you DO have. i would kill to have a *peach butt* ill trade you some boob for it:D Link to post Share on other sites
Author KBM2324 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 Lol@ trubella.....at least you got bigger...it seem like somebody took a niddle to my breast and pop it...lol but i'm like why my body gotta tease me like this...i just wish they never got that big..and then went away Link to post Share on other sites
sandrawg Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Lol@ trubella.....at least you got bigger...it seem like somebody took a niddle to my breast and pop it...lol but i'm like why my body gotta tease me like this...i just wish they never got that big..and then went away Babe, I was like you...I was an A cup (32A) for most of my life. I NEVER had a problem attracting men. There are plenty of men who do not require big boobs-ANY boob will do. Trust me. Your guy is probably one of them; otherwise, he wouldn't have gotten w/you earlier. Right? I think to men, confidence is sexier than any body part, as is intelligence. There are lots of women with big breasts who coast on that. They don't try to turn a man on-they think they don't have to. I know men who are turned off by women with big breasts for that reason. Just find some pretty, sexy lingerie that flatters your body. Play up that butt! Guys love booty. Esp from certain positions I've always had a healthy butt, too, so I wear tight jeans and pants that flatter it. BTW, mine got bigger when I turned 40-LOL. When you turn 40, your metabolism goes haywire. I got some extra pounds in places I don't want, but I'm working on those at the gym...the cool thing is I got extra pounds in the chest dept. I'm now a healthy 34B. So...just wait...when those other girls your age are complaining about their breasts dropping to the floor, yours will fill out nicely Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I can understand that small breasts make you feel uncomfortable.. but at least you can wear just about anything that is trendy ... and 'layers'... I can't.. my breasts are waaayyyy too big.. 40DD now.. they get bigger and bigger.. I got those after I quit smoking.. I was a 34C ... but I've been a 32A for a looong time.. my small breasts never bothered me though.. I could have just about any man I wanted. I have an advice though.. if they really bother you in the bedroom.. you can make them 'look' much bigger with those new bras with the emongus padding..that will give you the illusion of having 38DD..when, in fact you're only 32A... they give you such nice cleavage... try one.. sexy bra and sexy thong.. check the VS catalogue.. they have nice affordable stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
sandrawg Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I have an advice though.. if they really bother you in the bedroom.. you can make them 'look' much bigger with those new bras with the emongus padding..that will give you the illusion of having 38DD..when, in fact you're only 32A... they give you such nice cleavage... try one.. sexy bra and sexy thong.. check the VS catalogue.. they have nice affordable stuff. There are some good, really inexpensive lingerie websites, too, like yandy.com. Put on some sexy thigh-hi's, and a nice push up bra, and a thong...light some candles in the room...tell the guy what you want to do to him...omg, your man will go NUTS. Trust me. And you won't be worrying about your chest size! Neither will he! Link to post Share on other sites
bobdole Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Another vote for a man that doesn't like fake boobs here. I do prefer them to have a little substance, but an A cup is still fine with me. My main turn on is the nipples. I like small areola's w/ "perky" nips. Just my particular tastes and that style is general more common on smaller boobs. Link to post Share on other sites
BentSpine Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Are you of ideal body shape? No. Do you still have a good enough body to be a keeper? Probably. Link to post Share on other sites
imonyourside Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Look, I know exactly how you feel. But you're little "peach butt" is something I dream of. I have a flat ass and I have been working out hard just to have something there. It's nearly impossible!! And it really sucks because my guy is an ass man. I often wonder why he is with me, I'm like opposite of what he wants sexually. I hope this shows you - people are always complaining about SOMETHING. If you had a worse flaw, I think the small boobs would mean nothing to you. I know what I'm talking about. Try having stretch marks, visible veiny legs, a flat ass, and a flat chest! I Mean I think I have it much worse than you do. I hope you just learn that you can't worry your whole life about your tiny flaws. I know you want to please your man with a big chest, I'd like to please my man with a big fat ass but I have no such thing! Just be thankful for what you DO have! Apparently you are a very pretty girl, and thats a huge plus no matter what your body type. Link to post Share on other sites
Potatocakes Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Me and you are actually in the EXACT same position. Baby = nice boobies but now thats pretty much faded. I have a curvy body too that my guy loves I'm not self concious about it though I guess because none of his ex's had big breasts so I dont feel like thats what he wants. From what I hear fake boobs are a big turn off for guys and I think it would be even more of a turn off if you let it show how self conscious it makes you. Unless he's actually said something to you about it like if he missed your bigger boobs I wouldnt let it bother me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Just remember that we are more than the sum of our 'parts', and to paraphrase forrest gump.... sexy is as sexy does.......... Link to post Share on other sites
hotpinklove85 Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 I can understand that small breasts make you feel uncomfortable.. but at least you can wear just about anything that is trendy ... and 'layers'... I can't.. my breasts are waaayyyy too big.. 40DD now.. they get bigger and bigger.. I got those after I quit smoking.. I was a 34C ... but I've been a 32A for a looong time.. my small breasts never bothered me though.. I could have just about any man I wanted. I have an advice though.. if they really bother you in the bedroom.. you can make them 'look' much bigger with those new bras with the emongus padding..that will give you the illusion of having 38DD..when, in fact you're only 32A... they give you such nice cleavage... try one.. sexy bra and sexy thong.. check the VS catalogue.. they have nice affordable stuff. I agree, I wish mine were WAY smaller. It is so much harder to find tops or even bras that fit well. I have a 38DD and I get so tired of the attention they create. Be thankful that later on in life you are still going to perky when all the girls like me are going to have boobs that sag to our waist (now Im depressed) Link to post Share on other sites
beautifullove Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 I would go as far as saying I'm flat chested, but I would like a little more to even out my figure. When I was growing up I did ballet, tap, modern, gymnastics, and windsurfing. So I think that may have slightly affected my growth in that area. I understand how you feel. So start saving, because that's what I'm going to do! lol. Actually, I may wait until I've had a couple of children. Link to post Share on other sites
ArousalMan Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Be comfortable with yourself because you are what you are. You shouldn't be interested in any guy who thinks 'less' of you because of your size, anyway...the beauty here is that those guys who think boob size is REALLY important to them will stay away, helping you to avoid them in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
45Reverse Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Small tits are way sexy... Link to post Share on other sites
Grrlish Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 I can't claim to really understand. Same as I can't understand all of these women getting boob jobs. But that's probably because I've always had large breasts. In my early 40s, I'm now a 32DD. As someone else said, they keep getting bigger as I get older (even though the rest of me is still small). However, I will say that I always envied those gals in step class or on the jogging path who could wear little tanks without bras while I was wearing two jog bras - and still trying to ignore the fact that I was bouncing away. I actually can hardly find bras that fit well. If most of it fits, the wires are jamming me in the ribs. After a 'D', they often quite making the circumference down to a 32 so either the cup is too small or the 'around' is too big. Clothes...jeez...don't even get me started. I'm a 32DD on top and a 3 or so on the bottom. If a dress fits from the waist down, it's usually too small on the top. If it fits on the top, it's a tent on the bottom. Forget about button-up blouses. Forget about going without a bra, especially as you get older. Forget about buying a bikini that fits well unless you can buy the two pieces separately. You have NO idea what a pain it is to buy clothes. Cleavage at work...I have to make sure that every top or dress I wear does not show much cleavage (or any with most of my clients) but still looks stylish and feminine and attractive. Anything that shows much upper chest is almost certain to show cleavage. Love your modest boobs, gals. Regardless of the above, I love my large ones. God made us all different. Most importantly: You are not your boobs! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 On-topic, not all men care about substantial breasts. KBM, this is the second thread about your concern about breast size, that I recall. While I don't believe in cosmetic surgery for myself, maybe you should consider it if it's that big a deal to you. Off-topic, for those substantial chested women, the best way to buy clothing is to increase the size and then have it tailor-fitted from below the chest on down. This way, you won't either be falling out of your clothing or totally ruining the cut/line of the outfit. It will also emphasize your shapeliness, if it's properly tapered. I do this for all my suits because sometimes, even though I've got an average size chest, there's pull or draping problems. Also, I hate feeling restricted, so I like a touch of extra room on the back of the suit for the shoulders. I absolutely hate that line from shoulder to shoulder, across the back of a jacket from pull. Link to post Share on other sites
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