pinksugah Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 I would like to keep my question direct and simple. Is it possible for a doctor to date a patient under any circumstances? I have had a surgery lately and developed a huge crush on the Professor's assistant, who's also a medical doctor. I live in another country and left the hospital already. Is it ever possible for us to get together. I am asking this since I did not want to initiate anything especially that he has a gf in the current time. Is there any hope in the future? Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 I dont see why not! If this isnt a work relationship then I say go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Are you in the US? It really depends on state licensing boards. I work in dentistry and there is nothing that addresses these situations in our ethics agreements. The woman whose job I replaced dated a couple of our patients, LOL. It is important to note that they asked HER out, not the other way around. However, in Washington state, there is actually a law that states that people who work in the healthcare industry cannot date patients or even FORMER patients for at least two years after the last professional contact. I think that is ludicrous. So some guy comes into your office to get his teeth cleaned. He thinks the hygienist is cute. His insurance changes and he goes to a new dentist. Then he bumps into her at a party, sparks fly, next thing you know.....well technically she cannot date him for two years. She could lose her license. Too much government power anyone....? That just seems ridiculous to me. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 I would like to keep my question direct and simple. Is it possible for a doctor to date a patient under any circumstances? I have had a surgery lately and developed a huge crush on the Professor's assistant, who's also a medical doctor. I live in another country and left the hospital already. Is it ever possible for us to get together. I am asking this since I did not want to initiate anything especially that he has a gf in the current time. Is there any hope in the future? I'd say that is what makes the possibility an impossibility at the moment. It's not unethical in this situation, he's not your primary doctor or therapist... How would you see him again if you live in seperate countries though? Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Is it possible for a doctor to date a patient under any circumstances?... developed a huge crush on the Professor's assistant, who's also a medical doctor. I think your question should be more like, do you think there is a snowball's chance in hell that a doctor who saw me might be interested in me? And not about his policy about dating.. The chances for that to happen are about zero. Doctors and in demand. Link to post Share on other sites
Amiss Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Ariadne may sound harsh ,but she has a point! Doctors are also used to patients developing crushes on them. In the UK , a Dr can be struck off for having a relationship with a patient. If he lives in a different country and has a partner , shouldn't you just try to forget him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksugah Posted August 2, 2008 Author Share Posted August 2, 2008 Are you in the US? No I'm not. And he's European by the way, and not from the UK. Thank you for explaining things to me. I hope that this isn't the case over there. How would you see him again if you live in seperate countries though? We'll things are not very clear to me at this point, but we're in touch with each other and he's planning to visit me soon. The other thing that i'm working on is an MBA in Europe and very possibly in the country in which he lives if things progressed between us. I think your question should be more like' date=' do you think there is a snowball's chance in hell that a doctor who saw me might be interested in me? [/quote'] We'll that might be true to some extent but I didn't question that myself. I am keeping everything for chances. I think everything happens for a reason and me having that operation wasn't mandatory. I don't even know how to explain anything, everything worked out without much of planning. I know there's more than just dr-patient relationship to it, because we had undeniable chemistry, than some other's commented on. I could tell that it was totally different when we're alone and when someone else was present. He also offered to monitor some other medical issues that are not even related to his field with me. Moreover, I think that the whole different cultures thing is turning him on. The sad thing is that he did not initiate anything other than lot's of gazing, and I wasn't so sure why, apparently the professional issues slipped out of my mind at the time. Ariadne may sound harsh ,but she has a point! Doctors are also used to patients developing crushes on them. In the UK , a Dr can be struck off for having a relationship with a patient. If he lives in a different country and has a partner , shouldn't you just try to forget him? Well, it is not like my life is going to stop until we're together. I was just considering my options. Again, we're in touch and he might visit me sometime soon, and I can return the visit or even live there for a while. Things are not very clear at the moment. The purpose of asking this question is to explore my possibilities and whether I should initiate anything or show more interest in him, YKWIM? Link to post Share on other sites
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 So you are corresponding with him? When you say he is going to visit, is he coming to visit you specifically or is he coming to your country for some other reason? I personally think that if he is interested, he won't make any bold moves first because of the profesional obligation. If you want something to happen it will be up to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Amiss Posted August 3, 2008 Share Posted August 3, 2008 I think it is time to ascertain what his feelings are so you know what to do next. Are you sure you aren't misreading signals? You say your life isn't about to stop ,but in another sentence talk about being able to live with him for a bit if something did happen. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 3, 2008 Share Posted August 3, 2008 I am asking this since I did not want to initiate anything especially that he has a gf in the current time. I would go ahead and move, live your life. Don't go after him, he has a girlfriend. I guess I don't get the point of thinking of a future with him, or even consider living with him to see if it'll work when he has someone in his life right now... Reguardless if he is flirting with you or giving you hints - He's not available. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksugah Posted August 3, 2008 Author Share Posted August 3, 2008 I would go ahead and move, live your life. Don't go after him, he has a girlfriend. I guess I don't get the point of thinking of a future with him, or even consider living with him to see if it'll work when he has someone in his life right now... Reguardless if he is flirting with you or giving you hints - He's not available. Well, I am currently seeing someone at the moment too, but I don't see a future with them. All I'm thinking about is that I want to have a shot at something different that what I would normally go for. And who knows he might have the same thing going on in his life too, because honestly I think that if you like someone very much, especially if you're seriously intending to commit to them, then you'd never ever flirt with anyone even if you're not gonna meet them for the rest of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksugah Posted August 3, 2008 Author Share Posted August 3, 2008 I think it is time to ascertain what his feelings are so you know what to do next. Are you sure you aren't misreading signals? You say your life isn't about to stop ,but in another sentence talk about being able to live with him for a bit if something did happen. Misreading signals is always a possibility. And that sentence where I talked about studying in his home country is assuming that he initiated something or that we started dating each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksugah Posted August 3, 2008 Author Share Posted August 3, 2008 So you are corresponding with him? When you say he is going to visit, is he coming to visit you specifically or is he coming to your country for some other reason? He said something like he'll be passing for a couple of days before going to his original destination... " I'll come and visit," he said to me before leaving and I might also go back there after 6 months or so to make a mini follow-up operation of necessary. I personally think that if he is interested, he won't make any bold moves first because of the profesional obligation. If you want something to happen it will be up to you. That's what I am thinking too... I should have said something but I just didn't have the courage!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 3, 2008 Share Posted August 3, 2008 because honestly I think that if you like someone very much, especially if you're seriously intending to commit to them, then you'd never ever flirt with anyone even if you're not gonna meet them for the rest of your life. Then break up with your boyfriend. But, by doing that, doesn't give you the right to interfer in this other guys life, especially since he has a girlfriend, and from what it sounds like, this is a one sided crush.. assuming that he initiated something or that we started dating each other. So, he hasn't actually said the words to you , We might date someday.. This is all you assuming? Link to post Share on other sites
waleen Posted August 9, 2008 Share Posted August 9, 2008 It is true. It is not actually law, but the docter has a code of ethics that he or she must follow. Here os the Ontario Surgeons Policy. I'm sure BC has a similar one. n lastly, The law doesn't cover who can date who. It is the College of Physicians, and they are the ones who license the doctor. There is a 1 year waiting period after the doctor patient relationship ends, before any romantic relationship begins. It is not illegal, but each doctor has sworn to abide by these rules. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksugah Posted August 12, 2008 Author Share Posted August 12, 2008 It is true. It is not actually law, but the docter has a code of ethics that he or she must follow. Here os the Ontario Surgeons Policy. I'm sure BC has a similar one. n lastly, The law doesn't cover who can date who. It is the College of Physicians, and they are the ones who license the doctor. There is a 1 year waiting period after the doctor patient relationship ends, before any romantic relationship begins. It is not illegal, but each doctor has sworn to abide by these rules. Thanks Waleen!! that's exactly the answer I want to hear!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 Maybe you should end your relationship first before planning out your future with this guy who has a girlfriend and hasn't broken up with her. WHO says he is going to dump her for you? Has he implied this or is it wishful thinking on your behalf? Link to post Share on other sites
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