tkgirl Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 I swear, the older I get the LESS I understand men! or maybe I'm just reading too many "relationship" type books but.. here's my question... neediness and men.. what is too much and what is not enough? I can get why a guy would be put off if you called him constantly, or even were available every time he called and asked you out... the whole "desperate" thing. But then if you play it too cool it seems like they may think you don't care.. that guys really do want to feel a little "needed", which also makes sense. But how do you find that perfect balance? Like this guys I've been sort of seeing... I've been playing it sooo cool, letting him contact me etc. and it seemed to "work" but not guite enough So then I decided to give this "I need you" type of thing a try... of course I didn't say that to him but.. what I did do was in an email I sent to him earlier this week I wrote "miss ya!" at the end of it (it had been a little while since I saw him last) Right after I sent it I immediately felt weird about it.. like I shouldn't have said that.. it was too soon etc. Well, he responded right away and then asked me out for this weekend! I was pleasantly surprised... but more confused than ever! I don't know... guess I just needed to rant a bit... thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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