My ex says she wants to get back together!

[WiseOne1]

I talked to my ex today, and she normally starts the conversation like do you wanna talk to me? And I said of ourse, why not, she says she thought I didnt want to talk to her because of her having a new bf.

 

I told her yea and I told her that I think her and him are meant to betogether, and I told her that im proud she moved on.

I learned this from a relationship book, that you should act ok with the break up.!!!!!!!

 

And she started talking about her committing sucide and started saying how she wants to cry, she said she feels so sad.

So I told her I was at the movies last night and she kept asking me "With Who?" over and over again.

 

I told her what girl I was dating and she just keep talking to herself saying, why do I feel so sad? And she says this is so ****ed up!

She kept trying to make me feel bad by talking about her ex BF and everytime she said something I sounded and acted happy for her, and she really got angry and started to insult me.

 

At the end she kept asking me if I wanted her to call me and I kept saying "If you want to" and she was like no give me a yes or no, I said I dont care, call me if you want, and she said she would call me when she gets off of work.

 

Hours later-----------

 

So last night, I was looking like Mase as usual. I tryed a couple of hints from a relationship book.

 

I agreed with the breakup and told her that was the best thing we could have done, and I also told her im over her.

So we were about to do it, because was always had this strong sexual chemistry, and I told her that we shouldnt because I have a GF and she has a BF, she started to cry and said soooo she wanted me back.

 

We talked about getting back together, and she says she just misses how things were between us.

She started to get really really angry and aggravated that I had moved on.

 

So we did it, and she says shes breaking up with her bf. Then she actually said she loved me, she says all of her feelings came back from along time ago.

[tommiw]

This is very nice to hear. I just hope you'll feel great after all this (don't take her back because of your hormones or guilt)

 

But now I'm starting to get interested on that book you have. What is the name of it? Seems like it worked like a charm (I know that most of the stuff that is in there is found over here, but I'm still interested).

[WiseOne1]

This is very nice to hear. I just hope you'll feel great after all this (don't take her back because of your hormones or guilt)

 

But now I'm starting to get interested on that book you have. What is the name of it? Seems like it worked like a charm (I know that most of the stuff that is in there is found over here, but I'm still interested).

 

http://www.magicofmakingup.com/?hop=shadows01

 

^^^^^

I didnt even order the whole book, I got the sample and read all of the free advice of dos and donts, and dang, I didnt even need the whole book. I was just about to buy the book tommorrow and look what happened.

 

I know she was acting very strange, she was way to friendly, I cant believe that book got my ex back in 1 day, we been broken up for 5 months. I cant believe all the plotting and begging and crying I did.

 

The book is bassically about doing the opposite, if she talks about her bf, talk about him even more!

If she says she likes him tell her you think her and him should get married!

 

If she says shes over you, tell her I think you deserved someone better than me anyway!

 

Gosh

[tommiw]

http://www.magicofmakingup.com/?hop=shadows01

 

^^^^^

I didnt even order the whole book, I got the sample and read all of the free advice of dos and donts, and dang, I didnt even need the whole book. I was just about to buy the book tommorrow and look what happened.

 

I know she was acting very strange, she was way to friendly, I cant believe that book got my ex back in 1 day, we been broken up for 5 months. I cant believe all the plotting and begging and crying I did.

 

The book is bassically about doing the opposite, if she talks about her bf, talk about him even more!

If she says she likes him tell her you think her and him should get married!

 

If she says shes over you, tell her I think you deserved someone better than me anyway!

 

Gosh

Nice, Thanks! But what samples do you mean? I only saw that one video.

[WiseOne1]

Nice, Thanks! But what samples do you mean? I only saw that one video.

 

I had him send me a sample, I emailed him on youtube.

 

Steps From the sample were :

 

1. Pretend your okay with the breakup.

 

2. Agree with her when she says bad things about your relationship.

 

3. Act as if you think her current bf is a better person than you.

 

4. Tell her you've moved on.

 

5. Dont disclose any information about your current new gf "If if you really dont have one".

 

6. Admit to the mistakes you made during the relationship and say im gonna treat her better than I treated you, Im not gonna make the same mistakes, I cant lose her.

 

7. When she ask do you want to be contacted back, always say whatever or its up to you, never say yes!

 

 

Those are the sample steps that he emailed me.^^^^^ Its Reverse Physiology

I deleted the email earlier today because I started to think to myself this junk will never work. I actually gave up on me and my ex, she had stopped calling me and I was doing all the contacting. She had told me that she loved her new bf wayy more than me and would never leave him.

 

You really should also read the page, the page bassically has alot of steps and dos and donts also.

[cookiecrumbles]

yea its really amazing how all these games you play with peoples heads work...its all about power!

but congratulations, if its meant to be i hope it works out!

[Faded]

:\ you guys both cheated in your SO's at the time? ..

[WiseOne1]

:\ you guys both cheated in your SO's at the time? ..

 

huh? I did no cheating, she just kept cheating on her current bf with me. She always cried after, because she said she would have never done that to me.

 

Im like well hes really not Mr. WrestleMania like me, but that was all.

[BackonTrack]

WiseOne,

I remember reading your story regarding your breakup with your ex & how she was acting. I must say that wow I didn't think you were going to get her back. But since you guys were still in communication I suppose you had that chance.

 

I haven't talk to my ex in a little over 5 months, she was acting JUST HOW your ex was acting at first. But I said screw this & told her to shove off.

She doesn't pick up my calls now

 

I don't think I'm going to see or talk to her for a very long time.

 

Infact I just woke up today thinking to myself, she liked the new guy more.

[WiseOne1]

WiseOne,

I remember reading your story regarding your breakup with your ex & how she was acting. I must say that wow I didn't think you were going to get her back. But since you guys were still in communication I suppose you had that chance.

 

I haven't talk to my ex in a little over 5 months, she was acting JUST HOW your ex was acting at first. But I said screw this & told her to shove off.

She doesn't pick up my calls now

 

I don't think I'm going to see or talk to her for a very long time.

 

Infact I just woke up today thinking to myself, she liked the new guy more.

 

 

God, I dont know what happened, she told me atlest 40 times that she doesnt love me, and she said its over for good and I never want to be with you again, lets just be friends forever.

 

She told me that she could never get her feelings back for me, she said I had damaged them. She told me over and over to move on, and once I did, the **** hit the field.

[xjohnsgirlx]

I am a bit confused, you say you didnt cheat, but you both had a bf/gf at the time? anyways not my question. What im curious on is why are you going back to her?... you say in your post that you have strong sexual chemistry which is great, but do you love her? because you then go on to say how she gets so angry and aggravated...but says she loves you. Is this someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, is it worth all of this trouble. Just seems as though she is putting on a bit of an act the way you describe things... i could be wrong though, just my opinion. ~cherie

[WiseOne1]

I am a bit confused, you say you didnt cheat, but you both had a bf/gf at the time? anyways not my question. What im curious on is why are you going back to her?... you say in your post that you have strong sexual chemistry which is great, but do you love her? because you then go on to say how she gets so angry and aggravated...but says she loves you. Is this someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, is it worth all of this trouble. Just seems as though she is putting on a bit of an act the way you describe things... i could be wrong though, just my opinion. ~cherie

 

Well I actually dont have a Gf, she has the new BF. Me and her always had sexual chemistry, so in our past relationships like 3 or 4 years before we hooked up. We always had that sexual energy for eachother, and always did thing.....Ya Know.....

 

I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

[WiseOne1]

To refresh everyone on what happened'

 

Me and her were best friends 5 years before we started dating eachother, we hooked up and we argued alot because I felt that she was always picking her family or friends or sometimes ex bfs over me. So we always argued and our relationship became damaged.

 

We dated 1 year and 2 months, and she broke up with me saying she just doesnt feel the same way anymore. She said she doesnt love me anymore, and thinks we should go back to being friends.

I tried 4 months str8 to get her back, and she got a new BF, this was the guy thats been trying to hook up with her even while we were friends, but she never gave him a chance until now.

 

She told me over and over that I should move on, and she picked him over me 3 times, she says she might never love me again, and she didnt want to leave him for me, because the grass might not be greener on the other side.

 

We went 5 days of NC, and she called today, and I started using advice from a book, I agreed with the breakup and told her I was over her. She then started saying she felt weird.

 

Last night she started crying and telling me how much she loves me, and she wants us to get back together.

[xjohnsgirlx]

=) okay well good luck with that. Just seems wierd if she always had such feelings for you why was she with another guy ?

[WiseOne1]

=) okay well good luck with that. Just seems wierd if she always had such feelings for you why was she with another guy ?

 

 

Thats exactly what I asked her, she says she didnt know how much she loved me, until I started to date other girls. And she says she thought all her feelings were gone, and they came back.

[BackonTrack]

Man scratch that last post.

I remember reading your post & how you said "Its either me or him" and how you tried making her change her mind, I remember reading them.

 

And now your here saying because of reverse physcology and that e-book you got her back.

 

She loves you, she knows it now, she won't risk losing you again if you take her back.

 

Good Job on that one.

I think the difference between me & you is the fact that

a) u stayed in communication

b) your ex still loved you.

 

I haven't heard from my ex in 5 months, except once 3 months ago when she said "I was harassing her & she's in a serious relationship & she is not going to mess it up"

[WiseOne1]

Man scratch that last post.

I remember reading your post & how you said "Its either me or him" and how you tried making her change her mind, I remember reading them.

 

And now your here saying because of reverse physcology and that e-book you got her back.

 

She loves you, she knows it now, she won't risk losing you again if you take her back.

 

Good Job on that one.

I think the difference between me & you is the fact that

a) u stayed in communication

b) your ex still loved you.

 

Your right NC doesnt always help. And I dont think she loved me, she told me to many times and her actions even showed that she didnt love me anymore. I think her feelings just came back.

 

Yea I asked her to choose me or him and all 3 times she choose him. It was the E Book, the E book said dont believe that you can get your ex back in a day or in hours.

 

The E Book said it takes weeks or months, and I got her back in 6 hours. It was the Reverse physcology.

 

But I got a message to anyone, no matter what the ex says, and how they promise they will never want you back! It doesnt matter, thats exactly what the book said, it was that no case is impossible.

 

Dude if you call your ex, and use the 1st step, and say

"I Agree That A Breakup was the best thing" You ex would come back to.

 

And your ex told you she was in a relationship and didnt want to mess it up?

[badbrit]

But your ex stayed in contact and continued to have sex with you, correct?

 

Or said conflicting things? Showed interest at times. She was never a closed door was she? She was never like, "stay away" and just trying to get on with life and wanted you out of her life. I am going to read your old posts but I am quite sure that yeah this worked from the book but because the interest was already there.

[WiseOne1]

But your ex stayed in contact and continued to have sex with you, correct?

 

Or said conflicting things? Showed interest at times. She was never a closed door was she? She was never like, "stay away" and just trying to get on with life and wanted you out of her life. I am going to read your old posts but I am quite sure that yeah this worked from the book but because the interest was already there.

 

Well we were friends 5 years before we dated, so she figuired it would only be right that we became friends again. At first I wanted NC, but I couldnt do it because I felt even more hurt doing NC.

 

Because then I was losing a friend and a gf. And no the doors were never closed. Although we did go 3 days with NC. I dont think the interest was there what so ever.

 

She told me plenty of times that she likes/loves him wayyy more than she did me, she says she will never leave him, If it was possible its probably due to friendship.

[badbrit]

Yeah I just skimmed a couple of your own posts. She was always still interested and it was always there for the taking, on June 12th you posted about her having a flip out about you maybe having a new GF and there is plenty of other things that happened.

 

The only change now is at last you learnt how to play her and do the correct actions.

 

I say this as a warning to others. This book, these tactics, they only work if the love is still there and they are actually still in love and it just needs some little tactics like this to spin it around.

 

Everyone else needs to work out if the ex is really done because if she/he is, you can pull all the tricks out of the books and they will have zero affect.

[WiseOne1]

Yeah I just skimmed a couple of your own posts. She was always still interested and it was always there for the taking, on June 12th you posted about her having a flip out about you maybe having a new GF and there is plenty of other things that happened.

 

The only change now is at last you learnt how to play her and do the correct actions.

 

I say this as a warning to others. This book, these tactics, they only work if the love is still there and they are actually still in love and it just needs some little tactics like this to spin it around.

 

Everyone else needs to work out if the ex is really done because if she/he is, you can pull all the tricks out of the books and they will have zero affect.

 

True, its just that I think she seen me as a purely friend. Last night was the first time her saying "she loved me" in 5 months.

[badbrit]

Well we were friends 5 years before we dated, so she figuired it would only be right that we became friends again. At first I wanted NC, but I couldnt do it because I felt even more hurt doing NC.

 

Because then I was losing a friend and a gf. And no the doors were never closed. Although we did go 3 days with NC. I dont think the interest was there what so ever.

 

She told me plenty of times that she likes/loves him wayyy more than she did me, she says she will never leave him, If it was possible its probably due to friendship.

 

 

 

First, I am pleased for you BIG TIME, totally, but had you actually bought the books or others there is one big thing they teach you and that is to ignore what is said and follow actions. It is called the action compass.

 

If she calls and says "I do not love you at all" but then flips out because you may have a new gf then the actions are clearly saying something than the words. I follow the actions and the actions were always clear here. Do not make the mistake of thinking the interest was not there, it was ALWAYS there.

[badbrit]

True, its just that I think she seen me as a purely friend. Last night was the first time her saying "she loved me" in 5 months.

 

 

Again, her words were never in tune with her actions. I am only trying to prevent others gettting some false hope here.

 

Her actions always screamed out that she did love you.

 

Damn man, I could say I do not love my ex but I would crawl over a thousand miles of burning coals just for a kiss (ok, not quite). So are my words of not loving her true?

 

Really man, forget words, follow actions and be a bit smarter. All her actions have been telling the truth for quite a long time, as I said, the only difference is at last you played it right.

 

I suggest you actually buy these books if you want to keep her as you only have a grasp of the basics if you do not understand what I am telling you because if you really think there "was nothing there...she did not love me....did not care....did not want me" then you are going to lose her again pretty quick. I say that with total sincerity and with total best wishes for you to continue succeeding.

[BackonTrack]

 

Dude if you call your ex, and use the 1st step, and say

"I Agree That A Breakup was the best thing" You ex would come back to.

 

And your ex told you she was in a relationship and didnt want to mess it up?

 

The thing is, my ex moved on in her head & didn't tell me and decieded to be with someone else. I was back & forth on tra vel & hadn't really noticed anything, except her getting distant & wouldn't want to come over but i thought it was a phase & would past. We would hang out, I had sex with her a few times, here & there and I knew she still loved me though.

 

EItherway her BF came over & told me about the cheating and i went really crazy, broke up etc etc, eventually though I realize she wasn't coming back & called her one day, I broke down, then I sent her email stating lets work it out and after this email she told me to never contact her again etc etc so now we are not in communication.

 

 

but i am happy for you, that you got your ex back.

 

Its funny, I just woke up today thinking about her, these days though the initial thoughts only last a few minutes, before it use to last a few hours upon waking up. Its getting less & less as time goes on.

[WiseOne1]

Guys, I was just talking to my ex, and she says she was sure she was over me, she says all her feelings just came back.

 

Now her actions did speak louder than words, but she picked her current bf over me 3 times. So I dont know

 

The book said there are only 2 reasons to stay friends with your ex.

1. Kids

2. Friends before the relationship.

 

She just use to say over and over again, that she liked me "LIKED" but she says it would never work. And she says theres no way that shes gonna leave her current bf.

 

She said that what if she leaves and the grass isnt greener? Lol

 

Guys!!!! (Isnt that what LS was built on?) Wasnt it built on people leaving because they thought the grass was greener>

 

But she says no, because then she would be left with no one.

 

I understand what you guys are saying but I think she didnt care about me and her 1%