lovestruck818 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 To some extent that is true...however this is not a ring that you can just put away when you want. She will have to wear this ring on her finger everyday for the rest of her life. She may be alright with a less then satisfactory ring for a little while because she is happy he proposed to her, but if she doesn't like the style at all it will bother her more and more the more she wears it. My H picked mine out with careful thought about what styles I tend to already wear. The fact that he paid such close attention to my tastes just touched my heart. I know my thought-processes are very different than a lot of people on this board...but there is just so much more to be concerned with than a dumb ring. Maybe I am this way b/c of how I have been treated by guys in the past, but honestly, people...whether or not I like the ring my guy picks out or not, bottom line is- it's a connotation and a significance of him wanting to spend the rest of his life with me...and b/c of that, I think that is what makes a ring pretty...what it signifies...not the actualy physicalities therein. (I'm aware you all probably think I'm nuts...) Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I know my thought-processes are very different than a lot of people on this board...but there is just so much more to be concerned with than a dumb ring. Maybe I am this way b/c of how I have been treated by guys in the past, but honestly, people...whether or not I like the ring my guy picks out or not, bottom line is- it's a connotation and a significance of him wanting to spend the rest of his life with me...and b/c of that, I think that is what makes a ring pretty...what it signifies...not the actualy physicalities therein. (I'm aware you all probably think I'm nuts...) I don't think you are nuts at all. I think it's very sweet for a guy to take it upon himself to pick something that important out. And you are totally right, the fact that your bf picked it out and proposed to you with it makes it beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I don't think you are nuts at all. I think it's very sweet for a guy to take it upon himself to pick something that important out. And you are totally right, the fact that your bf picked it out and proposed to you with it makes it beautiful. hah- well no we haven't gotten to that pt yet, but when he does, I'll love anything he gets me...and I would be the luckiest girl in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 hah- well no we haven't gotten to that pt yet, but when he does, I'll love anything he gets me...and I would be the luckiest girl in the world. Well, when I said "you" I was talking hypothetically, but yeah you will def. be the luckiest girl in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 But if he gave me the most ugly ring in the whole world I would love it and wear it the rest of my life. I would NEVER tell him that I didn't like the ring or take it back. He was thoughtful enough to buy one and make it a surprise. I know my thought-processes are very different than a lot of people on this board...but there is just so much more to be concerned with than a dumb ring. Maybe I am this way b/c of how I have been treated by guys in the past, but honestly, people...whether or not I like the ring my guy picks out or not, bottom line is- it's a connotation and a significance of him wanting to spend the rest of his life with me...and b/c of that, I think that is what makes a ring pretty...what it signifies...not the actualy physicalities therein. (I'm aware you all probably think I'm nuts...) I truly understand what you are saying but don't underestimate what monstrosities some men will buy. come on would you really be ok wearing this thing for the rest of your life??? http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C21260904%7C15064%7C15064.15121.17106 I mean it is soooo huge that you can't ignore it's ugliness. Back when I managed a jewelry store I saw women come in with this type of thing on their finger begging for me to tactfully point out to their fiance that they could trade to another ring(some men thought it was pretty:eek:). would you really where it or would you ask him to trade it for something more like this? http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C990417103%7C15051%7C15051.15057.15107 honestly think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I truly understand what you are saying but don't underestimate what monstrosities some men will buy. come on would you really be ok wearing this thing for the rest of your life??? http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C21260904%7C15064%7C15064.15121.17106 I mean it is soooo huge that you can't ignore it's ugliness. Back when I managed a jewelry store I saw women come in with this type of thing on their finger begging for me to tactfully point out to their fiance that they could trade to another ring(some men thought it was pretty:eek:). would you really where it or would you ask him to trade it for something more like this? http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C990417103%7C15051%7C15051.15057.15107 honestly think about it. That is ugly, and ok I might try to hide it while in public, but b/c it came from him, I would love it anyway and know that even if my ring is ugly, I would be eternally getting a great man out of it...and to me is greater than anything in the entire world. (yes, I'm a huge sap and cannot wait to get married!) Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 That is ugly, and ok I might try to hide it while in public, but b/c it came from him, I would love it anyway and know that even if my ring is ugly, I would be eternally getting a great man out of it...and to me is greater than anything in the entire world. (yes, I'm a huge sap and cannot wait to get married!) Oh..OK. Well I suppose you could always do the "first anniversary upgrade" that women do to get rid of ugly rings like that, if you were forced to deal with that type of monstrosity.LOL . But truthfully I think most men want to know that you genuinely love your ring and urge you to be truthful in case you want to trade it, when it isn't an issue of a too cheap ring...just an issue of an ugly ring. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 That is ugly, and ok I might try to hide it while in public, but b/c it came from him, I would love it anyway and know that even if my ring is ugly, I would be eternally getting a great man out of it...and to me is greater than anything in the entire world. (yes, I'm a huge sap and cannot wait to get married!) They are both kind of ugly, and I agree that I would probably try to hide that. I would never make my bf feel bad about it though. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I truly understand what you are saying but don't underestimate what monstrosities some men will buy. come on would you really be ok wearing this thing for the rest of your life??? http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C21260904%7C15064%7C15064.15121.17106 I mean it is soooo huge that you can't ignore it's ugliness. Back when I managed a jewelry store I saw women come in with this type of thing on their finger begging for me to tactfully point out to their fiance that they could trade to another ring(some men thought it was pretty:eek:). would you really where it or would you ask him to trade it for something more like this? http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C990417103%7C15051%7C15051.15057.15107 honestly think about it. Eeeekkkk to the first ring. Even the second ring is way too ostentatious for my taste. Simple and elegant is more my taste, like solitaires, regardless of size of stone. Even a 0.10 carat solitaire is preferable to any multi-stone arrangement. Having said that, as another member mentions, it's also reliant on the size and structure of your hand. If you have large hands, a 0.10 solitaire will look like a pinky ring on your hands. Now...having said all this...if I really wanted to spend my life with someone, the ring itself can easily be replaced and reset in the future, once the first blush of romanticism dissolves to a deeper, more intense love. And no, I wouldn't expect an SO of mine to pay for this too! Also, if it's a family heirloom, I would wear it with pride, regardless of how ugly it was. Link to post Share on other sites
SnapCracklePop Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I agree with the solitaire being a "can't go wrong" choice. Not only that, you get more for your $$ too. Part of its beauty is the simplicity. You want to go for a well cut diamond. It will reflect light better and give it that fire and sparkle. A whiter diamond is also more attractive. As far as carat, you'll get a whole variety of opinions. I would think that larger diamonds would catch and tear clothing (sleeves, gloves, pockets, etc.) As I recall, a 0.5 to 1 carat diamond is a nice size. The band - for solitaires, I think this style has always looked nice: http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1|10101|10001|-1|150883609|15051|15051.15057.15106 Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I agree with the solitaire being a "can't go wrong" choice. Not only that, you get more for your $$ too. Part of its beauty is the simplicity. You want to go for a well cut diamond. It will reflect light better and give it that fire and sparkle. A whiter diamond is also more attractive. As far as carat, you'll get a whole variety of opinions. I would think that larger diamonds would catch and tear clothing (sleeves, gloves, pockets, etc.) As I recall, a 0.5 to 1 carat diamond is a nice size. The band - for solitaires, I think this style has always looked nice: http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1|10101|10001|-1|150883609|15051|15051.15057.15106 Ooooohhh yeah, thats the ring I want but with 1 carat. I'm droppin hints for that one, even though my bf probably doesn't know what a solitaire is! lol I like this one: http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1|10101|10001|-1|150851602|15051|15051.15057.15106 Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Catching on clothing isn't a problem, regardless of size. My solitaire was quite substantial and never caught on anything. It's reliant on the setting and the shape of the diamond. The higher the setting and rougher the claws, the more likely the ring will catch or be damaged. Also, diamonds with rounded edges don't catch. It's when you get into marquis, etc, that you can see wear and tear on clothing, if you're not careful. Worse case scenario is for the claw to catch and you lose the stone. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Catching on clothing isn't a problem, regardless of size. My solitaire was quite substantial and never caught on anything. It's reliant on the setting and the shape of the diamond. The higher the setting and rougher the claws, the more likely the ring will catch or be damaged. Also, diamonds with rounded edges don't catch. It's when you get into marquis, etc, that you can see wear and tear on clothing, if you're not careful. Worse case scenario is for the claw to catch and you lose the stone. So is round cut more substantial then? What cut is the diamond? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 So is round cut more substantial then? What cut is the diamond?Round cut is less likely to catch, reliant on claws and setting. The cut I had was a square cut but from what I understood, my ex had the jeweller take a bit of edge off on the corners of the stone. You can see that the corners aren't as square, if you use a magnifying glass. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Round cut is less likely to catch, reliant on claws and setting. The cut I had was a square cut but from what I understood, my ex had the jeweller take a bit of edge off on the corners of the stone. You can see that the corners aren't as square, if you use a magnifying glass. Oh okay thanks. I hope jewelers clue guys into these things! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Brulee Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Would you show a picture of your ring - it sounds so nice, thankyou Link to post Share on other sites
Brulee Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 vedderbetter - would you post a photo of your ring because it sounds so nice? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 It's now a pendant since one of the first things I did at the cessation of our marriage was to melt it down. The wedding pics have been archived, never to return to the light of day for at least a decade if never! I can't think of another pic where it's well displayed. I could take a pic of the pendant but that defeats the purpose. Edit: Just saw your new post. You're looking for vedderbetter's, not mine! Link to post Share on other sites
vedderbetter Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 This was the model for my stone. The only difference is that mine is just over 3 carats and slightly more blue. I'll see if I can get my digital camera to work. Link to post Share on other sites
vedderbetter Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Oh also - I would be REALLY REALLY REALLY leery of buying ANYTHING from a mall jewerly store chain. You WILL get ripped off and pay more for an inferior product. They can't help it - they have massive overhead paying mall rent and all their adverts. You can get a much better stone going through an independent dealer either in a jewerly district (like the one in LA) or online buying direct from a certified jeweler. Loose stones are cheaper than set stones and usually can be negotiated. ALWAYS have your stone independently appraised before accepting and sending final payment. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Oh also - I would be REALLY REALLY REALLY leery of buying ANYTHING from a mall jewerly store chain. You WILL get ripped off and pay more for an inferior product. They can't help it - they have massive overhead paying mall rent and all their adverts. You can get a much better stone going through an independent dealer either in a jewerly district (like the one in LA) or online buying direct from a certified jeweler. Loose stones are cheaper than set stones and usually can be negotiated. ALWAYS have your stone independently appraised before accepting and sending final payment. Yes they can help it, they just are greedy. You can actually talk them down 30% on any diamond ring, they just don't want to let you know that. When I managed one of those stores, the employee discount was at cost + 5%. When I bought a diamond and tanzanite ring that they had listed for $650...the price I paid was $120. And to imagine they still made a profit off of that. Agreed though about the mall jewelry stores unless you buy when they are having a jeweler diamond show...that is the good stuff. My H got my ring from an incredible Jeweler in Curacao..their stock was breath taking, and he got a good deal because the island was a Dutch island(best diamond deals you can get). My Original ring was from a mall jewelry chain and is beautiful too, but he pulled a Kobe Bryant and upgraded after he had cheated.lol. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Ohh..and about that second ring I left the link for..I was just trying to make a point. Showing two rings that are almost exactly the same price...I wouldn't go for that ring either. But if I had to pick between the two... OK is this better?? http://www.bluenile.com/platinum-diamond-ring_3174?metal_filter=platinum,%20yellow,%20white&setting_filter=sidestone&sort_select=LTHP&show_all_pages=0&set_shape=RD This is a version of my original ring. emerald cut in the middle. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I saw such a pretty ring in the jewelry store today, I couldn't resist trying it on. It's so beautiful! http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1|10101|10001|-1|150851602|15051|15051.15057.15106 Link to post Share on other sites
Beaches Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I wanted my fiance to take the time to choose my ring and see if he knows me and what I like. All I gave him was the type of cut I wanted...Princess and that's it. I didn't want to choose for him, it's his moment of finding a ring that represents you. I don't know I guess I'm a little old fashioned. I thought he did a GREAT job...guess that's why I'm marrying him Most important...make sure it's certified and you have your certificate. You will pay more but at the end of the day you know what you're getting. Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 I saw such a pretty ring in the jewelry store today, I couldn't resist trying it on. It's so beautiful! http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1|10101|10001|-1|150851602|15051|15051.15057.15106 It is, but make sure he gets you a full carat (at least.) Link to post Share on other sites
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