So, I Joined E-Harmony...

[Ally Boo]

Dr. Warren looks like Adam West to me.

 

The only two things I can say about e-harmony is....

 

I "met" a good friend.

 

And I got a letter from them about someone else who was begging to meet me... saying that their account had been closed by e-harmony for reasons they weren't allowed to discuss. Something tells me it wasn't a payment issue. lol

 

On another note, I know a guy who met his woman on e-harmony. Although, if you ask anyone, they don't make a very good match. lol

[motive2002]

It's not so much that I am trying to get over him, but trying to move on with my life, period. Just find someone new, you know? Maybe I should stop trying. I dunno.

 

Don't feel bad, I did the same thing. Tried to date too early and it was an even further blow to my self-esteem, which I really didn't need.

At some point you're gonna say "F this!", with sincerity, and that's when love will once again find you.

[TheSilentType]

How did you meet that Baller person and that bi cop?

 

Maybe go whatever way that was which you used to meet those two

[whichwayisup]

Just find someone new, you know? Maybe I should stop trying. I dunno.

When you're not ready and you go looking for it, it won't come...But, when you're ready and least expecting it, it'll find you......Funny how life works sometimes.

 

Just don't try so hard.

 

Spend time with family, friends and just have fun. You don't "need" a guy to make you feel happy and alive.

[Jilly Bean]

Perhaps you guys are all right. Maybe it IS too soon.

 

Clearly the sh*t isn't happening right now. No matter what I attempt, I'm getting smacked down. Im already feeling crappy, and I just seem to continue to get rejected.

 

NOT good.

 

I just want to move on, not continue to waste time, and just let life continue.

 

I guess Im the only one who gets this. Universe has other plans...

[johan]

Hey, Jilly, you are sure giving this one particular guy who knows absolutely nothing about you a lot of power. Who cares if he thinks there's no chemistry. He wouldn't know good chemistry if he was soaking in it.

 

He did you a favor anyway.

 

And maybe you should slow down a bit. What if you met Mr. Wonderful tomorrow? I kind of think he would be in for a hell of a ride, given your current state of mind. Maybe that's the last thing you need. I think you need some time to let things settle before you start seriously looking.

[Jilly Bean]

Hey, Jilly, you are sure giving this one particular guy who knows absolutely nothing about you a lot of power. Who cares if he thinks there's no chemistry. He wouldn't know good chemistry if he was soaking in it.

 

He did you a favor anyway.

 

And maybe you should slow down a bit. What if you met Mr. Wonderful tomorrow? I kind of think he would be in for a hell of a ride, given your current state of mind. Maybe that's the last thing you need. I think you need some time to let things settle before you start seriously looking.

 

Thanks, hon.

 

You're probably right. I've been a raging lunatic on here lately, haven't I? I was going to start my own pity party thread. lol. Then thought better of it.

 

I just feel really alone. And not very good about myself lately. This is SO not like me, and I am truly struggling with trying to right myself.

[motive2002]

You aren't rejected here Ok maybe that doesn't count, but I think my time and attention is valuable, and you've got both

 

I'm not on e-harmoney though, and I doubt I'm compatible with you in 900 different ways, or whatever hehe.

[Jilly Bean]

You aren't rejected here Ok maybe that doesn't count, but I think my time and attention is valuable, and you've got both

 

I'm not on e-harmoney though, and I doubt I'm compatible with you in 900 different ways, or whatever hehe.

 

Aw, thank you! That means a lot right now, honestly.

 

Actually, I always really appreciate everyone who takes the time to comment on my life.

 

And why are you assuming we're not compatible? Another rejection!!! lol

[johan]

Thanks, hon.

 

You're probably right. I've been a raging lunatic on here lately, haven't I? I was going to start my own pity party thread. lol. Then thought better of it.

 

I just feel really alone. And not very good about myself lately. This is SO not like me, and I am truly struggling with trying to right myself.

 

I haven't noticed any extra lunacy.

 

You've just had a few doses of rejection in various forms. You're taking it too much to heart. Or maybe you are feeling insecure about something you're not really talking about.

 

I will say though that you had a chance to keep your lineman, and you didn't want him. So what he does next is his call. And the conflicted policeman got confusing signals from you. That wasn't going to work, which is probably fine, because nothing good could have come from it anyway.

 

Eharmony is not really a dating site, if you ask me. It's where you go if you're wanting to get serious. You seem to be more in search of a boost than you are a long-term burden.

[Jilly Bean]

I haven't noticed any extra lunacy.

 

You've just had a few doses of rejection in various forms. You're taking it too much to heart. Or maybe you are feeling insecure about something you're not really talking about.

 

I will say though that you had a chance to keep your lineman, and you didn't want him. So what he does next is his call. And the conflicted policeman got confusing signals from you. That wasn't going to work, which is probably fine, because nothing good could have come from it anyway.

 

Eharmony is not really a dating site, if you ask me. It's where you go if you're wanting to get serious. You seem to be more in search of a boost than you are a long-term burden.

 

So, I don't seem anymore insane than usual? Not sure that's a good thing. Or, maybe I'm just hiding it better than I thought. lol

 

Im feeling very unattractive lately. If I told you why, you would think I was a HUGE baby. The women would understand, but to a guy, you'd give me a major eye roll. But yes, good call. There is something going on right now that is making me feel less on my game.

 

I didn't want Baller for the long haul, true. Doesn't change the fact that his whole engagement BS doesn't hurt me. It hurts me to think I hurt him that much, it hurts me to think he was so selfish to NOT care about the memory of us.

 

The cop - well, I DID write him and tell him the ball was in his court. I think he knew very much where I stood, and I think he had a serious change of intentions. Agreed though, nothing good would have come from it, as he is just toxic to pretty much anyone he encounters on a romantic level.

 

I actually am thinking LTR, not long-term "burden". lol

[motive2002]

And why are you assuming we're not compatible? Another rejection!!! lol

Haha.. so easily we twist things to read into our own feelings of self doubt!

 

Im feeling very unattractive lately

Damn, me too. Ok that's one point, 899 to go!

[johan]

Im feeling very unattractive lately. If I told you why, you would think I was a HUGE baby. The women would understand, but to a guy, you'd give me a major eye roll. But yes, good call. There is something going on right now that is making me feel less on my game.

 

So do you want people to be continually missing the mark with their advice, because you never put the real target up there for them to aim at? Let's have it. FYI, I'm already rolling my eyes, you big baby.

[Jilly Bean]

Haha.. so easily we twist things to read into our own feelings of self doubt!

 

 

Damn, me too. Ok that's one point, 899 to go!

 

Well, I'm pretty far down the rabbit hole these days. Trying very hard to dig my way up!

 

I just need to catch a romantic break.

 

Or, as suggested by the gallery, just give up on it for now.

 

And I'm sure we'd find more than our currently self-loathing in common. lol

[Jilly Bean]

So do you want people to be continually missing the mark with their advice, because you never put the real target up there for them to aim at? Let's have it. FYI, I'm already rolling my eyes, you big baby.

 

Because why I'm not feeling good these days has to do with a LOT of things, Johan. It isn't just one. It's MANY that are making me feel down, off my game, and not my usual confident self.

 

The main reasons I have been extremely open about on here, I think.

 

I have been very open about the Baller break-up, and the WHOLE involved bi-cop story and subsequent dismissal. I think most people can relate to feeling kicked down, and therefore it becomes easier to focus on minutae that normally wouldn't even make the radar.

 

Like most people, I can handle isolated hurts and rejections. When they all come at once, I feel overwhelmed with pain, sadness, and feeling despondent. Like right now.

[johan]

I meant I was already rolling my eyes at the thing that only women would understand.

 

I'm sure your pain is real. I've felt it.

[Jilly Bean]

I meant I was already rolling my eyes at the thing that only women would understand.

 

I'm sure your pain is real. I've felt it.

 

I know. It's really minor, and just one of those chick things we complain about that 99% of the people out there never would notice. Trust me - it's inconsequential.

 

Will you please join eharmony so we can be matched and you wont dismiss me? I'd so do it for you.

[motive2002]

And I'm sure we'd find more than our currently self-loathing in common. lol

 

Well, I'll be honest. That's piqued my curiosity

[Jilly Bean]

well, i'll be honest. That's piqued my curiosity

 

lol. 898!!!

[johan]

I know. It's really minor, and just one of those chick things we complain about that 99% of the people out there never would notice. Trust me - it's inconsequential.

 

Will you please join eharmony so we can be matched and you wont dismiss me? I'd so do it for you.

 

I know what will happen. I'll spend the money and get all set to receive your 5 questions only to find out some hairy hunk called you up, pulled you out of your rut, and brightened your day. But Bertha in rural North Dakota will spot me waiting and seize the day.

 

But of course, I wouldn't dismiss you.

 

On the other hand, it's already been made clear to me how much nicer life would be if I could handle long distances.

[Jilly Bean]

I know what will happen. I'll spend the money and get all set to receive your 5 questions only to find out some hairy hunk called you up, pulled you out of your rut, and brightened your day. But Bertha in rural North Dakota will spot me waiting and seize the day.

 

But of course, I wouldn't dismiss you.

 

On the other hand, it's already been made clear to me how much nicer life would be if I could handle long distances.

 

LOL. Hairy hunk? You so know me.

 

Maybe I should do a George Costanza and go for an opposite guy. Just for kicks.

 

Oh, and I guess I assumed you'd move her for me.

[lovestruck818]

You need to dump that deadbeat boyfriend of yours and go for this guy, Lovestruck.

 

Blue, I already tried but he doesn't do the whole "dating co-workers" thing...blahh

[jerbear]

TC - thanks. I want my $$$ back from Dr. Warren.

 

Supposed we had a lot in common, but apparently I wasn't something enough, or maybe TOO much of something for him.

 

They do have money back guarantees so I suggest looking into it. You might get another 3 months.

[Jilly Bean]

They do have money back guarantees so I suggest looking into it. You might get another 3 months.

 

On eharmony? I thought Match did that.

 

Well, considering I only paid $30 for 3 months, I shouldn't complain. If nothing else, it will provide me with entertainment. lol

 

And one guy who dismissed me isn't enough to turn me off to the process.

[mental_traveller]

You're put out because one complete stranger doesn't think you're his type? Don't you think it's a little unrealistic to expect *everyone* to drool over your photo?