Bh2008 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 [FONT=Times New Roman]Hi this is my first post and I am just looking for some advice or understanding. Ok so I have been with my wife for 8 years, married for about 15 months, and we have a son who just turned 1. My wife is the good girl type, she doesn't swear, she has never as much as called me a bad name. She is very loving and up until this has always put others first. She is not a very sexual person, and is kind of shy. I am the opposite, I am very sexual, I do swear but I always put her and my son first. We had what I believed was a strong marriage (didn't fight), recently to avoid having to get daycare I moved my job to third shift, this made our schedule so that we didn't see each other but for about 10 minutes per day 5 days a week. Shortly after moving to this schedule my wife was feeling lonely and joined a chat room and began chatting with a married man who's family is in Texas while he sells their old home, long story short they became friends and started emailing, flirting, talking on the phone and eventually meeting at a bed and breakfast for sex, this occurred in the middle of the day while I slept. I caught her after discovering a new email address, when I confronted her and she tried to lie, but I broke her lies down. She eventually admitted cheating twice with this same guy. She swears and I believe she is sorry and hates what she has done. She tells me she just wanted to chat and was lonely and things got carried away, she says she never wanted to cheat but she felt obligated (not rape she was willing) to do this to keep the attention he was giving her. She says she didn’t enjoy it and had actually broken it off the night before I caught her. During this time there was a definite disconnect between us but during that time I tried to talk to her and tell her I felt like I was losing her and she told me I’d never lose her, now it is her begging me to stay and I want to stay, I just don’t know how to get over this. How do I trust her again? Please help or relate.[/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
Davey McG Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 You don't have to forgive straight away. It can take years and some people can't trust after such a betrayal she says she never wanted to cheat but she felt obligated She's telling you what you want to hear. This is not true. You are being lied to! r. She says she didn’t enjoy it and had actually broken it off the night before I caught her I don't know your wife, but this has set my bull***t detector off. It's going crazy! She could still be in contact with them. She's only sorry she got caught and you don't know the full truth yet. I would recommend taking a step back from the relationship and maybe think about a paternity test. You wife isn't the "good girl" type you thought. Link to post Share on other sites
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