4givrnt4gtr Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Should you give up on a relationship solely based on a nagging feeling? After analyzing the relationship, the other person, and everything else, to death, and still not finding faults, should you still give up the relationship anyway because of a feeling of anxiety? If so...how do you deal with the "what ifs" and the fact that you will never know what made u break up with the person. Along with dealing with a self afflicted broken heart AND the knowledge the you broke someone's heart without a real, hard set reason? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Should you give up on a relationship solely based on a nagging feeling? After analyzing the relationship, the other person, and everything else, to death, and still not finding faults, should you still give up the relationship anyway because of a feeling of anxiety? If so...how do you deal with the "what ifs" and the fact that you will never know what made u break up with the person. Along with dealing with a self afflicted broken heart AND the knowledge the you broke someone's heart without a real, hard set reason? I'm kind of lost. Why would you analyze a relationship to death, try to pick it apart to find fault with it, and when you didn't find any faults with it, you would end the relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmasMuse Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 So what is your nagging feeling about the person? Link to post Share on other sites
carrot10 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Honestly, I think if it feels off then something isn't right with the relationship. I ignored my gut feeling for 11 months. Turns out I was right all along. Listen to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted August 5, 2008 Author Share Posted August 5, 2008 well, the analyzing is because of the feeling. Im trying to figure out why i feel this....kinda like anxiety, like...fear, when i think of the guy im dating. Its odd really, when i think of him i get a mixed feeling of loving him and anxiety. Its not always present...it just comes once in a while. Its like im scared but i dont know of what.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted August 5, 2008 Author Share Posted August 5, 2008 Honestly, I think if it feels off then something isn't right with the relationship. I ignored my gut feeling for 11 months. Turns out I was right all along. Listen to it. Thats what im saying....if i go with just the feeling and break it off...i will never find out what was wrong and that will always bug me....is that a better deal than finding out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted August 5, 2008 Author Share Posted August 5, 2008 also, ive been with him for more than a year..... Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 you two are back together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 ah yes we are... Turns out that the whole thing was a huge mess up. (Im assuming u know why we broke up). Long story short, he never did anything more than just being stupid and innapropiate, and mostly in the company of three other guys. But, as I said, this odd feeling has nothing do to with that....just...I dont know...maybe im still weary.... Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 ah yes we are... Turns out that the whole thing was a huge mess up. (Im assuming u know why we broke up). Long story short, he never did anything more than just being stupid and innapropiate, and mostly in the company of three other guys. But, as I said, this odd feeling has nothing do to with that....just...I dont know...maybe im still weary.... I think its possible this feeling you have will eat you alive, so why not just break things off with him if you feel something is not right. It will eat away at you if you don't. Its not fair to him, its not fair to you or the relationship as a whole to keep wondering what may or may not be wrong. Its taking awy from it being a possible healthy realtionship if you're always having a feling or anxiety over this. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 The thing is 4, by the time he sent those emails you had been struggling with how uninvolved he was in the relationship for quite some time. I seem to recall that at the time you felt like those inappropriate texts were the cherry on the cake. Then, when you were thinking of giving him a second chance, I remember he kept messing it up. May I ask what has changed since then? Is he more attentive and present? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 The thing is 4, by the time he sent those emails you had been struggling with how uninvolved he was in the relationship for quite some time. I seem to recall that at the time you felt like those inappropriate texts were the cherry on the cake. Then, when you were thinking of giving him a second chance, I remember he kept messing it up. May I ask what has changed since then? Is he more attentive and present? Oh yes...100%...even he acknowledge that during our time apart he had realize how much he had taken me for granted, how much more i was putting into the relationship and how unfair that was. That he realized I was everything he wanted in a woman and that he was willing to make that extra effort. So now its him who comes to see me, as opposed to me driving out for him. He asked me to train with him for a marathon a few months away, he asked me to come to his games with all his guys so I could meet them all and he appropiately introduced me. He has asked me to introduce him to my family, and my friends. He is taking me out for real dates, as opposed to just hang out watching tv. Ofcourse we do have quiet nights, but it seems he is much more invested now. He even ask me to come with him to his country to do a retreat with him... Yes things have changed for the better....so why in the world it feels like i like him less this way.... IM masochistic...thats why. Link to post Share on other sites
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