Simon Leon Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 My ex left without taking any of her belongings. Isn't it strange that she hasn't wanted to get anything ......anything at all? Is it possible that by not taking anything...that she is making it easier if she ever changes her mind???? I know this is wishful thinking...but if were me, I would have started packing up my stuff by now if I wasn't planning on coming back (its been 10 wks). She only took her clothes ...and neither of us have much in the way of clothes. Link to post Share on other sites
base618 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I wouldn't be surprised if she wants any of it. My ex left, came back after a few weeks to get her stuff, and in the garage were 10 garbage bags of just about everything that she owned that could remind her of the marriage. She started out fresh with the new guy with no belongings. in my case, she cheated and i doubt she wanted a single reminder of her married life. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Isn't it strange that she hasn't wanted to get anything ......anything at all? It would be unusual for most people to not want to get anything at all.. I went back and read some of your threads for a back story.. I really think she wanted out pretty bad and she just left everything behind to start a new life. Sorry she did that.... I think you need to take her stuff and pack it away in a room you don't use or the garage and leave it there until the divorce is final. Getting rid of those reminders is an easy way of getting her out of your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simon Leon Posted August 7, 2008 Author Share Posted August 7, 2008 We are going to get together for a couple of beer's this weekend...so maybe she will bring it up. I'm not going to encourage her to move her stuff out at all. That would just add more pressure to the situation. I just think it odd that someone would almost abandon all their stuff that they had accumulated over their life....sports equipment, camping gear, art stuff, reference books for her job, all the stuff associated with her hobbies, photograph equipment and a whole ****load of albums starting at her childhood through till now. There is a lot of money invested in this stuff....and surely she misses the pleasure spent in those interests. You certainly wouldn't want to go and buy this equipment all over again. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 We are going to get together for a couple of beer's this weekend...so maybe she will bring it up. I'm not going to encourage her to move her stuff out at all. That would just add more pressure to the situation. I just think it odd that someone would almost abandon all their stuff that they had accumulated over their life....sports equipment, camping gear, art stuff, reference books for her job, all the stuff associated with her hobbies, photograph equipment and a whole ****load of albums starting at her childhood through till now. There is a lot of money invested in this stuff....and surely she misses the pleasure spent in those interests. You certainly wouldn't want to go and buy this equipment all over again. Piece of advice that actually works if you are not married. Rent a storage large enough for the stuff in BOTH your names Jane or John etc. Send her a registered letter with the name of the garage address etc and a key to the lock. Tell her when the rent is due, and put it out of your mind. If she wants her flotsam, she will retreive it. Link to post Share on other sites
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