lovestruck818 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 My mom is driving me crazy! She is stuck with this believe that the guy in the relationship must ALWAYS drive & pay. No doubt it is a sweet gesture, but why must the guy be expected to pay & drive EVERY time? She gives me the rationale that "your father always paid for me..." Well, my parents got married in 1975. More women are working now than back then and a lot of women are making very high salaries- what is so wrong about a woman offering to pay every once in a while? Furthermore, my boyfriend is always doing work on his car, so a lot of times it is out of commission and I have to drive. I don't really mind it b/c I like to drive but she always give me sht about it, saying it is wrong. My boyfriend is not a millionaire, nor does he WANT to pay all the time...and I don't really think he should have to. Why are all these older women caught up with the notion of chivarly & tradition? Wake up, it's 2008.
vintagecat Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 What an ageist notion that all older women are wholly out of touch with today's mores and customs much less actually participate in them! I'm probably your mother's age or roughly that. I worked in a very male dominated profession (a door opener) for over 25 years, retired and now own my own business. Though I am married I have always had my own bank accounts, vehicles, health insurance etc. I pay for my personal expenses and we split the costs of our larger joint living expenses based on percentage of household income. You mother is who she is. You might want to point out to her that in a society where women can become doctors, lawyers, astronauts, pilots and now realistically the President of the United States, times have changed and that the more egalitarian society demands that young ladies be able to care for themselves and sometimes their partner. Don't lump us all into the big barrel of out of date and out of touch. Your bias is showing.
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