Reflections of the Cheating EX

[WiseOne1]

Yes ,with no rubber either. That shoulda been a red flag lol.

 

She played the innocent girl pretty good for 4 years or so until crap hit the fan.

 

looking back I also remember she said she always wanted to be a spy. That explains her being so sneaky.

 

There is so many more crazy stories but im trying to put it all behind me.

 

 

Lol well one things for sure, she can never forget you.

[nopainnogain]

I also remember my ex saying she wanted a tatoo of a broken heart because she said thats what shes good at. That fricken whore.

Also happened to be around the time she was giving her co worker brain ,coincidently he had tatoos.

 

That bit$h didnt break my heart,she reinforced it

[BackonTrack]

I also remember my ex saying she wanted a tatoo of a broken heart because she said thats what shes good at. That fricken whore.

Also happened to be around the time she was giving her co worker brain ,coincidently he had tatoos.

 

That bit$h didnt break my heart,she reinforced it

 

As for her cheating on you once then you taking her back, then she gives a co-worker a blow job, WOW, once they cheat on you, you have to get rid of them, otherwise they are going to think your a punk and do it again.

 

Man, if there is one THING i learn about this entire thing is REALLY LISTEN to your girlfriend & if she says something weird of out of the ordinary is for a reason.

 

like one time my ex told me

"I told XX I was still coming over and he was so mad" then she laughed & I remember thinking to myself Why would he be mad, ignore it & dismissed it then proceeded to have sex with her.

 

Thats the only time she ever brought up that dude's name to me.

 

She said other crazy ****

"I am afraid your going to disappoint me, please don't disappoint me"

 

'Baby, are you taking birth controls'

"No baby"

"Oh my god, how long have you not been on birth control"

"About 4 weeks now"

 

"cum in me baby, cum in me"

 

"I know what I am doing is wrong but I can't help myself"

 

"I feel like a whore, if I didn't need the money to buy little things I wouldn't come over here"

 

"Why are you so nice to me, I feel like a whore"

 

"Men are so stupid, they never know what they have until its gone"

"Its to LATE!!, ITS TO LATE!!, ITS TO LATE!!"

 

& My favorite line of all time,

'I know I did nothing wrong but deep down I feel guilty inside'

 

Man, all those lines should of been enough to give me a red flag but I just dismissed them as silly comments. The funny thing is I remember it all. Every conversation, I had no idea that I stored those in memory though.

[nopainnogain]

LOL

 

she never tried anal but one night she said

 

"stick it in my butt"

 

she was also adament on making love,one night she screamed

 

"I love sex" but she said she hated that word.

 

All these sayings came around the time my friend and her all of a sudden became BFFs

 

when I asked her about jimmy she said

 

"me and jimmy have something special"

 

WTF:mad:

 

more-

 

"i miss jimmy" after I told him to take a hike

 

"im just used to you"

 

"youll never understand me" no $hit Bit*h,because you hold in all of your feelings

 

a bunch of other crap

[nopainnogain]

The funny thing is I remember it all. Every conversation, I had no idea that I stored those in memory though.

 

 

yes. Me too. I think after its all over we reflect and everthing makes sense. But at the time we didnt need to waste our time analyzing stupid sayings.

You see,females are always testing us men.

[WiseOne1]

"cum in me baby, cum in me".

 

 

Dude are you serious, so did you cum in her?

[WiseOne1]

"stick it in my butt"

 

So she said that during sex, im intereseted in hearing this because me and my ex was talking about anal sex today, and I was like OMG

[Virgo1982]

yes. Me too. I think after its all over we reflect and everthing makes sense. But at the time we didnt need to waste our time analyzing stupid sayings.

You see,females are always testing us men.

 

Yeah, I did this too. That was when I trusted blindly (my first relationship) Now I store all pertinent data for later use. If I have to connect the dots, they will all be there. You don't want to throw accusations around all the time, but if you can build a case...

[The_411]

she's likely has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

 

Be happy you are young and dealing with the fallout rather than much older and having been married to this woman.

[BackonTrack]

she's likely has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

 

Be happy you are young and dealing with the fallout rather than much older and having been married to this woman.

 

BPD? I always knew she had mental problems but to go as far as saying she has a personality disorder, I don't know. I just thought she was inexperienced with life and read to many books, so she just didn't know certain things.

 

I think she's an OK person with a few bolts loose, I mean she lied, fooled & betrayed me but isn 't that typical of women?

 

At the end of the day I wasn't meeting her emmotional needs, actually I was so why she cheated I don't know but I know why she decieded to move on, I gave off the impression I didn't care what she did, so she said **** it, left me, but she never really left me, maybe she was buying time to get over me before she actually broke up? i have no idea, na she was cheating & liked the guy, that simple.

 

I would of left me long ago if I was her, don't even know why she stayed for a year. Its the past know, if she has BSD, I hope she gets that checked out, but whats strange is,

 

She thinks I have behavioral problems, she thinks I need to see a shrink

She thought I was cheating on her

She thought I would disappoint her,

She thought I would forget about her because of the travels.

 

All the things she thought, none of those notions didn't enter my mind, maybe those are the problem she faces & projected on me, who knows.

 

That girl is crazy

[nopainnogain]

 

She thinks I have behavioral problems, she thinks I need to see a shrink

She thought I was cheating on her

She thought I would disappoint her,

She thought I would forget about her because of the travels.

 

All the things she thought, none of those notions didn't enter my mind, maybe those are the problem she faces & projected on me, who knows.

 

That girl is crazy

 

 

No ,she just eased her guilty consious feeding this BS because she was really the one with these problems. My ex did the same crap.

[BackonTrack]

No ,she just eased her guilty consious feeding this BS because she was really the one with these problems. My ex did the same crap.

 

Well thats Good for her. Whatever makes her sleep better at night.

Either way a person can't go on lieing to themselves, forever

 

Maybe those weren't problems but justification for her actions??

Well you go girl, don't think about other people, just worry about yourself.

 

I remember post break, when we were texting each other, I was cursing her out and she goes "Baby, why are you being so hiperotical, your doing the same thing" so my response was "die whore, die!" her response was "**** that, stick to your word then, loose my number"

 

I'm like wow

 

i don't think my ex wanted to leave, but I didn't give her a reason to stay, maybe she wanted security, then she left, now she was angry with me + she thought she found better, then I broke up with her (wouldn't come over, didn't answer phone) so she came back, then she wanted to know I cared, she realized I cared, she was coming back, but she was angry, at the same time she loved me, but i wasn't what she wanted so she was confused again, at the same time she was falling in love with the OM + he was ****ing her more than me but we had history, and while this is going on, i'm here trying to get us some money and start a life, i had no idea, i just didn't know what was wrong with her.

 

i loved her, she cared for me, i thought we were together, she was weighing her options, somewhere along the line, we got on two separate pages, we never recovered.

 

she's probably at peace within herself so thats good, atleast she's happy or maybe not, who cares, thats life, one minute the person is here, the other minute they are not, the only thing that lasts forever is family, i thought she was family, i guess she didn't feel the same way, she must of forgot about us, about what we had, then again it really didn't matter, i'm only a man & she found another one

[nopainnogain]

so she came back, then she wanted to know I cared, she realized I cared, she was coming back, but she was angry, at the same time she loved me, but i wasn't what she wanted so she was confused again, at the same time she was falling in love with the OM + he was ****ing her more than me but we had history, and while this is going on, i'm here trying to get us some money and start a life, i had no idea, i just didn't know what was wrong with her.

 

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Same thing here. We split last year so I went no contact . Then on new years she calls and says she misses me. I played it cool . The whole month of january I was a little aloof but she would call saying "dont leave me. Never leave me I love you too much"

 

With all that I figured ok,she knows she wants me so I got us an apt ,a dog ,cat. I cooked for her. Entertained her in many ways.

 

Then one day she tells me she kissed her coworker (i always suspected something would go on between those two) while we were split. It hurt but we were split up at the time so I thought cool. Then in febuary she says they kissed again. So now she cheats on me

 

With her history of sugar coating $hit and beating around the bush I decided to txt that fool "how does my D*ck taste" knowing id get to the bottom of her lies.

 

Sure enough he txt back "how does mine taste"

 

So I comfront her and she still lies but finally confessed.

 

My dumb a$$ figured I already got enough invested in this bi%ch might as well try and make it work. I told her to call him and talk $hit to him so I know they wont F&ck around anymore. She did

 

1 month later I look at her phone and she was still talking to that fool.

 

That same day I got all her $hit and threw it in my car along with her. Then drove to her moms and dropped her A$$ off.

 

That fricken whore,stringing me along.

[BackonTrack]

Same thing here. We split last year so I went no contact . Then on new years she calls and says she misses me. I played it cool . The whole month of january I was a little aloof but she would call saying "dont leave me. Never leave me I love you too much"

 

With all that I figured ok,she knows she wants me so I got us an apt ,a dog ,cat. I cooked for her. Entertained her in many ways.

 

Then one day she tells me she kissed her coworker (i always suspected something would go on between those two) while we were split. It hurt but we were split up at the time so I thought cool. Then in febuary she says they kissed again. So now she cheats on me

 

With her history of sugar coating $hit and beating around the bush I decided to txt that fool "how does my D*ck taste" knowing id get to the bottom of her lies.

 

Sure enough he txt back "how does mine taste"

 

So I comfront her and she still lies but finally confessed.

 

My dumb a$$ figured I already got enough invested in this bi%ch might as well try and make it work. I told her to call him and talk $hit to him so I know they wont F&ck around anymore. She did

 

1 month later I look at her phone and she was still talking to that fool.

 

That same day I got all her $hit and threw it in my car along with her. Then drove to her moms and dropped her A$$ off.

 

That fricken whore,stringing me along.

 

Same here except I didn't know about the OM, once I found out, she stooped the games, told me to **** off. I wish she would of kept it real with me from the beginning, then again for them to even start cheating, it means they don't respect you or care about how you feel, in essence it means they don't love you.

 

What am I talking about, that bitch knew to hide that **** from me, she knew it, when I found out though, I was to ****ing "in-love", I couldn't do what I wanted to do, I wasn't myself, I could just XX her, I tried so hard, I wanted to so bad, I just couldn't do it. My heart kept stopping me, eventually I think she saw this as weakness, Man, if only the feelings I had for her were at this level where it is right now as I am writing this, I would throw that girl out, gave her money to take the bus home & never looked back.

I was to close to the situation to act in the fashion I wanted to act, she's lucky I loved her, that stupid whore, she's so lucky, I let her off easy. The fog of love ****ed up my decision making process in conjuction with the fact my ego was bruised + the fact I was broken = I wasn't me. I was some love suck man who wanted back a cheating girlfriend.

 

I was so messed up in the head, well atleast now if this happens again, I can't care how much I have invested in the female, she's gone like yesterday's news paper, no talking, no screaming, no cursing her out, no nothing, just "good bye & good luck".

 

Actually thats what I did, once I found out, I just droped her off, kissed her good bye, a bout 10 minutes later I droped the nicieties, showed my true self, a angry hood black man who is about to murder you, she tried for 2 weeks tocome back, inthis time, I broke up with her, told her I don't know wahts going to happen, at first she woudl talk to me in a defeated voice, that voice grew cocky, then bold, then got out of control, i ended it again, somehow the tables turned, she showed me her true self, a female who doesn't think its wrong to cheat on her bf, she doesn't feel bad about it.

 

she did it to all her boyfriends, its just in her nature. can't change people's nature.

 

the sad thing about all of this is, she wanted me to take her from her BF, hell I didn't even know I was NOT the BF, she wanted me to take it, I couldn't do it, I didn't have the strength, I can't keep fighting for you, I had no more fight, I already put in my work, I can't keep putting in work, I was to close to the situtation, why did you even leave, you left for no reason, then you wanted me to come get you back, hell, it was hard enough getting you in the first place, actually it was pretty easy, but I no longer had the strength, you ****ing drained the **** out me. I needed time to recover, actually thast not true, I di dn't want it bad enough, mainly because post-breakup I was having sex with so many women, made me not really want to have sex with you, made me want to "talk" and work it out as opposed to just telling you to shut the **** up and just **** you two good times.

 

LOL, my first relationship, ended in flames, just as she predicted.

[nopainnogain]

showed my true self, a angry hood black man who is about to murder you.

 

WTF lol

anyways.....

 

You can always turn a housewife to a hoe but not a hoe into a houswife:laugh:

[BackonTrack]

WTF lol

anyways.....

 

You can always turn a housewife to a hoe but not a hoe into a houswife:laugh:

 

Yeah sometimes I say crazy things, I don't know, I just wanted to get opinions about my reflections from a variety of sources in an effort to get feedback from people who has been in more relationships, but I managed to put together my own view point of things:

 

My ex had low self-esteem, She didn't know how to get what she wanted, she wanted me to tell her I loved her, she wanted security that I was coming back to her, I never gave it to her so she made the decision in her head to leave me, but didn't tell me.

 

Forget about the lies, the betrayal, the cheating, I think it all boils down to that last paragraph I just wrote.

[The_411]

BPD? I always knew she had mental problems but to go as far as saying she has a personality disorder, I don't know. I just thought she was inexperienced with life and read to many books, so she just didn't know certain things.

 

I think she's an OK person with a few bolts loose, I mean she lied, fooled & betrayed me but isn 't that typical of women?

 

At the end of the day I wasn't meeting her emmotional needs, actually I was so why she cheated I don't know but I know why she decieded to move on, I gave off the impression I didn't care what she did, so she said **** it, left me, but she never really left me, maybe she was buying time to get over me before she actually broke up? i have no idea, na she was cheating & liked the guy, that simple.

 

I would of left me long ago if I was her, don't even know why she stayed for a year. Its the past know, if she has BSD, I hope she gets that checked out, but whats strange is,

 

She thinks I have behavioral problems, she thinks I need to see a shrink

She thought I was cheating on her

She thought I would disappoint her,

She thought I would forget about her because of the travels.

 

All the things she thought, none of those notions didn't enter my mind, maybe those are the problem she faces & projected on me, who knows.

 

That girl is crazy

 

Bam! Typical Borderline personality behavior.

 

She thinks I have behavioral problems, she thinks I need to see a shrink

She thought I was cheating on her

Typical Projection. She's says that because it's a coping mechanism because she's incapable of facing herself and her issues and she blames you. She blames you for cheating because she can't cope with herself cheating and chose to cheat because somehow in her mind she justified that you were cheating on her and because every relationship in the past she's been left or left the guy of this very reason, fear of abandonment.

 

She thought I would disappoint her,

 

This plays along the lines that in the beginning she idolized you but she recognizes that in relationships she idolizes people and then turns to demonizing you.

 

She thought I would forget about her because of the travels.

 

This is big one for people with BPD. Lack of object constancy. Out of sight and out of mind. She's projecting again. With people with BPD they don't remember what you like when they don't see you. For those of you who love a girlfriend of boyfriend your feelings are still there when you go to work or are away from your significant other. You know how you feel and why. Well for someone with BPD they don't they don't remember and that's why they will want to talk to you throughout the day. OR why when someone leaves they panic or act "crazy"

[BackonTrack]

Bam! Typical Borderline personality behavior.

 

She thinks I have behavioral problems, she thinks I need to see a shrink

She thought I was cheating on her

Typical Projection. She's says that because it's a coping mechanism because she's incapable of facing herself and her issues and she blames you. She blames you for cheating because she can't cope with herself cheating and chose to cheat because somehow in her mind she justified that you were cheating on her and because every relationship in the past she's been left or left the guy of this very reason, fear of abandonment.

 

She thought I would disappoint her,

 

This plays along the lines that in the beginning she idolized you but she recognizes that in relationships she idolizes people and then turns to demonizing you.

 

She thought I would forget about her because of the travels.

 

This is big one for people with BPD. Lack of object constancy. Out of sight and out of mind. She's projecting again. With people with BPD they don't remember what you like when they don't see you. For those of you who love a girlfriend of boyfriend your feelings are still there when you go to work or are away from your significant other. You know how you feel and why. Well for someone with BPD they don't they don't remember and that's why they will want to talk to you throughout the day. OR why when someone leaves they panic or act "crazy"

 

Well, I don't know if she has BPD or not. Maybe it simplier than that, maybe she was just unahppy, maybe she was bored, maybe she's just a whore, maybe she was just confused.

 

She knew what she was doing, she's not stupid, as far as the justifications, she told me the same thing about her last boyfriend

"He put me on a pedistol & wanted me to be his tropy wife & I didn't want that + I didn't like having sex with him, it was all about him & I knew he was cheating so its ok for me to do it as well"

 

When the reality of the situtation was, she wanted to have sex with me, weather her BF was cheating on not, she wanted it, I knew she wanted it.

 

Then we went to movies, she saw him, about 2 months after we started having sex, he was with a girl, she was with a dude, she said hello, then we got into the car, she was sort of shaking, then screamed, i said ok, your not driving, just sit her and be quiet, why are you even upset, your doing the same thing.

 

That same boyfriend would text her, like "I'm sudicial blah blah" I would just take the phone from her and then begin banging her, felt sorry for the dude, so I can only imagine what she is telling her current guy about me, then again I only called her ONCE after the breakup, she didn't pick up, I never tried again, atleast I am not that guy.

 

Oh yeah, that guy, she slept with him when I went away, she called out my name during sex, then laughed.

 

"I was so accustomed to having sex with you, so I called your name" then she goes

"Are you mad at me"

 

 

Then I try to talk to her, she spazzes out "Your doing the same thing!!!"

So I just said to myself **** this chick, then as I was leaving, she stuck close to me and tried to make it up so I said **** it + I didn't love her at the time, we were 9 months in, I started loving her the following month,

That same month she was having oral sex with a new dude, the month after that she had sex with him, everything after that was bad, tipsy turby.

 

So within a 1 month span, she was banging, 3 dudes, her ex, me, new guy.

I have just realized, my text appears to be bashing my ex, that I am not doing, I am stating the truths in an effort to learn & grow as a person as well as to get different perspectives about my past relationship.

[WiseOne1]

Well, I don't know if she has BPD or not. Maybe it simplier than that, maybe she was just unahppy, maybe she was bored, maybe she's just a whore, maybe she was just confused.

 

She knew what she was doing, she's not stupid, as far as the justifications, she told me the same thing about her last boyfriend

"He put me on a pedistol & wanted me to be his tropy wife & I didn't want that + I didn't like having sex with him, it was all about him & I knew he was cheating so its ok for me to do it as well"

 

When the reality of the situtation was, she wanted to have sex with me, weather her BF was cheating on not, she wanted it, I knew she wanted it.

 

Then we went to movies, she saw him, about 2 months after we started having sex, he was with a girl, she was with a dude, she said hello, then we got into the car, she was sort of shaking, then screamed, i said ok, your not driving, just sit her and be quiet, why are you even upset, your doing the same thing.

 

That same boyfriend would text her, like "I'm sudicial blah blah" I would just take the phone from her and then begin banging her, felt sorry for the dude, so I can only imagine what she is telling her current guy about me, then again I only called her ONCE after the breakup, she didn't pick up, I never tried again, atleast I am not that guy.

 

Oh yeah, that guy, she slept with him when I went away, she called out my name during sex, then laughed.

 

"I was so accustomed to having sex with you, so I called your name" then she goes

"Are you mad at me"

 

 

Then I try to talk to her, she spazzes out "Your doing the same thing!!!"

So I just said to myself **** this chick, then as I was leaving, she stuck close to me and tried to make it up so I said **** it + I didn't love her at the time, we were 9 months in, I started loving her the following month,

That same month she was having oral sex with a new dude, the month after that she had sex with him, everything after that was bad, tipsy turby.

 

So within a 1 month span, she was banging, 3 dudes, her ex, me, new guy.

I have just realized, my text appears to be bashing my ex, that I am not doing, I am stating the truths.

 

May I recommend the song "Pimp Juice" by Nelly, the women really respect it. Just tellem, "you aint from Russia" "So bitch while ya rushing".

 

So lemme ask you a question, would you consider taking your ex back if she wanted to come back?

[BackonTrack]

May I recommend the song "Pimp Juice" by Nelly, the women really respect it. Just tellem, "you aint from Russia" "So bitch while ya rushing".

 

So lemme ask you a question, would you consider taking your ex back if she wanted to come back?

 

Na, its the past. I already had her. There are better women out there.

I'm not that desperate, but we would make a good couple. She compliments me, if only she wasn't a whore, things would of worked out, secretly though between me and you, if no one would ever find out, i would take her back.

 

I love the whore, I like the whore, but she's a whore. I can't marry the whore, or show the whore off, she'll end up ****ing one of my friends

 

She doesn't have a moral compass of whats right or wrong. It wasn't ingrained within her growing up as a child, things that should bother her, doesn't seem to bother her + she's easily influenced and easy to manipulate, she would of been my downfall in life.

 

Hell 4 months after the breakup when I was with another women, I actually felt guilty, can you believe that? After I found out everything, I still felt guilty, but I told myself, its over now, it was the past, I am no longer with her + she did the same thing. Can you believe that?

 

Maybe I was just a rebound or transnational guy.

[nopainnogain]

broad turned fraud

 

That same boyfriend would text her, like "I'm sudicial blah blah" I would just take the phone from her and then begin banging her,.

 

 

LMFAO! Yeah I guess my ex had BPD as well. I mean,our exs might as well of been the same chick.

 

My ex bit*ckh started callin when I started boss ballin. Then she skanked her self out. I dont blame her either. She was hot and she wanted to see whats out there.

I even bought her a car . Im glad I helped her out. but damn,I never imagined she would turn out to be a could hearted hoe.

 

 

 

So within a 1 month span, she was banging, 3 dudes, her ex, me, new guy.

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That sux. Hoes eat dick like eggs and steak.My ex blew my balls, right through my drawers

Came back to the mansion,and chilled at the spot

From the way she was blowin, I knew she did it a lot

 

I have just realized, my text appears to be bashing my ex, that I am not doing, I am stating the truths in an effort to learn & grow as a person as well as to get different perspectives about my past relationship .

 

well said brotha

[nopainnogain]

secretly though between me and you, if no one would ever find out, i would take her back..

 

I dont think this is a secret lmao.

 

 

I love the whore, I like the whore, but she's a whore. I can't marry the whore, or show the whore off, she'll end up ****ing one of my friends..

 

Same here. But mine did screw my friend. And kept it going. There little secret

She doesn't have a moral compass of whats right or wrong. It wasn't ingrained within her growing up as a child, things that should bother her, doesn't seem to bother her + she's easily influenced and easy to manipulate, she would of been my downfall in life...

 

Again,same with my ex. She would lie like a mofo to her parnts in front of me. Red flag ignored on my part:o

I used to tell her all the time to not take shi*t from no one. Turns out she used that advice against me even though I never gave her $hit.

 

 

Maybe I was just a rebound or transnational guy.

 

I got with when she was still with a FWB. I guess I was a rebound that lasted 6 years:confused:

[BackonTrack]

 

Then one day she tells me she kissed her coworker (i always suspected something would go on between those two) while we were split. It hurt but we were split up at the time so I thought cool. Then in febuary she says they kissed again. So now she cheats on me

 

My ex said the same thing, I jokingly asked her, "hey whatever happen to that guy you went on the date with"

 

She replied, "I Kissed HIM" even though she was sucking and ****ing him for 6 months.

[nopainnogain]

those lying tramps:mad: lol

 

I got with when she was still with a FWB. I guess I was a rebound that lasted 6 years:confused: At the end I became her doormat ,safety net dude. It just happened. Looking back I was such a pu$$y for not releasing her from my life the first time she bounced. I guess I became pu$$y wipped . But I dont regret anything. I have learned a lot from that whole(whore) ordeal. She was a ho and that was the whole thing. She never appreciated jack chit.

[nopainnogain]

When I stepped in her life she felt the earth shook.She Got sprung off the first hook.I met that chick the night before xmas.She let me hit by the xmas lights,that chick was tight,just my type.Belly right, ride a D*ick like a bike.Hit a D*ck like a pipe ,quick late night hype.Those were the things that made my night.

I Gave her a taste of some real macoroni.She swore she would do anything for me,thats no balogne. But she new she was pretty,thats why she got goosed in the city.