Inflikted Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Alright, where to begin? See, I'm a 19 (going on 20, in a few months) year old guy, and, well... I'm not very experienced with girls. Never had a date, never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never been anything more than a friend. To be fair, though, I have a hard time finding girls I'd really be interested in, so that friendship has always been mutual. But, like, through high school, there was only one girl I was even a little attracted to, but I wasn't feeling it enough to pursue her. I started at a new job, recently, and met a girl that's kinda cute and has a great personality but A) she's moving across the country in a few days, and B) she has a boyfriend, so I'm not very attached to her, either. There's only one girl I REALLY want to be with, at the moment; I've had a thing for her for years, but right now things are kinda weird between us, maybe too complicated to work anything out... Anyway, sorry to ramble on. Now, I really WANT to date and have relationships, and all that, but I have some self-esteem issues to work out, and whatnot. But something I've come to realize about myself is, well... I have this "quality" about myself that I'm not sure how to get rid of. I feel like there's this child-like "innocence" about myself, or something; peers seem to treat me like I'm years younger, or something, and that I'm, like, "scared" to date. I don't even know how to describe it any more than that; I really don't understand it, either. I'm not immature in the least (I think I'm fairly mature for my age, to be honest), so it's not like I'm just being an idiot around people. Whatever this quality is, though, I hate it, and I want to get rid of it. I'm tired of people kinda talking down to me, like I "don't understand" the idea of dating, and romance, and all that. Ya know what I'm saying, or am I just totally talking in circles, here? I think I may've even confused myself, a little... @_@ Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Next time you meet a girl that you like, look deep straight into her eyes, and show her that you mean serious business. Like my avatar. Yeah, he ain't playing games. Alright, where to begin? See, I'm a 19 (going on 20, in a few months) year old guy, and, well... I'm not very experienced with girls. Never had a date, never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never been anything more than a friend. To be fair, though, I have a hard time finding girls I'd really be interested in, so that friendship has always been mutual. But, like, through high school, there was only one girl I was even a little attracted to, but I wasn't feeling it enough to pursue her. I started at a new job, recently, and met a girl that's kinda cute and has a great personality but A) she's moving across the country in a few days, and B) she has a boyfriend, so I'm not very attached to her, either. There's only one girl I REALLY want to be with, at the moment; I've had a thing for her for years, but right now things are kinda weird between us, maybe too complicated to work anything out... Anyway, sorry to ramble on. Now, I really WANT to date and have relationships, and all that, but I have some self-esteem issues to work out, and whatnot. But something I've come to realize about myself is, well... I have this "quality" about myself that I'm not sure how to get rid of. I feel like there's this child-like "innocence" about myself, or something; peers seem to treat me like I'm years younger, or something, and that I'm, like, "scared" to date. I don't even know how to describe it any more than that; I really don't understand it, either. I'm not immature in the least (I think I'm fairly mature for my age, to be honest), so it's not like I'm just being an idiot around people. Whatever this quality is, though, I hate it, and I want to get rid of it. I'm tired of people kinda talking down to me, like I "don't understand" the idea of dating, and romance, and all that. Ya know what I'm saying, or am I just totally talking in circles, here? I think I may've even confused myself, a little... @_@ Link to post Share on other sites
4givrnt4gtr Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Ha...i have a really good friend like you. Like you her problem was that she had no experience...but also, she gave the vibe of being young. As in, she "dressed" young, her interests were very much like those of a high school girl, and most importantly she reacted like a young girl would. Obviously those around her treated her accordingly. SHe hated it. It wasnt until she realized that she had to changed how she presented herself that people started to take her more seriously. Still, the whole issue of being inexperienced in relationships would always get in the way. WHenever she had an opinion about a relationship they would shut her up with "oh really? how many times have u dealt with that?? thats right..never.." (RUDDDE!!) What she did was to assertively tell them that despite her inexperience, she was still very much an intelligent observant person, and her opinions counted. It also helped that invariably she was right about what she talked about...but you know. My point is...if you want to be treated like you are an equal, you need to assert yourself as such. Otherwise, you will always be the little one... Link to post Share on other sites
A.G.Doren Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 Or you can play on your innocence. Learn to go from boyish man to intensly sexy in moments that can be a real turn on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Inflikted Posted August 8, 2008 Author Share Posted August 8, 2008 Or you can play on your innocence. Learn to go from boyish man to intensly sexy in moments that can be a real turn on. Haha, yeah, but I don't really think I'm good looking enough for that to really work. Maybe if I was what girls consider a "hot" guy, but... Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted August 9, 2008 Share Posted August 9, 2008 If it makes you feel any better Inflikted, I'm an ugly duckling. So I'm sure you'll be able to pull off A.G.Doren's advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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