I think I plateaued in High school.

[JooSee]

I am in my thirties and just got back from seeing Sisterhood of Travelling Pants...by myself.

 

For some reason, seeing it by myself made me feel like I hit some kind of a stunt starting in High School.

 

Its hard to explain, but I feel like I still act like a Highschooler. I'm being supported fully by my boyfriend right now (instead of parents), am very concerned about my appearance and my image, and feel kind of insecure around other women. I look mighty young for my age too. I am usually carded for drinks. It goes much deeper than this, but I wonder if I'm emotionally immature.

 

By the way, I loved the movie

[Throne Of Lies]

From what you have told me, I agree. It isn't so bad. You didn't peak, you plateued. But it could be a hell of a lot better. Do you have a plan for that?

[JooSee]

From what you have told me, I agree. It isn't so bad. You didn't peak, you plateued. But it could be a hell of a lot better. Do you have a plan for that?

 

 

No, not really, which is why i posted. i'm definately concerned.

[TooLittleTooLate]

I feel much the same way you do. I am 25 and have always been dependent on others, and I emotionally and maturely feel much younger then my age. I am very insecure about a lot of things and also look young for my age.

 

I think the solution is becoming independent. Other people cant make important decisions for you. You think for yourself. You learn to trust your own mind.

[Touche]

I agree about becoming independent. Why are you letting your b/f support you? Why aren't you working?

 

Do you contribute anything to the household at least? Do you cook and keep the place clean?

 

But still, even if you do the above, you have no kids I assume and no responsibilities, right? Then you should be working and saving money and contributing to the household and just acting like an adult.

 

I would suspect that your b/f doesn't treat you like an adult either. Am I right? That certainly can't help.

 

If you start acting more like an independent adult I'll bet you won't feel so inadequate around others.

 

Oh and I can't wait to see the movie either! I loved the first one.

[JooSee]

I agree about becoming independent. Why are you letting your b/f support you? Why aren't you working?

 

Do you contribute anything to the household at least? Do you cook and keep the place clean?

 

But still, even if you do the above, you have no kids I assume and no responsibilities, right? Then you should be working and saving money and contributing to the household and just acting like an adult.

 

I would suspect that your b/f doesn't treat you like an adult either. Am I right? That certainly can't help.

 

If you start acting more like an independent adult I'll bet you won't feel so inadequate around others.

 

Oh and I can't wait to see the movie either! I loved the first one.

 

Hey there Touche,

 

i'm not working right now because I am a Full time student going for my Master's degree. i was working up until a few weeks ago, but my BF agreed that quitting my job and focusing on school would be more important. I have taken loans and grants to pay for school and so my BF is not responsible for me in that sense. He only supports me ina supplemental way during school. its the in between time that he 100% supports me (winter and summer break)

 

He definately treats me like an adult. he is very supportive of my decision to go back to school and thinks I am doing the best thing possible for myself.

 

I keep the house clean, yes, and occasionally cook for him/us. I take care of certain bills like the electric bill, and the phone bills. We have a trip to Asia planned in December, and I take care of all of the logistics around that...VISAs, medical plans, tentative itineraries...

 

I dont just sit around, but at the same time, I just feel so unaccomlished for my age.

[georgejungle]

there's no shame in acting young, liking the things

of your youth or dressing young or even feeling

Young at Heart for that matter. I mean, i'm in my

early 30's and I still wear Star Wars Shirts, i don't

care what anyone thinks i'm an adult, i can do

what i want. I still pay the rent and buy the food

for the house and whatnot.

 

p.s. Props to you on getting a Master's Degree, that's

Awesome! You pay Bills, you go to school full time,

I'd call that a responsible adult.

[Tomcat33]

You probably feel that way because you are in school and not financially independent yet. That's natural you would feel that way but does that mean you ARE emotionally immature? If you were not working and not studying I would be more inclined to think that it's true but you are working for your future by furthering your education, you can't have it all. The environment you are in is conducive to making you feel like you "never grew up" but that's not true. Now if you had said you are stalling entering the real world and this is why you are still in school and you are not even interested in your education then that would be alarming.

 

If you feel too out of touch with your independence, get a part time job something that will offer you a semblance of individuality financially and will cure these feelings you are having.

[Green]

I think most girls do plateau in HS.