Has anyone been jealous when...

[LolitaAnastasia]

Has anyone felt jealousy when their bf/gf spoke of their exes?

 

I know I have. One time my boyfriend was telling me this story.

 

"One time, I drove to McDonald's drive thru just wearing a shirt and nothing else."

I gasped and giggled thinking it was really funny. Then he continued on "My girlfriend at the time was with me and she was wearing just a tanktop and nothing else and all these guys came to the car."

 

I stopped giggling and I saw red. So I told him that I don't like listening to him talk about his ex-girlfriends. It's not really the first time he talked about his ex-girlfriends but that night I told him that I had no interest in listening to activities that he engaged in with his exs. When he did I would make sarcastic and snide comments about each of them.

 

For example he told me how he lost his virginity to his brother's ex-girlfriend and the first comment out of my mouth was me laughing and saying "What you got sloopy seconds, that's disgusting". (Well actually I do thank her for telling him that if he was having sex he could only have sex with that person until the relationship is over then he could find someone else).

 

I don't mention my ex-boyfriend, but he always brings up his ex-girlfriends right out of the nowhere. I told him that when he brings up his ex-girlfriends, I will bring up my boyfriend and brag about what my ex and I did. That made him shutup.

 

So guys have you had these kind of experiences with your loved ones?

[Davey McG]

Yeah,

 

When I first started seeing my SO she used to talk about her previous boyfriend A LOT - even though she'd broken up with 18 months before we started dating.

 

Wasn't so much sexual, but always going on about holidays and things they'd done together and how rich he was (or his parents were). I mean, it was annoying and a little boring because it covered nearly all of her stories.

 

After a while, and I'll admit I probably didn't handle it the best way, I got annoyed and rather than mention my own experiences (I don't kiss and tell) I told her I was finished with her because she wasn't over her ex and I didn't want to be second place. I told her to go and sort her head out.

 

She didn't take it very well but, as it transpired, she only told me these stories to make her look more adventurous and interesting. She told me that she was worried I'd think she was dull and hadn't done anything interesting as I had just been travelling when we first got together. As it turned out, half of the stories were exaggerated to be more interesting than they actually were.

[LolitaAnastasia]

Well my boyfriend isn't dull he just brings them up for no reason, well he hasn't bought them up since I laughed at him sleeping with his brother's ex.

 

It is still annoying though lol.

 

Are you back with your girlfriend Davey?

[Davey McG]

Yes,

 

We're actually married now. This is going back a few years and I think at the time she was trying to make herself look more experienced and worldly than she was. I didn't think she was boring, but she did. I found her interesting and intelligent, but I suppose everyone thinks themselves mundane.

[LolitaAnastasia]

That is awesome that your married hee hee

 

But yeah I know, sometimes I think he believes his life is boring lol.

[Carmen87]

My current SO used to at times, but it was mostly when we were talking about issues we had.

 

His ex gf was a horrible person who was very mentally unstable. He stayed with her until she dumped him because she threatened suicide so many times. She was abusive emotionally and mentally. His other ex gf is a very spoiled child who would openly try to get with other guys in front of him.

 

If he has something to say, it is rarely good.

[LolitaAnastasia]

Well most of the time he just brags on what they did together sometimes it's bad, such as his first girlfriend dumping him, then dating other guys from his school who had the same name.

 

Then he told me about this girl he went to the prom with who openly said she was afraid to have sex with him cause he looked to big (he is 8 inches) and then the girl slept with two of his best mates.

 

There was another girl who became pregnant but he didn't know if it was his child or someone else's cause the girl was raped.

 

But it is rather annoying thinking that he thinks of these other girls besides me, he is ten years my senior, but then again I think of my ex-boyfriend.

[trubella]

sometimes he will mention a ex. he used to do the comparisons thing between me and his last ex early in the R. he was split from her for a year when i came into the picture so i was a little annoyed that he would bring her up occasionally. i made sure to let him know that bothered me and for the most part he doesnt bring her up anymore.

[Phateless]

Yes I have. My girl did the same thing, although it's been less since we talked about it. Now I just cut her off if she starts in too much about the exes. I told her she needs to be able to tell me the story and leave the other person out of it. It's about YOU not YOU AND YOUR EX.

[Trialbyfire]

Nope, I don't care about when people talk about their exes. The only time it bothers me is if they're still stuck on their exes but at the same time, are with me. This type of behaviour is revolting. Get over your ex first before getting involved with me.