Baybee9404 Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 I need some advice on a situation that is bothering me like no tommorrow, my bf and i have been together for 4 years now and engaged for like a year, we have a 9 month old son together, and he has full physical custody and shared legal custody of his 6 year old daughter. her mother pays no child support, takes her on the weekends when she wants too, but only likes to appear when the daughter has big appointments for school or doctors. Pretty much i am the one who cares for, looks after and supports our son and his daughter 24/7 and i love them both to no end.. his daughter recently had her tonsil and adnoids taken out and i had to sit in the waiting room because her mother was there, my bf did not say a word and when i approached him about it in the hospital, but after when we got home he said u heard the nurse only 2 people can go in... why was i left out of that i am the one who takes care of her not her mother and i have to sit in the waiting room... the other thing that bothers me is he will not take her to court to get child support or make her take the daughter for visitions. but its ok for me to support her take care of her and look after her and when i dont he gets pissed, when i bring up take her to court stuff and make her pay for her childs needs, and be there for her and he tells me that is not my business it is his problem.... please help me i am at my last straw with this guy... thank you Link to post Share on other sites
wendyieann Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 I was a stepmom for 5 yrs and I have learned unless your b/f wants to include you there is nothing you can do. Research and find sites that are mainly for step parenting and ask them.... I know the frustration, but it isn't the childs fault, and no matter what the mother will always come before you. It's something you have to accept. When she gets older, your stepdaughter will understand...trust me.... Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted August 8, 2008 Share Posted August 8, 2008 That's a sad situation to be in. Sad and frustrating. The only thing i do know is that little girl needs someone like you in her life. Sounds like you're the one real constant that kid has. Link to post Share on other sites
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