To find someone to date...do you have to try just as hard as the other person?

[Brady_to_Moss]

Do you have to put in the same effort as say the person that is also trying to meet someone??

 

I just got back from Best Buy and there was this girl at the register who was very pretty...i kinda wanted to flirt with her becasue flirting is new to me.... but i didnt know what to do ..She actually flirted with me but i didnt give it back...i am to inexperianced in that and it sucks...would i have to give the same ammount back to her to even move to the next step?

[Suiyobi]

It's a give-and-take relationship. Both parties should exert some effort to keep things rolling.

[Brady_to_Moss]

It's a give-and-take relationship. Both parties should exert some effort to keep things rolling.

 

 

Yea i just wish i was better with flirting with girls...i make eye contact and smile but thats it whats the next level?

[Suiyobi]

Contribute to that small talk that you guys are having. Remember to keep the smile but make sure it doesn't feel (and most importantly, look) forced, or you'll look rather strange and unpleasant.

 

And remember, if all goes well, go in for the closure. Ask her for her number so you guys can hang out some other time.

[LovehateLove]

You don’t have to flirt to score dates and you could have even complimented what she was wearing or how her hair looked and that might have sprung up a conversation starter. If you feel things are going well ask her for her contact details.

 

Another cliché I’m sure you’ve heard before is the “when you don’t expect the unexpected, something usually happens”. I have found this to be true and I met my girlfriend that way. I bumped into her in a sandwich shop, got talking, felt attraction and took the leap of asking her for her contact details, she accepted and the rest is history.

 

I’m not the most confident man around, but I learnt in my late teens that rejection is nothing to fear and that as long as you have some form of confidence, high self esteem and are secure and comfortable being you, then it put you in good stead.

[Brady_to_Moss]

You don’t have to flirt to score dates and you could have even complimented what she was wearing or how her hair looked and that might have sprung up a conversation starter. If you feel things are going well ask her for her contact details.

 

Another cliché I’m sure you’ve heard before is the “when you don’t expect the unexpected, something usually happens”. I have found this to be true and I met my girlfriend that way. I bumped into her in a sandwich shop, got talking, felt attraction and took the leap of asking her for her contact details, she accepted and the rest is history.

 

I’m not the most confident man around, but I learnt in my late teens that rejection is nothing to fear and that as long as you have some form of confidence, high self esteem and are secure and comfortable being you, then it put you in good stead.

 

 

Thanks...i just wish i was better at this but hopefully it will come

[A7XFan]

Well it seems to help if you act kinda cocky and funny - I'm not saying be a jerk (thats a nooo) but just kinda pick on her, but make sure she knows your kidding.

 

Just getting her to laugh without acting like an idiot can impress, too.

[LovehateLove]

Thanks...i just wish i was better at this but hopefully it will come

 

It comes naturally, it came naturally to me. It's all about self improvement. I decided to fix the things I was unhappy about and when I became satisfied, and happy the rest followed i.e the confidence, higher self esteem and comfort in my own skin.

 

When a person says a person will treat you the way you see yourself or will see you the way you see yourself, that's true. You might not realize it now, but you will do.

[LovehateLove]

Well it seems to help if you act kinda cocky and funny - I'm not saying be a jerk (thats a nooo) but just kinda pick on her, but make sure she knows your kidding.

 

Just getting her to laugh without acting like an idiot can impress, too.

 

It becomes tiresome for the girl after a while, if you have a good sense of humour and have chemistry with a girl, then she'll laugh without you even trying to be funny. Trying to be funny or trying to be confidence, assertive etc comes across as being false/fake and women pick up on this so easily through the way you behave.

 

It's best not to act nor try, but to just be you and see what happens.

[A7XFan]

It becomes tiresome for the girl after a while, if you have a good sense of humour and have chemistry with a girl, then she'll laugh without you even trying to be funny. Trying to be funny or trying to be confidence, assertive etc comes across as being false/fake and women pick up on this so easily through the way you behave.

 

It's best not to act nor try, but to just be you and see what happens.

Well I didn't mean to be like that all the time - I mean why would you want a girl that doesn't like you for you anyway?

 

Its just a good way to get them to start talking to you - at least it seems to work for me

[fral945]

Do you have to put in the same effort as say the person that is also trying to meet someone??

 

If you're male, you'll most likely have to put in more effort. That's just the way of the world. Women don't put in the effort because they don't have to.

 

It's unlikely the women that pursue you will be the ones you want anyway.

 

I just got back from Best Buy and there was this girl at the register who was very pretty...i kinda wanted to flirt with her becasue flirting is new to me.... but i didnt know what to do ..She actually flirted with me but i didnt give it back...i am to inexperianced in that and it sucks...would i have to give the same ammount back to her to even move to the next step?

 

Very few of us are born a good flirt. Practice, practice, practice, my friend. Flirts with old ladies, moms, young girls, girls you're not attracted to, any females. Just try it, you'll get better.

[LovehateLove]

Well I didn't mean to be like that all the time - I mean why would you want a girl that doesn't like you for you anyway?

 

Its just a good way to get them to start talking to you - at least it seems to work for me

 

Oh, I meant no harm. I was just offering the other side of the coin to Brady. It does work in small doses, I tend to do it naturally, especially, if I get away with it.

 

I find introducing yourself and talking about her interests and what she likes and dislikes to be great conversation starters. The whole "picking on her jokingly" comes a bit later for me...cheeky smiles and winks usually come before that and after the "small talk".

[Suiyobi]

Flirts with old ladies, moms, young girls, girls you're not attracted to, any females. Just try it, you'll get better.

 

Though it takes a lot of skill to be able to "flirt" without giving them the wrong idea. Otherwise, you're gonna have lots of heartbreaking to do...

[LovehateLove]

Though it takes a lot of skill to be able to "flirt" without giving them the wrong idea. Otherwise, you're gonna have lots of heartbreaking to do...

 

What? Most men and women see flirting as a bit of chuckle and nothing more. The people that flirting to heart usually haven't got a clue about the whole "game" i.e meeting a woman, dating a woman, getting into a relationship with a woman.