What did you do with your rings?

[discouraged4ever]

my soon to be XH sold mine and used it to pay the mortgage in the month of may with out my permission, just to be cruel. the mortgage is his CS payment for now. CRUEL eh?

[makinitwork]

i managed to sell them sure it was less than the market but the closure was relieving by makinitwork

 

Curios to know if people kept their rings, traded them in, or managed to sell them.

 

Looking for some thoughts on what to do with my engagement ring. It's suggested I just keep it cause it will sell for a fraction of what I paid.

[Ocean-Blue]

Mine are in my jewelry box, and I will give them to my daughter when she is older. Mine doesn't fit me anymore, and H doesn't want to wear his. The marriage didn't work out the first time around, so we don't want to recycle the rings. When the time is right we'll get new and completely different ones.

 

Sorry for the momentary threadjack...but you are back with your H LB? That is awesome news!

[LucreziaBorgia]

Sorry for the momentary threadjack...but you are back with your H LB? That is awesome news!

 

Yup. I moved in a bunch of my stuff into his place during this week. I'll move the rest of it this weekend and part of next week. We are taking it slow though. There is no doubt that we want to be married, but we are working on an entirely new relationship. The marriage we had is gone and dead. We let it go and are starting again. We are accepting those things about each other that tore up apart before. It is interesting - sort of like dating the clone of the person you used to be married to. We are different people now than we were before. It is working so much better now, that's for sure.

 

As for the rings, neither of us are ready to renew vows or exchange rings. It will happen one day, but we're pretty comfortable feeling things at a slower pace right now.

 

We do look at rings and speculate about what sort we'd like to have - it is fun. I am thinking the re-engagement ring would be a beveled channel set eternity ring (with small stones), and titanium wedding bands.

 

The old ones? I see them more as a symbol of second chances rather than a failed marriage. Perhaps my daughter will find good use for them when she is older. It would be neat to melt them down and make a pendant or something.

[Rooster_DAR]

Yup. I moved in a bunch of my stuff into his place during this week. I'll move the rest of it this weekend and part of next week. We are taking it slow though. There is no doubt that we want to be married, but we are working on an entirely new relationship. The marriage we had is gone and dead. We let it go and are starting again. We are accepting those things about each other that tore up apart before. It is interesting - sort of like dating the clone of the person you used to be married to. We are different people now than we were before. It is working so much better now, that's for sure.

 

As for the rings, neither of us are ready to renew vows or exchange rings. It will happen one day, but we're pretty comfortable feeling things at a slower pace right now.

 

We do look at rings and speculate about what sort we'd like to have - it is fun. I am thinking the re-engagement ring would be a beveled channel set eternity ring (with small stones), and titanium wedding bands.

 

The old ones? I see them more as a symbol of second chances rather than a failed marriage. Perhaps my daughter will find good use for them when she is older. It would be neat to melt them down and make a pendant or something.

 

Awesome...glad to hear you two are working it out.

[MyAbusa]

Wow, even remembering back seven years to what I did with the wedding rings makes me feel embarrassed of my childish behavior. The rings, well, I took into the mountains & threw them off a cliff. Of course that wasn’t enough to make me feel better so I headed home & destroyed every wedding photo & remaining wedding gift that might remind me of our ten years together.

Finally, I noticed her bright white wedding dress, still covered with plastic & hung lovingly in the closet. So, I took it out in the yard, used it to clean up all the dog poop my ex had neglected to pick up since kicking me out & gingerly draped it over the hood of her car at work so it wouldn’t be missed. Thinking back, she definitely wasn’t worth the energy but at the time it did help me vent a little.

Nowadays, I find other ways of getting rid of wedding rings. In fact, I got rid of one just last weekend. I was remarried last Friday & only 22 hours later left my wedding ring on the bottom of a river while white water kayaking during our honeymoon.

[Starfire3010]

I have been married for four years and I am now divorcing. My husband says my rings were a gift and I can do whatever I want with the. However whether she gave it back or you took it back, you have it. Try selling it on eBay before selling to a jeweler. You will only get a fraction of the cost.

[RecordProducer]

Curios to know if people kept their rings, traded them in, or managed to sell them.

 

Looking for some thoughts on what to do with my engagement ring. It's suggested I just keep it cause it will sell for a fraction of what I paid.

What YOU paid for it? So you are the man,but you kept HER engagement ring?

 

I never got any diamond rings from any of my two husbands, even though my second one is a millionaire. I only have wedding bands that I plan to sell or whatever very soon. I am not into keeping souvenirs and I don't see what I would do with two useless things. Even if I get $100 and spend them in a restaurant, it's more worth than keeping two ugly memories.

[flower_fairy11]

I put mine in my will for my children: My engagement ring for my son when he finds his future wife. My wedding and aniversary bands for my daughter. She can do with them what she pleases.

[babysmomma]

I AM CONVINCED that thing is bad luck so although it is a beautiful platinum ring with pretty band work "elvish" I think it is evil so I am passsing on the evil thing to someone that can hopefully cleanse it

 

I am going to go to some brokers and see what it will bring I Thought about holding on it but really....I would NEVER give it to my son (the bad luck karma) and don't want to wear it divorced.

 

It was about $7,000 retail so wonder what it will be worth.......1ct diamond plat setting and designed by a famous designer

[lonelyandfrustrated]

I took my first ring and had the diamond turned into a stud earring, just did an even swap with the jeweler. He kept the band, he gave me the earring base and no charge for labor.

 

This time, H asked me what size diamond I wanted, and I just grabbed my ear where I wear the stud and said, "Just get one that matches this, so in case it doesn't work out, I'll have a set." I'm thinking now that probably wasn't a good idea.

[nowhereman82]

I took my first ring and had the diamond turned into a stud earring, just did an even swap with the jeweler. He kept the band, he gave me the earring base and no charge for labor.

 

This time, H asked me what size diamond I wanted, and I just grabbed my ear where I wear the stud and said, "Just get one that matches this, so in case it doesn't work out, I'll have a set." I'm thinking now that probably wasn't a good idea.

 

LOL....yea wow....don't know how I would respond to that one. Plus the fact that you wear the rock of your ex on your ear....thing the reminder would bug me personally.

[Trimmer]

I AM CONVINCED that thing is bad luck so although it is a beautiful platinum ring with pretty band work "elvish" I think it is evil so I am passsing on the evil thing to someone that can hopefully cleanse it

 

I am going to go to some brokers and see what it will bring I Thought about holding on it but really....I would NEVER give it to my son (the bad luck karma) and don't want to wear it divorced.

 

It was about $7,000 retail so wonder what it will be worth.......1ct diamond plat setting and designed by a famous designer

... sounds like that's another one that needs to be thrown into a volcano...

 

Mine is still sitting in a jewelry box with assorted never-used cufflinks and a few old earrings from my wild-child phase. I always loved that ring from an aesthetic perspective, so I have mixed feelings about it. So, inaction is my action at this point.

[yongyong]

Question for woman

I broke up with my gf after I gave her a promise ring so I never saw her wearing it after that. we are kind of friends now but still kisses each other sometime lol

 

anyway, I ran into her at the club and she showed me this ring on her ring finger.

 

Is it a way of saying 'I want to get back with you?'

 

I really don't want to ask her 'hey why did you wear that? what does that mean?'

[SingleDad]

Seems likely...

 

Is this a club that she would expect to see you at... and be prepared with the ring in her pocket just in case?

 

A ring on the ring finger of the left hand generally means only one thing - she's spoken for - to the person who gave her the ring.

 

Likely it is wishful thinking... also says she is not dating other people... at least when she is wearing the ring.

 

Does she act like she wants to get back together with you ? Do you want to ?

[yongyong]

No, I never went to that club before. only heared she went there once.

 

yeah I don't think she prepared. it was on her right hand cuz she is mexican (that's the culture she said)

 

she asked if I wanted her to wear on left hand but I said she could wear on right hand.

 

 

Seems likely...

 

Is this a club that she would expect to see you at... and be prepared with the ring in her pocket just in case?

 

A ring on the ring finger of the left hand generally means only one thing - she's spoken for - to the person who gave her the ring.

 

Likely it is wishful thinking... also says she is not dating other people... at least when she is wearing the ring.

 

Does she act like she wants to get back together with you ? Do you want to ?

[SingleDad]

I heard that culture for right hand too... and the fact she asked which hand.

 

My guess is she wants to be with you.

[xxxheartbrokenxxx]

Curios to know if people kept their rings, traded them in, or managed to sell them.

 

Looking for some thoughts on what to do with my engagement ring. It's suggested I just keep it cause it will sell for a fraction of what I paid.

 

I got engaged to a guy 3 years ago but he turned out to be abusive, we seperated over 2 years ago - to this day I still have the ring but now I want to take it to a jewellers & get some $$$ for it.

 

I should have done it ages ago but not really thought about it lately as the ring is in a box somewhere but seeing this thread reminded me so I will do it soon!

 

When we first split up I felt too guilty & wanted to keep the ring but now I just think - whats the point in hanging on to something from the past giving off negative vibes & bad memories?