Conflicts in what he all has said. But I'm still JEALOUS

[soyou]

Here is my story. When me and my Bf first met, I did not like him at all and never thought that I would even have a short crush on him. I would never love a man like him, just be'cos my dream man is so different.

 

He asked me out a couple of times in the beginning. I did not like him but did not refuse to go out with him. I was just intending to have some fun since I did not have a bf at that time.

 

During our first meets, we talked a lot about his ex. For instance: they had a wonderful sexual life. It went so well and both of them loved it. That she looked much younger than her real age. She was very attractive and smart. Also, he is a businessman and his main job is to travel around and do business. Everywhere he went, he took her with him.

 

In short, they had a very good time together and she is very good and he treated her well.

 

At that time, it did not bother me. I jst laughed my ass up because I thought he was trying to make me jealous. But i wasnt into him so I didnt give a damn thought. It was just his nonsense history.

 

However, you never know what happens in life.

 

Three months after that, I was crazily in love with him. And things got back and bothered me. (I have a very good memory. Important and unimporant things I can all remember in details).

 

He always says that he has never had a wild and crazy sex life, just like it with me. He loves it so much.In the beginning, i wanted to ask him that "you said to me that you and your ex had a very good sex and you both enjoy it a lot. Now you say it to me again, what's is really the best to you?".

 

But I thought it shouldnt be too chilish or jealous since it was his past.

 

One time, he questioned me after we had sex. He asked me if my ex gave me a head down before. I did not say nothing and it meant he needed to understand himself that it was a YES. He was kind jealous but still acted calm (maybe, tried to show he is a mature and real man). I thought it was a right time to ask him back.

 

I said "well, you have a very gorgeous history. You had a wonderful sex with you ex. You two did many things together. I did not bother. Why do you have to be jealous with my ex?)

 

He asked me back "who told you that?Sex with her was boring. It was like she's my GF and my duty is to have sex with her sometimes." (seems like he didnt remember what he had said to me before)

 

Here we come again. Since I started this relationship wih him, he has had to travel a lot. But never asked me to go with him, even once. It's not that I love going and accompanying all the time. But it's just because he took his ex with him everywhere, why not with me. Maybe, he was not into me.

 

I asked him directly again abt that. He again seemed to have forgotten what he had said to me from the beginning. He said "no, she never went with me when I was on my businesstrip. If yes, it was just one or two and very short trips". After he turned a topic in a way that I knew i should stop barking.

 

My confusion is:

 

1. All the things he had said from the beginning when we met was just exggagerated. Just to catch my attention and make me jealous

 

2. All the things he had said was true, but now b'cos he is with me. He does not want to have fights so he pretends eevrything with me is better than ever.

 

His history does not affect my life much. But sometimes, when things happen and are partly related to these activities, it does bother me.

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

When me and my Bf first met, I did not like him at all and never thought that I would even have a short crush on him. I would never love a man like him, just be'cos my dream man is so different.

 

He asked me out a couple of times in the beginning. I did not like him but did not refuse to go out with him. I was just intending to have some fun since I did not have a bf at that time.

 

During our first meets, we talked a lot about his ex. For instance: they had a wonderful sexual life. It went so well and both of them loved it. That she looked much younger than her real age. She was very attractive and smart. Also, he is a businessman and his main job is to travel around and do business. Everywhere he went, he took her with him.

 

In short, they had a very good time together and she is very good and he treated her well.

 

At that time, it did not bother me. I jst laughed my ass up because I thought he was trying to make me jealous. But i wasnt into him so I didnt give a damn thought. It was just his nonsense history.

 

However, you never know what happens in life.

 

Three months after that, I was crazily in love with him. And things got back and bothered me. (I have a very good memory. Important and unimporant things I can all remember in details).

This sounds similar to my story, except I think I didn't like him at first BECAUSE he talked about his ex (who was very pretty and very tall--he liked tall girls) in that way. I turned him down at first too, and then subsequently fell in love with him

 

Whether he was exaggerating his sexual tales to impress you or is lying to you now--neither are commendable. You need to explicitly bring up the fact that he said those things to you before you were dating and have him deal with it. Find out the truth!