Career or intitative?

[fral945]

This question is for women,

 

Is it more important to you that a man has a career he loves or just has an initiative to work?

 

I ask this question because I fall in the latter category. I have a job that pays well, stable, with a good future, but I don't particularly enjoy it all that much. I have other interests, but I know those will never pay as well and would take me several yrs to transition. I don't really have one thing I would love to do, I actually wouldn't mind making a career out of 2 jobs if it was possible to do that (and get health benefits and work a 40 hour workweek), but the world is not set up that way.

 

I've always worked and made money. I've never been fired, and I've never had trouble finding work. I just am not driven by a specific career path, I'm more driven to accomplish things. Specifically what I do isn't all that important to me.

 

What do you all think?

[Suiyobi]

Good question. Like you, I think I fall in the "initiative to work" category, one where I feel "more driven to accomplish things" rather than aiming a "specific career path". Curious as to what a woman would find more attractive...

[Ronni_W]

I just am not driven by a specific career path, I'm more driven to accomplish things. Specifically what I do isn't all that important to me.

What do you all think?

If YOU are comfortable with how you are earning your income, I think that is the most important thing. I like the idea of seeing a job primarily as a source of income, rather than the place to get most of one's self-esteem, self-worth, sense of identity, etc. (Although, of course, it is nice when the job enhances those feelings.)

 

The downside is that OTHERS use job/career as a measure of the person. So, maybe it depends where one is in life? -- if one wants to "impress" others with job title, WHO one still needs to impress (e.g., future spouse & in-laws.)

 

For me, though, an "initiative" to work only counts when it's put into action. Sitting on the couch with huge globs of willingness and desire does not bring home the bacon .

 

EDIT: I'd rather my partner be happy/comfortable with how he earns his income than have a fancy title and fat pay cheque, and not feel good about himself in the process.