oliverp123 Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 about a year ago i met a girl, ever since we'v been chatting for a long time, about a month ago between us things hav become more intimate and we always tell each other how much we love each other and how we want to see each other, but now she knows how i feel of her she wont go into a relationship with me or anything and im feeling upset. shes the only girl i like. Link to post Share on other sites
SimpleGirl. Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 about a year ago i met a girl, ever since we'v been chatting for a long time, about a month ago between us things hav become more intimate and we always tell each other how much we love each other and how we want to see each other, but now she knows how i feel of her she wont go into a relationship with me or anything and im feeling upset. shes the only girl i like. Have you tried talking to her about the whole situation? Or maybe asked her why she doesn't want a relationship with you? Theres many reasons of why she may not want to get into a relationship. Doesn't mean the reason is you, just incase you were thinking that. If she's become more intimate with you, that could possibly be a sign of that shes interested in you. You say you tell each other you love one another all the time? Are you both in love with each other or is it a friendship kinda love? She may be meaning it in a different way to you? Try and talk to her about it. Rather try and fail then not try at all. Keep Smiling! SimpleGirl* Link to post Share on other sites
Author oliverp123 Posted August 10, 2008 Author Share Posted August 10, 2008 hey well iv spoken to her about it, and well... iv told her the situation and it seems she means it in more a friendly way... but she always tells me how i mean the most to her out of everyone she knows. but now shes telling me how she feels weird about this guy who she likes, but she isnt sure if she likes him, she tells me shes confused... which makes me feel confused ... Link to post Share on other sites
SimpleGirl. Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 hey well iv spoken to her about it, and well... iv told her the situation and it seems she means it in more a friendly way... but she always tells me how i mean the most to her out of everyone she knows. but now shes telling me how she feels weird about this guy who she likes, but she isnt sure if she likes him, she tells me shes confused... which makes me feel confused ... To be honest, it sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants. She likes another guy, but yet, she's telling you that you mean the most to her, out of anyone, isn't that a little strange? I'm sure she's a lovely girl though, don't get me wrong. When you tell her you love her, do you mean you really love her or just as a friend? You have a choice, it sounds like she needs a friend, and you can be that friend. But, if you like the girl, the last thing you want to hear is her going on about another guy she likes, know what i mean? What i'd do is allow her to talk about how she feels, and then go from there, see what she says and tell her how you feel about it all back. Here if you need some advice. Chin up. SimpleGirl* Link to post Share on other sites
Author oliverp123 Posted August 10, 2008 Author Share Posted August 10, 2008 hey yeh i see what ur saying, she did tell me she was confused, which go's with what ur saying. and well i decided its best to b her friend, me and her have such a big relationship, and we hav done since we first met, and if i lost her id cry for sure, and if we both feel the time is right, sure i will ask her out. but this guy who likes her, she was telling me about him, and he sounds like a not nice guy, he was basically trying to get her to go otu with him, whilst she had a boyfriend, and he makes her feel uncomfortable, but she does like him sort of... but thanks for your help anyway, its more or less sorted out Link to post Share on other sites
SimpleGirl. Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 but thanks for your help anyway, its more or less sorted out Just be her friend, and see how things go. Glad to hear things are sorted =D No problem, anytime. Take care! SimpleGirl* Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 about a year ago i met a girl, ever since we'v been chatting for a long time, about a month ago between us things hav become more intimate and we always tell each other how much we love each other and how we want to see each other, but now she knows how i feel of her she wont go into a relationship with me or anything and im feeling upset. shes the only girl i like. Are you sure you're talking to a woman and not a man in disguise? lol Dude, get her phone no. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oliverp123 Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 iv had her phone number for ages lol Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 You have become comfortable. Since you have talked for a year she has developed affection for you but this does not translate into romantic love. With women if you don't ignite the chemistry soon upon knowing them, if they like you you become a friend. I'm afraid you will be hearing about other guys she likes and will ask you for the male perspective. If you want to be her friend then be that and don't hang around her and cater to her every whim. Don't talk everyday and have a life outside of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 If your lady love is anything like me, she probably can't date someone she has built a friendship and/or family type relationship with. It does not matter how much you may feel you love her, she may not cross that threshold. If I would make a suggestion, for now, back off with the wanting more with her and look for more lively possibilities. And be very careful with those who want to be friends first, basically they are asking you to put yourself on hold until they are ready (and very few ever compromise on their timeline if, they even intend to). Find the women who are looking to date and have fun... And who knows, maybe your true lady love may come around and want to pursue things with you. DNR Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 iv had her phone number for ages lol OP, this is known as the "girlfriend with penis" syndrome and, if not properly treated, it can remain dormant and re-infect you at any time without warning. Just remember this. A woman who tells you she loves you and keeps you at arms length sees you as a girlfriend with a penis. She's not confused. She knows exactly what she wants. Most of the time, it matters not to her what you want, because, frankly, you ain't gonna get it Do not chat with women you wish to date. Ask them out on dates. You sound like a good guy. You'll have many female friends in life. Make sure a few of them sleep with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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