Fritz The Cat Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I have a friend who wants me to come to church to check out this girl. I have no qualms about doing so but wonder what a church going girl thinks about a guy who goes to church looking for a GF. Any of you church girls wanna comment? Link to post Share on other sites
Dharmaa Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I have a friend who wants me to come to church to check out this girl. I have no qualms about doing so but wonder what a church going girl thinks about a guy who goes to church looking for a GF. Any of you church girls wanna comment? I think it's a great idea. Single women outnumber single men in church. I would suggest it to any man looking for a decent woman and grown tired of the search in bars etc..... Now dont get me wrong but please don't disrespect the woman or the place by assuming you can go there looking for a bump and grind. On the other hand, dont assume that church girls are all virgins. It is a pet peeve of mine that people have harsher criticism and higher standards for christians or church members than they have for other human beings because some outspoken church people have tainted their opinions of christians. Make no assumptions about her or any of the other women you meet there. We are all human and religion and sprirituality are just evidence that we wish to aspire to be more. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I have a friend who wants me to come to church to check out this girl. I have no qualms about doing so but wonder what a church going girl thinks about a guy who goes to church looking for a GF. Any of you church girls wanna comment? I've got news for you. That's what church going girls are going to church for - to find a husband. I tell all the single guys I know if you want to find a nice girl - go to church. There are tons of nice women looking for nice guys. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Church isn't a place to pick up husbands or wives....let alone girlfriends. If you there for that, you're definitely not going to get what you're looking for.... Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Agreed. Don't go to church looking for a girl. Go for the right reason - for your own religious faith. Besides, the gal going to church is going for the same reasons as other single folks - forgiveness of sins over the weekend.... You guys probably hang out at the same bars....jk. Seriously, go for God, not the girl. Link to post Share on other sites
FleshNBones Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Churches usually have singles groups. I don't think they will turn away non-Christians. Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Churches usually have singles groups. I don't think they will turn away non-Christians. Maybe so but they will also teach not to be unequally yoked right along with sex being only for married couples. As my home church isn't big enough to have specialized singles ministries I can only tell what I've heard on TV The first lesson I heard on this subject was by Ed Young Jr of a Houston, now Miami mega-church. He was teaching not to accept anything less then the born again testimony before getting into a relationship. Church attendance didn't count, history of going to Sunday school didn't count. The second was Doug Batchelor of a 7th Day Adventist Amazing Facts tele-evangelising show. He was teaching being Christian was not good enough you should be the same denomination. Link to post Share on other sites
KinAZ Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 FleshNBones makes a good point. There are various groups and events hosted by churches that you might be able to check out. If you're not at all religious or interested in religion, I wouldn't suggest going to church just to flirt. If they've never seen you around there before, they might be a little hesitant about saying yes... especially if you're not the friend/relative of Joe Smith. You know? Meeting people at church is usually something along the lines of you become friends or at least better acquainted with someone, and then things progress from there. It's usually not as fast paced as a disco. I met an ex on a church trip. He was there with his friend, I was there with my friend. LOL neither of us were church goers but he THOUGHT I attended the church. Many churches have things like trips to amusement parks, skiing and such. So, if you have a friend who attends a church, that might be something up your alley. Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 Hm. Well, as a "church girl", if I were single I'd be sort of split on what I'd think in that situation. Partly (maybe even mostly) I'd think it was just funny. But there'd also be a part of me that found it a little offensive. It would feel like the guy was disrespecting my spirituality, or that he saw respecting people's religion as less important than his dating-life, which would be quite the turn-off. Balancing both things, I'd turn him down, personally. I wouldn't be able to shake the image of the guy sitting throughout the service checking me out while I was praying. Kinda uncool and even mildly creepy. Sorry. I think if you're really set on meeting this particular girl, maybe have your friend invite her to hang out with the two of you in a social setting. Even if the church has a singles group, it doesn't mean she's a part of it. Have your friend ask around. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 They probably won't put out. Unless you plan on marrying them, I'd say bad idea. Link to post Share on other sites
FleshNBones Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 They probably won't put out. Unless you plan on marrying them, I'd say bad idea. It wouldn't suprise me if some single women went there for the purpose of finding a religious guy. Link to post Share on other sites
KinAZ Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 Oops! I misread. So this is a particular girl, and I take it she goes to your friend's church? I thought you meant look for a girl in general. That's not something unheard of, as long as you don't mean ogle. (But that's probably not unheard of either.) If you're saying someone you might be interested in dating, then yeah... my friends and associates will invite others to their churches if they know someone a single friend might be interested in. If that's the situation, then I say go for it. Sometimes they'll invite the person to church with them, or to another event that they know this person of interest might attend. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 Uh. Just so you know, if she's really a pious Christian, she won't even start anything with a non-Christian guy. Unless.. you're going to church to look for a NON-pious Christian girl? They do exist, like yours truly... but wouldn't that rather defeat the purpose of your chosen venue? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fritz The Cat Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Uh. Just so you know, if she's really a pious Christian, she won't even start anything with a non-Christian guy. Unless.. you're going to church to look for a NON-pious Christian girl? They do exist, like yours truly... but wouldn't that rather defeat the purpose of your chosen venue? If by pious, you mean a fanatical religious nutjob, I'd definitely not looking for that. If she doesn't have both feet planted firmly in reality, I'm not gonna go there. I'm a middle of the road kinda guy, if she swings too far in either direction, I run away. What I mean to say is that I'm looking for someone who's halfway between a whore and a religious fanatic. Link to post Share on other sites
Water Tiger 08 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Would you rather meet a girl in a church, or a bar? Water Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 But church is more than 50% 'religious fanatics'. Not to say that it's a bad thing, they generally don't go around suicide bombing or prophesying naked. But they do usually follow the Bible to the T, which includes only having relationships with other Christians, no intimacy before marriage, etc etc. So I'd say your choice of location might not be the best for what you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
FleshNBones Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 But church is more than 50% 'religious fanatics'.I take it you don't go to church. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Would you rather meet a girl in a church, or a bar? I've done both and to be honest, there wasn't much of a difference. Going to have to agree with Elswyth on this one - it only works out when you find someone who actually follows their Christian beliefs into the dating realm. And yes, that means holding off on certain things. If you live your faith to the T and insist on finding that person who does so as well you are going to be lonely for a long time...especially if you are not of the same upbringing. I've found that its better to simply enjoy your dating experiences outside of church. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
doush Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 I have a friend who wants me to come to church to check out this girl. I have no qualms about doing so but wonder what a church going girl thinks about a guy who goes to church looking for a GF. Any of you church girls wanna comment? In my opinion (coming from a religious family), most of the time church goers tend to only worry if the other person is religious or not. So if you where going to check out girls and not religious, I think they may be offended and try to convert you Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Your friend is doing the right thing. Maybe he knows a woman in church who might be good for you. Or maybe there are things you have in common that he thinks might lead to a good match. God has never said not to be open to the prospects of finding a mate or even a date in the church. No this does not mean you treat the church as a singles bar and your motives should not be JUST to pick up a woman. I have been to a lot of great churches with some fine women in them. I gave my time for worship and then I found an appropriate time to talk to some of the ladies. It is all about knowing the difference of being an honest and mindful of the tenants of your faith and your actions concerning your motives and knowing when you are just being a shark in a pond. DNR Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 I take it you don't go to church. Every Sunday, 20 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 you should also consider going to funerals to meet girls Link to post Share on other sites
naddannad Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 dude, seriously... look m8 - i go to church and its kinda where my friend groups r based - and i know the the reason that there are far mor single men than single woman in church is because less guys come to church - meaning - christian girls "true" christian girls will tend to go for christian guys - period - cuz they get taught from young that it is the best way - less presure to do *wrong things and they no wat they're signing up for . Thats the case in my church - and lets not forget - ther are one or two complete F*ck up girls that didnt date with in the church - and ther us messed up cuz they got messed around by guy after guy- hence most girls date - in the church. So unless your in it for the right reasons - DONT do it --- extra point - both boys/ girls men and woman can all be read like a book - even wen they are convinced that they cant be. You can always tell wat the other sex is thinking. anywayz hope it helps. '<->' Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 dude, seriously... look m8 - i go to church and its kinda where my friend groups r based - and i know the the reason that there are far mor single men than single woman in church is because less guys You go to a church with more single men then women? In my experience most churches are dominated by women, except for the Senior Pastor in those specific denominations, men tend to be few and far between. If we are talking teenagers perhaps but only because the some of the available girls are already coupled with young men in their 20s. Just a hint. I'm not normally a grammer Nazi as anyone can see from my collective post but texting language isn't normal for this board. Link to post Share on other sites
tuscansun Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 So I go to the ROck Church in San Diego and its HUGE, hundreds of people, I see SOOOOO many HOt guys every Sunday and I wish one of them would come up to me and just come out with it and say, hey Im looking for a chick. I think when guys are at church they're under the impression that we girls are so In love with the Lord that we're not thinking about men, we may be trying to live right but we're jonesin' for a boy just as much as the boys are jonesin' for us.....TRUST me Link to post Share on other sites
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