loss4words83 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Hey guys, I really need some advice. I'm very quite and very shy and this is how I've been for as long as I can remember, but I've met this amazing girl who I really, really like. The problem is I think she may be older than me, maybe 4 or 5 years older but I don't know for sure. Than again, because of this babyface that I have I look like 5 years younger than I actually am myself. I met her in one of my college classes. We talk in class a little, but I don't know if she's just being friendly. Because we go to the same train station we walk together from class and just talk about whatever...Unfortunately this class I have with her is only once a week (Mondays). I really want to ask her out but I don't know how to do it. I really don't want to mess up this good friendship that we seem to have. I should also say that she's one of the very few girls who I've been more comfortable with. I stayed up all night tonight just thinking about this and I really need some help/advice. Thanks.
Suiyobi Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Well, first and foremost, you should learn to overcome your shyness. Feel free to read up on books or even search Google for some info on this. Trust me though, building your self-confidence won't happen overnight but you can make the decision to overcome your shyness now. As for the age difference, it shouldn't matter too much. If the girl is interested in you (and you obviously interested in her) then you can still make things work, so long as both of you are of legal age (especially in your case). Just note though that the older the girl, the more different and mature her way of thinking and expectations. I guess it's fun to be a boy every now and then, but you have to show her that you can be a MAN. Just basing on what you've said thus far though I think this lady just sees you as a friend, or worst case, a younger brother. If you're already friendly with her then you might want to take the next step soon, such as flirting. And next time you want to hang out with her, ask her out on a proper date. Don't say words like "hang out" or "chill" because they give the implication that you just want company and you're not interested in her as a girlfriend.
Author loss4words83 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 Thanks for replying, Suiyobi. I think her being just friendly is what I'm most afraid of. Even if I can't date her I'd still like to be friends with her and I feel if I asked her out I might ruin everything. As far as self-esteem goes she's one of the few girls with whom I feel really confident for some reason. She's very easy going, very nice, and just from looking at her you can tell that she's a really good person. She just gives out this positive vibe, I'm not sure how else to explain it. I feel if I could ever be with anyone it would be with a girl like her. I just hope I didn't wait too long (I've known her for about 5 weeks now). Maybe if I had a chance in weeks 1 or 2 I hope now isn't too late. Thanks again.
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