bish Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Agreed. She really is selfish! It's all about her, how she feels. She is blame shifting! And Bullcraping us! And once again, the part she just doesn't get....or chooses to ignore. Its one or the other, I'd like to ask her to take her pick and tell us which one it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 And once again, the part she just doesn't get....or chooses to ignore. Its one or the other, I'd like to ask her to take her pick and tell us which one it is. Perhaps it's both, have you ever considered that? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Maybe he needs to read this. Then maybe he'll see what he is really dealing with....someone who feels she is reaping benefits from her affair by getting him to act the way she wants. Its nothing less than emotional extortion. Someone already told her they thought her husband should read this thread. She replied and said that he had, and that she didn't have anything to hide, and that her husband tripped out on certain people's responses. Scoll up some and you'll see she said he read it. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Maybe he needs to read this. Then maybe he'll see what he is really dealing with....someone who feels she is reaping benefits from her affair by getting him to act the way she wants. Its nothing less than emotional extortion. You know, if he ever did come on here and read this, I'd have to wonder about his reaction, his feelings, speaking of feelings, it sounds like he never really hit that anger stage, sounds a little strange to me. So much so that I'd doubt that he'd stay with her. Having said all of that, that reminds me of Smooth, and how she tried to smooth talk us into believing that it was ok for her to work at the same place as the OM. I wonder what's going on with her husband. Anyway, when a bomb like that goes off, it's never better, only worse, that being said, the poster actually sounds glad that she had the affair, at least on her end. Like I said before, it all sounds like she wanted nasty revenge, that's all, and she got it! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Someone already told her they thought her husband should read this thread. She replied and said that he had, and that she didn't have anything to hide, and that her husband tripped out on certain people's responses. Scoll up some and you'll see she said he read it. Tripped out? I'll take that as a bad thing. If it was meant as a good thing, well, there's no way that could, or rather would happen, and that's if he's normal. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Ok, I saw the part where she said he did read it, beside that point, why doesn't he come on here himself and post, yes, some may even bash him for staying, mostly wanting him to get out and trade in the poster for two 20 year olds, but, anyway, there are some that would be happy if he did stay and fix the marriage. Some may even want to know why, or how he could stay after a selfish, revengeful affair happened. It sounds like he's blaming himself for what happened, he has nothing to blame himself over, Nothing! To me, it almost sounds like the poster is allowing her husband to accept some blame to asswage her grief and/or responsibility for her actions. That's what I'm getting......... Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Hey again MVPV I am awfully sorry that I could not respond to posters comment before now. I had to tame some PC gremlins. Never mind the semantics regarding the title of this post. It is apparent that you are joyful in the restoration and renovation of your marriage. I rejoice with you. I am sure that you will be able to encourage many others that find themselves in the circumstances that you were. Welcome, both you and your husband to Loveshack. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Tripped out? I'll take that as a bad thing. If it was meant as a good thing, well, there's no way that could, or rather would happen, and that's if he's normal. I took "tripped out" to mean he laughed at or thought what some posters had to say was just silly or alot of bullsh*t, kind of like how the OP feels about certain posters too. BUT, no one knows for sure, because it's what SHE said HE said. He may have, he may not, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I took "tripped out" to mean he laughed at or thought what some posters had to say was just silly or alot of bullsh*t, kind of like how the OP feels about certain posters too. BUT, no one knows for sure, because it's what SHE said HE said. He may have, he may not, lol. Sounds like maybe they were sitting together reading the posts, and when they came to certain one's, they had a good laugh together about certain replies. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 "Tripping out" can be that he got angry as well. Link to post Share on other sites
couchmonkey Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Sadly, the OP will probably never return to this thread because she came here with the intention to teach us that Affairs can make Marriages Great rather than to learn how wrong that concept really is. Sadly...for her own marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 i read her title to this thread as a way to justify what she did and try to pass it off as something hat was a good thing... her poor husband... he's buying into this pile of $hit? wow - let's see how she would feel if the tables were turned... would she be happy and grateful for an affair making her marriage better for her husband's cheating? the justifying is despicable. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 i read her title to this thread as a way to justify what she did and try to pass it off as something hat was a good thing... her poor husband... he's buying into this pile of $hit? wow - let's see how she would feel if the tables were turned... would she be happy and grateful for an affair making her marriage better for her husband's cheating? the justifying is despicable. That's the point we're making, and the point see just doesn't get! Link to post Share on other sites
NewSunrise Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 This post could have been written by my xWH. The narcisstic b-stard actually thought "his" affair could improve "his" marriage. Yeah right. Then kicked him out. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Someone already told her they thought her husband should read this thread. She replied and said that he had, and that she didn't have anything to hide, and that her husband tripped out on certain people's responses. Scoll up some and you'll see she said he read it. Ya, I bet he tripped out on the replies:rolleyes: If he tripped out on what we have been saying, then he is a whipped pup and she got what SHE wanted.....which is all that mattered in the first place....what SHE wants. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Ok, I saw the part where she said he did read it, beside that point, why doesn't he come on here himself and post, yes, some may even bash him for staying I won't bash a BS. My sympathies lie with them. But I do think he is a fool if he doesn't see that its all about her and that she is saying her affair was good to get him to act the way she wants. Maybe he'll read that and remember that if she isn't the perfect wife in the future (although we know she is because she said she is:rolleyes:), that he'll know he can go out and have an affair to give her a symbolic slap in the face to wake her up. Afterall, according to the OP, its all good.....right? Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 i read her title to this thread as a way to justify what she did and try to pass it off as something hat was a good thing... her poor husband... he's buying into this pile of $hit? Apparantly so...well, according to her anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 This post could have been written by my xWH. The narcisstic b-stard actually thought "his" affair could improve "his" marriage. Yeah right. Then kicked him out. According to the OP, you gave up on your marriage. isn't that rich? Rather than your husband giving up on the M by going out and having an affair, OP would have this board believe that it is YOU that gave up so easily. Now that is classic! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 he'll know he can go out and have an affair to give her a symbolic slap in the face to wake her up. Afterall, according to the OP, its all good.....right? well that - and the fact that an affair makes the marriage better! well if that is the case why don't ALL married peeps start screwing around on a spouse to make sure it stays great? :lmao: i hope my sarcasm comes through in my typing... Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I won't bash a BS. My sympathies lie with them. But I do think he is a fool if he doesn't see that its all about her and that she is saying her affair was good to get him to act the way she wants. Maybe he'll read that and remember that if she isn't the perfect wife in the future (although we know she is because she said she is:rolleyes:), that he'll know he can go out and have an affair to give her a symbolic slap in the face to wake her up. Afterall, according to the OP, its all good.....right? I see what you are saying, I wish he would come on here and see that his wife wrote that her affair was good for the marriage, but, HOW for him? It's like he has to work his ASS off otherwise she'll cheat again! That's not a marriage! That's being held HOSTAGE! Meanwhile she doesn't have to do a thing, but, reap in the benifits of his toiling! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Apparantly so...well, according to her anyway. Like I said on Smooth's Thread, "NOW I KNOW HUBBY'S NOT READING THIS THREAD! Ain't no way!:eek:" I have a feeling that she's snowballing us here! However, if he really is reading her Thread, then I invite him to post his OWN Thread on here! I'd like to hear his own thoughts and feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Like I said on Smooth's Thread, "NOW I KNOW HUBBY'S NOT READING THIS THREAD! Ain't no way!:eek:" I have a feeling that she's snowballing us here! However, if he really is reading her Thread, then I invite him to post his OWN Thread on here! I'd like to hear his own thoughts and feelings. I agree, I would like to hear his side as well. However, I would imagine if he were to "magically" appear, it probably wouldn't even be him after all, if you get what I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I would suspect that her H has to forgive her daily or at least as often as the mind movies play. Why he would stay with her is a question that only he and God can answer, but I applaud anyone who can forgive and continue to move forward. You don't cheat on someone you love and respect. Period. She will view him as weak because of his forgiveness. That's how bad people see the world. It will be an opportunity to take advantage, nothing more. Of course she will say different, because nobody wants to admit how horrible they are inside... even to themselves. This thread is proof of that. Disguised as helpful, the intent is nothing more than to justify hurting her H. Some people never understand. And call me a dumbassfor staying, but I really don't care and itdoesn't bother me, what bothers me is that u try to put out the negative and ignore the positive. And yes... I admit it too, our marriage has been great leately. Now that I communicate with my wife, I have come to realize how lovely she is, funny, sweet, and just hearing how her day went at work, it makes me feel blessed to have a woman like her." Well, there you go. (I love you baby!!) <for my H. ("I love you to mija") from my H to me. Our choices are our responsibility. It's a good thing this was all your fault, because that gives you the ability to control this in the future. Just pay lots of attention to her... make sure you don't force her to cheat again! Or wait... maybe that would further improve your marriage... Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I agree, I would like to hear his side as well. However, I would imagine if he were to "magically" appear, it probably wouldn't even be him after all, if you get what I mean. HONEY! I thought the same thing! ;)BTW, not bad pic! Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted September 16, 2008 Share Posted September 16, 2008 I'd like to hear his own thoughts and feelings. Me too. I don't think his thoughts and feelings are anywhere close to what her gaslighting version of the story is. He may want to stay in the marriage for whatever reason, but I don't think he is anywhere near the whipped puppy she makes him out to be and believes he needs to be kept in line out of fear of her cheating again. Link to post Share on other sites
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