WiseOne1 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 If you no longer love your ex, and no longer have the feeling to want to be with them, would you take them back. Lets say if they broke your heart a couple of years ago, and just all of a sudden came back, would you take them back if they begged or would you resent them for what they did and hold it against them Link to post Share on other sites
sultry33 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 If you no longer love your ex, and no longer have the feeling to want to be with them, would you take them back. Lets say if they broke your heart a couple of years ago, and just all of a sudden came back, would you take them back if they begged or would you resent them for what they did and hold it against them I was wondering this the other day.. i met an ex from 4 yrs ago who is keen to get it on again.. was sorry.. wrong timing blar blar.. i was not 100% into him so was ok when we split up.. he said he left as he felt 2nd best as prev to him i was on date with his best mate.. but he asked me out for 6 weeks so i liked him and ended up with him.. i never realised he felt 2nd best:eek: I was thinking how come i know i would not take him back, yet my ex i think i would... my reasons are that what we had was love.. still is love.. and i planned a future with him so therefore i know deep down id forgive him.. i would take it slow though and he would have to prove himself to me.. some love never dies and i 100% believe it to be with my current ex.. time will tell:love: why you asking? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I wouldn't go back with them because I don't have current-day feelings, interest or desire to do so. (Them begging and pleading wouldn't make any difference.) But if I was truly over them from the time before, I also wouldn't have any resentment and be holding any grudges. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifullove Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I would be doubtful, because whatever made them leave the first time, could make them leave again. Maybe then it wasn't the right time, but what makes this the right time? I don't really like the idea of going backwards, especially if they broke my heart. Are you considering doing so? Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I think of possibilities when I'm planning, but stuff like this is something I can't plan. Personally, it's a waste of precious brain power. Link to post Share on other sites
tinke Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Highly doubtful, due to the nagging fear of history repeating itself. Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 If you no longer love your ex, and no longer have the feeling to want to be with them, would you take them back. Lets say if they broke your heart a couple of years ago, and just all of a sudden came back, would you take them back if they begged or would you resent them for what they did and hold it against them Ha - this exact situation presented itself tonight to me. See my thread over on the Coping board. As Ronni W said, I am not inclined to go back because I have no present-day feelings for him. Yes, I loved him at the time, and was crushed when he dumped me, but that was 2 years ago and I've fully moved on. I don't love him romantically anymore even if I do care for him as a friend. [in my case I have a secondary set of questions around whether I'm just repeating my patterns by rejecting him now: I pick unavailable men all the time, and now he's telling me he's available and I don't want him. Go figure.] Link to post Share on other sites
Hopelessly_Devoted Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 If you are completely over them then you might be able to start completely new and it is as if you just met someone new, but if you are the type that holds grudges then no. I would not take back my ex even though we were together for 11 years, I am better than that and to me there is no going back only forward. I got his name tattooed on my arm and 2 days ago I got it covered and I feel FREE. I am 25 years old damn it, and now its my turn to live! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Why would you want them back if you are over them? If you truly are, you would be with someone else and not even have the faintest interest in them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne1 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Why would you want them back if you are over them? If you truly are, you would be with someone else and not even have the faintest interest in them. Good Question......... CaliGuy me and you both came on LS about the same time, and I remember seeing post about you and your ex. Would you take your ex back if she came begging? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Good Question......... CaliGuy me and you both came on LS about the same time, and I remember seeing post about you and your ex. Would you take your ex back if she came begging? Nope. No way, no how. Why?! She has proven to me she is a tramp. She doesn't love or value me. If she came back, I'd probably be a port (one of many) in her storm. Why would I reward someone who took me for granted with MORE of my time? There's gotta be someone out there better for me than an old re-tread. Link to post Share on other sites
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Well, I have a wonderful boyfriend right now, so no I would never do that. But pretending I was single...no! I am over all of my EXes and would never want a second shot with them. I have learned from these situations and do not want to put myself in these relationships ever again! Link to post Share on other sites
Amacada Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 There can be no blanket yes or no answer to the question. Every ex is different and every break-up is different. I have had good break-ups and bad ones, some involved infidelity, others involved circumstances (moving abroad etc). If I met a 'good ex', felt attraction and there was no underlying resentment (on either side)...and enough time had passed so that familiarity or 'taking a safe option' could be ruled out....then why the hell not? Link to post Share on other sites
ahhhchooo Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I would under circumstances, everything would have to be talked about prior so it could be ensured things would not go the same way. There's really no point in wasting more time and getting the same result from it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne1 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Nope. No way, no how. Why?! She has proven to me she is a tramp. She doesn't love or value me. If she came back, I'd probably be a port (one of many) in her storm. Why would I reward someone who took me for granted with MORE of my time? There's gotta be someone out there better for me than an old re-tread. Lol awwwww. CaliGuy so are you saying that after all you and your ex went thru you wouldnt take her back, if she begged and cryed? So lemme ask you, do you still love her? Just a little? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne1 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 And does anyone think Im wrong for not taking my ex old "First Love" ex back? It took me 1 year to get over her, and once I was she wanted to go back out, I was way to embarrassed to take her back. When she left me she was a Virgin, and when she came back she had slept with like 10 men. And I kept telling her the only reason while guys started flocking around you like that it because they found out you were a Virgin. So bassically after no one wanted her anymore she wanted me back, wow! So would you have taken her back anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
Amacada Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 And does anyone think Im wrong for not taking my ex old "First Love" ex back? It took me 1 year to get over her, and once I was she wanted to go back out, I was way to embarrassed to take her back. When she left me she was a Virgin, and when she came back she had slept with like 10 men. And I kept telling her the only reason while guys started flocking around you like that it because they found out you were a Virgin. So bassically after no one wanted her anymore she wanted me back, wow! So would you have taken her back anyone? Noone knows whether you are wrong for not taking her back - you are the only person that could possibly know that. If you don't regret your decision, and can never envisage a time where you *might* regret it....then it was the right one. Myself? I don't know - if it took me a year to get over her, then probably not. That ship has sailed... Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne1 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Noone knows whether you are wrong for not taking her back - you are the only person that could possibly know that. If you don't regret your decision, and can never envisage a time where you *might* regret it....then it was the right one. Myself? I don't know - if it took me a year to get over her, then probably not. That ship has sailed... I think I did the right thing, lol the look on her face though. Lol she had gotten so mad, her and her friends started talking about jumping my new Gf. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 ~No... The real answer to why I wouldn't is my signature line.. We break up for a reason.. ~~ One day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.. ~~ Link to post Share on other sites
brothermartin Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 HELL NO!! If my ex came crawling back, I'd stand her up, turn her around, and shove her back the way she came! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Lol awwwww. CaliGuy so are you saying that after all you and your ex went thru you wouldnt take her back, if she begged and cryed? No, because through all of this I know she hasn't changed a bit. Why would I want someone back I can not trust? Trust is part of the foundation of love. Without it, love not stand on firm ground. Besides, if she came and cried to me, I'd know it was a BS manipulation tactic on her part. Why waste time with old shoes when I can wear a new pair? So lemme ask you, do you still love her? Just a little? No. Whatever love I had for her faded a long time ago. As proof, when I saw her at the track last March, I had NO desire to talk to her whatsoever. I didn't feel the butterflies anymore that I used to feel with her. I felt nothing. Complete and utter indifference. Not anger, not contempt not anything at all. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetTux Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 For me I think it would definitely depend on the break up and what me and the ex did in our life during the time we were apart... So maybe yes or maybe no. This is definitely off topic but I didn't know how to ask other than here lol... CaliGuy... ur signature.. Who is Balthazar? Thats a good quote. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 This is definitely off topic but I didn't know how to ask other than here lol... CaliGuy... ur signature.. Who is Balthazar? Thats a good quote. He's a user here on LS. He posted that in one of the "nice guy" threads. I thought it was a perfect description of nice guys. Link to post Share on other sites
foxh1234 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Would I take her back ? eh, no. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 If you no longer love your ex, and no longer have the feeling to want to be with them, would you take them back. Lets say if they broke your heart a couple of years ago, and just all of a sudden came back, would you take them back if they begged or would you resent them for what they did and hold it against them If I was already over them, no I would not take them back. What would be the point? I moved on. Should I go back only to repeat the same mistake again? No way. Link to post Share on other sites
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