glynnroy Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 What does it mean when your ex says she does not know what she wants,she has been saying this for 4 months now and im like ,come on how confused and depressed can you be,does it mean she might want to to be with me,does it mean she might not want to be with me,or does it mean she might want to be with some one else ,any one had that said to them along with i love you but im not in love with you Link to post Share on other sites
Maladjusted Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Take it from someone that just went through something similar. The chances are pretty likely that there is another dude involved. When someone blurts out of the blue that they aren't feeling right, chances are there is more going on then meets eye. What happened to start all of this off? Have you noticed anything strange recently? Link to post Share on other sites
Author glynnroy Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 I have just done a post in this section about it,there was another guy but if was polish and if went back home to get married ,i found some text messages last year and he was going back home that week,i then found her call name on a polish forum saying she had fallen in love with him,i asked her about it and she told me noting had happened out side of work and she confined in him because our relationship was at a bad stage,i personally think her mind in emotionally attached to him some how but she says not , Link to post Share on other sites
Maladjusted Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 You know, if my wife had told me she was in love with another guy I would have left her. I think all you can do is leave her alone until she figures out what she wants. Trust me when I tell you that if you don't live with her, give her all the space she needs to figure things out for herself and get busy with your life in the meantime. Perhaps she will then realize that she can't play games with you anymore and needs to **** or get off the pot. Life is just too short. Link to post Share on other sites
Author glynnroy Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 I agree ,I just wanted to hear it from some one else ,you told me she was confused about the whole situation and she loved me ,but was not in love with me,I am giving her space to figure it out and she might realise that is wasnt just me that was making her unhappy,her dad was on the booze ,her mam argues with her all the time,full time job,quite a few factors here,but i have to get on with my life she has already told me this,as she said she hasnt got any answers for me,i just think 18 is a long time with out giving it another shot Link to post Share on other sites
SingleDad Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Not certain whether it is an affair or not. Either way the problem is that you are not meeting her emotional needs. That is usually how affairs start for women. they usually are not in it for the sex, but for the companionship, someone who really listens to her, someone who care about her feelings, someone who makes her feel special. If you are not doing it then someone else will. Give her space, but when she is near - try to meet her emotional needs. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Give her space, roll with your own life. If she loves you and values you, she will come to the only conclusion possible. That she misses you and loves you and wants to be with you. Sometimes, it takes space and time. As long as there isn't some other bloke moving in and taking your place, you're in good shape. Link to post Share on other sites
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