saams Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 help, i cant talk to other people. lately i feel like i need some new friends but i have a huge problem.. i am horrible at talking to other people, i have a really hard time having a conversation with someone i dont know.. it wasnt always like this.. when i was younger i used to have alot of friends and i used to go out all the time partying etc.. but in the last few years i have been playing computer games and such all day long, i quit my work and threw my phone out back then.. so i have not really talked to anybody for a long time and it seems impossible for me now to start again.. Most my old friends from when i was younger were criminals, we used to sell drugs and all them bad stuff, and over the last few years i just kind of became a diffrent person, now i am more into music, movies.. cars etc, and it seems impossible to start over again and meet new people.. i guess i am looking for someone who been in the same kind of situation and some advide on how to deal with this.. Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I don't know how good your confidence level is, but I've always found it a little easier to talk to someone who happens to be waiting for something that I'm also waiting for, like for instance, if I were to be waiting for a college advising or getting a movie ticket. I figured if that person's there then he/she must be waiting for the same thing, so at least there's one thing we have in common right from the get-go. Link to post Share on other sites
starchild Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 You say you play a lot of computer games. . .is it easier for you to maybe meet and talk to someone over the internet? I know that works out really well for a lot of people. It seems like there's a great extent of control you can exert online, so maybe it would be easier for you. Link to post Share on other sites
DdDdDdD Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 I was on the same boat as you.. had a similar background to my life.. I found the best way to talk to people was to be in a situation that spans some time.. like going back to school.. where you don't have this pressure to come up with some dazzling conversation in 5 minutes, but you have months to slowly let it happen.. And also, if it's school, or some kind of program or training for some 'thing' you both are striving for, it let's you have everyday-type convo's relating to this thing.. You just gotta take it slow--don't rely on those 5 minute encounters. And keep in mind it'll take years, don't expect it to happen tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
nowhereman82 Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Personally I am looking into group activitie/club/lessons to sign up for that I can develop friendships over the course of that. It is hard as an adult to engage new people into a friendship as your daily life doesn't bring you around the same people on the daily except for coworkers. And I personally don't want to befriend coworkers. I will track this thread and share what I run into as I am in the same boat. Link to post Share on other sites
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