Jilly Bean Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Thanks You guys for all the replies and analogies it really helped! I guess girls these days are just not clean for the most part, you just gotta lower your expectations lol. Want to hear something funny? I dont know how many others have this problem but lately I have looking at almost all girls and imagining them sucking a d*** or f******! This is because I just assume all "hot" or really pretty girls have been touched in some way maybe not f****** lol. right? This is one of the stupidest things I've ever heard on here. OP - if you are over the age of 12 - GET OVER YOURSELF. This kind of posting comes up over and over again. And it is ALWAYS the same type of guy who is posting. Insecure and threatened by his new GF being more experienced and worried that the other guys were much better in bed, better-endowed, etc. OP - get used to it. You will very rarely, if ever, be a girl's first, her biggest, or her best. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 'Lingerie?' Is that what the kids are doing these days? Oh my gosh! I busted out laughing over that one. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 When I first met my girlfriend I thought that she was so cute and pretty at the same time. I knew she had a couple of boyfriends but I did not think anything serious. After we started going out I found out that she had had 3 long term boyfriends (approx 9 mos each) and one 3 year boyfriend. I also found out she had done stuff like fingering, lingerie, and oral once with him even though she thought of him more as her best friend than boyfriend. My problem is 1) what to do about the images that she has been in lingerie, or been topless with another guy and the other things listed before 2) what to do about the fact that she has had so many memories with so many different guys because her relationships are long. She has been to their houses and met their parents! How to forget about this? Well, if you're not a virgin, don't cast stones at glass walls - you, like your girlfriend, have a sexual past with different women. Whats past is past. Let it go. If she has some kind of existing relationship with one of her ex-es and you think it might be inappropriate, then bring it up. Otherwise let by gones be bygones. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
wittygirl09 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Honestly, I think OP might be coming from a culturally, socially or religiously conservative background. I grew up in a Muslim/South Asian background and LOTS of guys in my community even in their late twenties viewed women who weren't virgins or even messed around with others guys as "dirty" or "unclean." Part of me thinks it is culturally insensitive to degrade guys who have these expectations of women because that is what they have been brainwashed to want their entire lives. It's a territorial male ego thing, archaic I know and I'm not justifying it, it's just how they view it sometimes. Anyway, overtime I have decided, if you expect or want something from your partner, you better have it yourself: i.e. if you want a virgin, you better be a virgin. If you want someone sexually experienced, you better be experienced. People who piss me off the most are the ones who have ONS, engage in group sex, have a LOT of sex partners, go to strip clubs, etc etc but then want to marry the virginal, domesticated type. That is hypocrisy at it's finest. Like one gender can get away with it and then have their cake and eat it too. Just my two cents. Link to post Share on other sites
KinAZ Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 I'm guessing that your jealousy has a lot to do with her being more experienced than you. In that case, such things may be harder to put out of your mind. But I do agree with the poster who said that you should not be with her if you view her as being loose. When I was very young I was seeing a guy who had a child already. It did not phase me. I was mature enough to understand the issue with the mother, as well as the nature of their relationship to some extent. I did NOT let it bother me. Why? Because she was in the past and I was his present and future. I went back there, because then I was totally inexperienced, and yet I still did not feel jealousy. As we get older, I think it's easier for some to understand, because we know what we've done, and so there's no need to question the other person. (What you've done may not even be sexual in nature, but you're still not perfect.) However, what I do wonder is how you know what she has done with other men. Never ask a question and assume you know the answers will be in your favor, best interest, or something which won't damage your ego. Leave the past where it belong... While we may take certain things into consideration, we can't move forward by focusing on things that should be behind us. Even though it is HER past in question, it still applies. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 People who piss me off the most are the ones who have ONS, engage in group sex, have a LOT of sex partners, go to strip clubs, etc etc but then want to marry the virginal, domesticated type. That is hypocrisy at it's finest. Like one gender can get away with it and then have their cake and eat it too. I agree with this. At the same time, I think communication between the man and woman should decide the kind of relationship that both want. For example, I wouldn't think it fair for my gf if she wanted to be monogamous while I call up girls on a blackbook blist and ask them to meet me just to hang out If its a good relationship and this girl means alot to me, I'd probably throw the blackbook away. Its about being a good partner. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 , I'd probably throw the blackbook away. Its about being a good partner. lol,i got one too. Pull out a B**ch like a rabbit out a hat Link to post Share on other sites
Author chicagoboy777 Posted August 23, 2008 Author Share Posted August 23, 2008 I know all that you guys are saying is correct. But the reason why people keep on posting is because it is not easy to look at your girlfriend, and know that some guy has jizzed all over her face and then she licked it all up! I mean i thought she was better, and I know 3 years is a long time but i mean in my opinion bj's and real sex is the worst for my head lol. But yeah just wish there was a sure fire way to get over this bull****. I know it is bs, and i know i am not thinking, but this stuff only matters when you actually care about the person alot Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 What's past is past. Either let it go, carry on with your girlfriend or let it mess up your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
The Collector Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 I know all that you guys are saying is correct. But the reason why people keep on posting is because it is not easy to look at your girlfriend, and know that some guy has jizzed all over her face and then she licked it all up! Pretty graphic image you've conjured up for yourself there. Does it do you any good torturing yourself like that? Either come to terms with women being sexual creatures or find yourself a churchy virgin. Link to post Share on other sites
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