i didn't understand why i had to let her know of everything going on in my life?

[yagottahelp]

I need help! I've psoted other times about my gf that's an ex now for the last 3 months and wants space.......so i'm giving it to her, i didn't call her all last week, she called 3 times, i didn't talk long at all always having to go, i added stuff to my im prfoile she had no idea what it was

 

now she's pissed i don't talk, pissed i'm secretive, and thinks it's stupid to hide stuff from her.......i said i'd love to share everyhing, but she didn't want it-so i didn't understand why i had to let her know of everything going on in my life??

 

she's all pissed now, i want to give her space, i want her back, and i don't want her to be that mad-do i keep just doing space, i mean she's upset cuz she think i like another girl, so she still likes me, but doesn't want an us

 

WHAT DO I DO???????

[Tessa]

Ask her what she wants? Don't beat yourself up...She will give you an answer. Whether it is the answer you want to hear remains to be seen.

[yagottahelp]

When I talk to her she doesn't really want to talk about it, she says she wants space because we act like we're still together and she doesn't want that right now-she says we've been together for so long she wants to make sure i'm the one (which is probably a load of bull) but then when she thinks i am interested in another girl she gets upset saying flirting with girls isn't going to help at all.

 

She's basically confused, i thought giving her space would figure things out one way or the other-but i thought she'd at least understand that by me giving space, means she's not entitled to knowing my every move-

[yagottahelp]

we were talking quick the other day because she was upset that she didn't know some things in my life again-i said i loved her and would love for her to be the first to hear things in my life, but that wasn't my role now, because it's not what she wanted.......

 

i asked her why she was replacing me with everyone else in her life, she said she told me she didn't want to have to worry about anyone else anymore because we were acting like we were still together, both her and me were, and she didn't want that, so this was the only way to make us not care about each other.......

 

does that make sense to anyone whatsoever?

[Tessa]

Actually, in a weird way it does make sense. Even though she says she wants space and wants to make sure that you are the one, she doesn't want you being with anyone else as well. Double-Standard...She wants to make sure if she does not find anything better that she will be able to come back to you and not have to worry if you were in a relationship. She wants to keep you on a string...my advice...CUT the string. She is not being fair to you and you need to get on with your life. I know that is easier said than done...

[yagottahelp]

I agree, this seems to be somewhat of a mission of hers since we were us early in life, from the end of high school till college, I believe she wants to make sure I am the right one, to do that requires at least seeing what else is out there, and yes she talks about it being the beginning of a new love between us and yada yada yada, it very well may be, but i know i can't hang on that, and unfrotunately, she doesn't understand that that means to totally let go of me. I cut the strings for that week, and it bothered her immensly, so i'm continuing to do that. Not that i want to bother her, but she'll be able to see if she really misses me.

 

And she's said although everyhting is ok now, it wouldn't be at school.......it's almost like she's afraid of getting into stuff now in case i'd want to end it or something.......

 

I guess we'll see if you really miss things when they'er gone

[babygirltamara]

That sounds exactly how my ex does...just like your ex. He doesn't wnat to be together but get's hurt if another guys get's my number. It's funny..we broke up becuase I got the feeling that he wanted to meet other girls and so we both agreeded to break up. It funny though becuase I have meet other guys and he hasn't meet any other girls. Although I knwo he is the one and the other guys don't intrest me at all he still get's all wiered out. He wanted to friends still and so where are or where (not really sure right now) and since we broke up we where still together and acted like a couple. So now I want to cut the strings as well. No one really knows what they had untill it's gone and thats what I want to prove to him. If he doesn't relize it then it's his loss.