paddington bear Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Just wondering - I usually know if a guy is interested in me, but only when I don't like them, but when I like the guy I never seem to be able to tell if they like me back or not. Is your brain able to think more clearly when not muddled up by pheremones or hormones or whatever? Or maybe there's too much invested in the guy/girl you do like and you can't pick up on the signals any more because you're afraid you're reading them wrong. What are people's experiences? Do you always know somewhere inside of you that someone's attracted to you, but then doubt your first instinct, or have you been totally unaware of someone's interest in you and been taken by surprise when you find out. Link to post Share on other sites
lazlow99 Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 I'm so, so at telling when people like me. With some people its easy, but others are more shy or reserved so its more difficult. My problem is, I can only flirt with girls who I don't fancy, and I find it easy, but ones who I'm attracted to I find it difficult and get all self consious and shy. I wish it was the other way around! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Yes, I can usually tell if someone is attracted. It's how they interact with you, something in the eyes, body language and the resulting sexual tension if it's a mutual attraction. Whether they're shy or aggressive, doesn't matter. Where I sometimes fall down is how far someone is invested, when emotionally involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Yes.. I know when someone is attracted to me.. no doubt about this. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 It's happened so seldom, and the feeling has been so clear, that I will say yes. I echo TBF's opinion about psycho-emotional investment and, further, intrinsic compatibility. I'm still working on the latter. Link to post Share on other sites
fral945 Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 I used to have no clue unless a woman was very straightforward (i.e., constant compliments, asking me why I don't have a girlfriend, saying I was cute, etc). I still scratch my head a lot, though. The average women is more subtle, it's difficult to tell sometimes if they are being friendly or flirty, but I think I echo the other posts with respect to body language. I'm getting a little better at reading it. I think I am best at being able to tell when there is no interest at all. IMO, women have a better eye for reading subtle body language cues. Maybe it's because they are the masters of exhibiting those subtle cues. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 I only know when a woman is attracted to me when she tells me and answers that she is being honest about her attraction. Trust me, past experience with cruel people has given me somewhat of a paranoid distrust when a woman initially tells me she is attracted to me. And to be very direct, no human being can always know when someone is attracted to them. But, I am sure a lot of people can. While there are a lot of chemical reactions going on with attractions, the logical mind of a person can override it, sometimes to a fault in the case of a lot of introverts or those who have anxieties on this subject. This is why though a woman might find the guy she is dating totally hot, but if he shows himself to be less desirable in other ways, no amount of pheromones (outside of drug induced overrides) is going to overcome her mind to continue finding him attractive. DNR I hope that makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
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