taylor Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 about a guy who tells his girlfriend's sister's boyfriend this: I can't wait to marry that girl so that I have a second income to pay off my house and appliances. And then says (at least on two occassions): I have her right where I want her...in my back pocket. Background: This guy is 23 yo. He got engaged at 21, bought a house totally out of his price range and fully furnished it on credit cards at his fiance's insistence. The girl, 19 yo at the time, broke off the engagement a couple months later, leaving him financially strapped. He has been working 12 hour shifts 6 days a week (barely above minimum wage) to stay afloat. His parents are divorced. His mother makes minimum wage and his father refuses to help him. He met his current girlfriend a year ago and is starting to talk marriage. She is 24 yo. She is college educated and has a great job with an excellent income. She is financially independent. There's a lot more to say about this guy and this relationship but don't want it to cloud the picture. Gut reactions? Insight? Link to post Share on other sites
Davey McG Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 I think he's a bit of a d*ck. Apart from that, its hard to say. Maybe he has a weird sense of humor? Link to post Share on other sites
Author taylor Posted August 18, 2008 Author Share Posted August 18, 2008 This guy has no sense of humor. The question is does this guy really want to marry this girl so that she can help him out of the financial mess he created with his ex-fiance? Is the motive purely selfish/self-serving? or Is this just how guys talk when they tell another guy they are interested in getting married? Should she be worried about his intentions? Link to post Share on other sites
Davey McG Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 It could just be macho talk. He might just be rationalising his decision, especially if him or his friend have been typically anti-marriage before or have been hurt by marriage before. Guys talk like this sometimes. It is unusual for someone at that age to be frank with their feelings with another male. He might be "fronting," to use an Americanism I heard recently. Without knowing the guy or without knowing his friend it is really hard to make a judgment (apart from him seeming like bit of a d*ck*). I couldn't guess on the real motivation for marriage. Why not ask him? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 about a guy who tells his girlfriend's sister's boyfriend this: I can't wait to marry that girl so that I have a second income to pay off my house and appliances. Who know what is on whose agenda? What is your relationship with the unfortunate future bride? 99.9% of the time, I don't care for meddling in other people's engagements and marriages. BUT my gut is saying this is that other, .1% The thing is, it really ought to be the sister's boyfriend who calmly just relates to her what the gold-digger said. FutureBride can then follow-up with gold-digger as she sees fit. Sister's boyfriend may be called upon to "provide evidence" as it were, that he heard it directly from gold-digger. If you get into a "he told him who told her who told me and I really thought you should know"...well, things could get much uglier than can be reasonably foreseen. Also need to keep in mind that FutureBride may get very upset at whomever does tell her that her boyfriend is nothing but a gold-digger. That would be a normal first reaction. So, sis and her boyfriend need to decide for themselves if they are up to making such a 'sacrifice' to save FutureBride from potential heartache and financial disaster. Link to post Share on other sites
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