Older women date younger men, because...

[Jersey Shortie]

Rarely do younger men take the "cougars" out in public, or around their friends, or to meet their family.. 90% of the time spent together, sometimes 100% is behind closed doors.

 

And I don't mean a woman a few years older. I mean the 45-55 "dating" a man 15- 20 years younger.

 

 

Sweetie, are you statistics factual? Or things you pulled out of thin air?

 

Did your mother use to beat you or something?

 

You are under the misconnception that women are under the mercy of men whether they are younger or older and it's really amusing to read. Threatened much?

[vonerik012]

No, it's a mixture of good perception, experience, common sense, and what I hear from both sexes.

 

When I spent time internet dating, older women always invited me over just for sex..

 

And it makes sense. They might have one free night, and they want to get laid. They work full time, have kids, etc. Not always great relationship material for a single younger man that has every night free.

 

The younger girls typically have more free time, and want to find a man to date and spend more time with.

 

Of course, there are exceptions...

[D-Lish]

Sweetie, are you statistics factual? Or things you pulled out of thin air?

 

Did your mother use to beat you or something?

 

You are under the misconnception that women are under the mercy of men whether they are younger or older and it's really amusing to read. Threatened much?

 

:lmao::lmao:

 

well, 9 out of 10 denstists think 3 out of 10 cougars have a 60% chance of being taken out in public 20% of the time.

[Lovelybird]

Actually, it's the opposite. It's being confident that drives a woman to date whom she pleases without caring about what other people think.

 

Why would an insecure woman date a hot young man. You have to be comfortable with yourself and your age to do so.

 

And in response to V's post- the last young guy I dated was about 15 years younger than me. Not only did I meet his friends and see them often but he met mine... and we went out in public quite regularly.

 

I've never been anyone's dirty little secret- if I thought that's how it was, I wouldn't be involved with them.

 

I am 38- and I once dated a 23 year old for a few months. He was the relentless pursuer. He wanted to introduce me to his parents and I was the one that didn't wish to do that. I met his mom by accident once when him and I ran into her in a mall... he told me after his mother had no clue I was that much older. He was a bit immature and I eventually left the relationship- he continues to call me months later to get back together.

 

Somehow, society frowns on the older woman/younger man connection.

Granted- I don't wish to have a life long relationship with someone that young, but why not enjoy the company in the interim. I've gone out with quite a few younger guys- it's not something I see a problem with.

If a man's mind and maturity won't match mine, I don't know how to connect with them romantically. I feel like they are little young brother, I need to teach and take care of them all the time, I cannot expect such young brother can even meet my emotional and spiritual needs, seems like "take advantage of them". So I think older women who are with much younger man don't expect much from their young bf because they really don't think themselves deserve that, and have good reasons for themselves not getting the emotional and spiritual support "my bf are too young". but eventually they are going to feel unsatisfied

 

as for man with a quite young woman, maybe it is the sexual thing and controlling thing

 

people like to find external reasons rather than deal with themselves.

[pandagirl]

I'm 30 and just went out with a 23 year old last night. I had no interest in him though -- very immature!

 

Also, people, I don't think it just has to do with how a woman looks, it's her attitude, too. I may look maybe a little younger than I am, but people often remark that I have a youthful spirit and fun way about me that makes them think I'm younger, also.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

:lmao::lmao:

 

well, 9 out of 10 denstists think 3 out of 10 cougars have a 60% chance of being taken out in public 20% of the time.

 

:p :p

[almost famous]

You can't reason logic and your life with Vonerik. He is going to tell you that there is NO way you look younger than you are and the guy was just using you for sex and was playing you. He loves to bring women above 35 down. meanwhile he posts on here 24/7 so he himself isn't getting any action, obviously.

 

Actually, it's the opposite. It's being confident that drives a woman to date whom she pleases without caring about what other people think.

 

Why would an insecure woman date a hot young man. You have to be comfortable with yourself and your age to do so.

 

And in response to V's post- the last young guy I dated was about 15 years younger than me. Not only did I meet his friends and see them often but he met mine... and we went out in public quite regularly.

 

I've never been anyone's dirty little secret- if I thought that's how it was, I wouldn't be involved with them.

 

I am 38- and I once dated a 23 year old for a few months. He was the relentless pursuer. He wanted to introduce me to his parents and I was the one that didn't wish to do that. I met his mom by accident once when him and I ran into her in a mall... he told me after his mother had no clue I was that much older. He was a bit immature and I eventually left the relationship- he continues to call me months later to get back together.

 

Somehow, society frowns on the older woman/younger man connection.

Granted- I don't wish to have a life long relationship with someone that young, but why not enjoy the company in the interim. I've gone out with quite a few younger guys- it's not something I see a problem with.

[almost famous]

He pulls things out of thin air and relates what he absolutely has no experience with, just his own "logic." Yes, he IS under the misconception that women are under the mercy of men, period. Men have options, women don't. Men can go to foreign countries and find better women than the U.S., they all look and treat men better, and women can't, no foreign men want American women....and on and on and on.

 

 

Sweetie, are you statistics factual? Or things you pulled out of thin air?

 

Did your mother use to beat you or something?

 

You are under the misconnception that women are under the mercy of men whether they are younger or older and it's really amusing to read. Threatened much?

[vonerik012]

No, I just am exiting a relationship so not in the mood for sex..

 

Just because a woman is older does not mean she can say no wrong, or be right about everything. Many of the older women on here offer excellent advice, and have great ideas.

[D-Lish]

If a man's mind and maturity won't match mine, I don't know how to connect with them romantically. I feel like they are little young brother, I need to teach and take care of them all the time, I cannot expect such young brother can even meet my emotional and spiritual needs, seems like "take advantage of them". So I think older women who are with much younger man don't expect much from their young bf because they really don't think themselves deserve that, and have good reasons for themselves not getting the emotional and spiritual support "my bf are too young". but eventually they are going to feel unsatisfied

 

as for man with a quite young woman, maybe it is the sexual thing and controlling thing

 

people like to find external reasons rather than deal with themselves.

 

huh?

 

Not everyone like yourself is looking for some weird "spiritual" connection.

And guess what... being satisfied happens in many ways for different people. You need a spiritual connection, good- go for it. Don't judge others for wanting a different kind of connection.

 

Jesus may fill a void for you- but sometimes it's about a physical connection, and there is nothing wrong with that.

[almost famous]

:)Your Brazilian girlfriend who you had an online "relationship" with? Sorry that didn't work out.

[LionLover]

No, I just am exiting a relationship so not in the mood for sex..

 

OMG that statement made me laugh (in a good way of course).

[vonerik012]

Online relationship? lol Where did you get that from? Or do I have to agree because you are an older woman.. I spent 3 months in Brazil, and she spent 2 here. We never used the internet even to send one email.

[almost famous]

No, I'm not an older woman. I'm still quite young.

[OpenBook]

I don't have any particular preference when it comes to men's age - it's all about the man himself - but for some weird reason which confounds me, younger men have been hitting on me lately. A lot. And it's not sleazy at all; they treat me like some kind of Goddess or something. It's the damdest thing I've ever seen. I'm still trying to figure out what it is. It could be the "I don't give a sh*t, I'm going to have a great time no matter what you do" attitude I've acquired over the last few years... but that wouldn't explain their sexual attraction to me. Or would it??

 

And it's not just happening to me, my GF's are experiencing the same thing. Maybe it's some kind of social trend going on right now??

 

I do find that as men age into their 40's and 50's, they get kinda grumpy and set in their ways. The older ones also have more of the "women have their place" attitude than the younger ones do, God Bless 'Em.

[Lovelybird]

huh?

 

Not everyone like yourself is looking for some weird "spiritual" connection.

And guess what... being satisfied happens in many ways for different people. You need a spiritual connection, good- go for it. Don't judge others for wanting a different kind of connection.

 

Jesus may fill a void for you- but sometimes it's about a physical connection, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Fair enough, your belief is yours, my belief is mine

 

For me, no spiritual and heart connection, no physical connection; no certain amount of love pour into me, NC

[almost famous]

I get hit on a lot by younger men, too, even though I'm not interested myself in more than 4 or 5 years younger than myself. I prefer dating my own age.

I think that younger men have had the impression that women their age are game-players and don't have the excitement they are looking for. They are tired of putting up with the bs of younger women and are attracted to the confidence and beauty of women who are older. Either that, or they see a beautiful woman and don't automatically put a number with it. They just see beauty.

[vonerik012]

I don't have any particular preference when it comes to men's age - it's all about the man himself - but for some weird reason which confounds me, younger men have been hitting on me lately. A lot. And it's not sleazy at all; they treat me like some kind of Goddess or something. It's the damdest thing I've ever seen. I'm still trying to figure out what it is. It could be the "I don't give a sh*t, I'm going to have a great time no matter what you do" attitude I've acquired over the last few years... but that wouldn't explain their sexual attraction to me. Or would it??

 

And it's not just happening to me, my GF's are experiencing the same thing. Maybe it's some kind of social trend going on right now??

 

I do find that as men age into their 40's and 50's, they get kinda grumpy and set in their ways. The older ones also have more of the "women have their place" attitude than the younger ones do, God Bless 'Em.

 

Yeah... Men like sex, and older women are easier..

 

There is a "cougar" bar close to where I live... Anytime i went, women are grabbing me, buying me drinks, offering to take me home for sex. Some of my buddies had sex with women in the parking lot.

 

This does not happen as much when you go to a bar with younger women. There, the male is the pursuer. It's obvious.

[almost famous]

Disagree with that. Lots of loose women everywhere, especially young women.

[LionLover]

This does not happen as much when you go to a bar with younger women. There, the male is the pursuer. It's obvious.

Right. And that's why those Girls Gone Wild videos weren't so popular either.

 

Touche'!

 

[OpenBook]

Yeah... Men like sex, and older women are easier..

 

There is a "cougar" bar close to where I live... Anytime i went, women are grabbing me, buying me drinks, offering to take me home for sex. Some of my buddies had sex with women in the parking lot.

 

This does not happen as much when you go to a bar with younger women. There, the male is the pursuer. It's obvious.

 

How odd! That has not been my experience at all, nor my GF's.

[vonerik012]

Yes, people pay big money to see young girls acting like that because

 

 

1. it is hot

2. it is rare

 

If seeing girls act like that was a common occurrence there would be no reason to buy the vids.

 

All young guys know if they want to get laid they go to the bar with the older women. I can't prove it to you, but maybe you can take my word for it.

[D-Lish]

Yes, people pay big money to see young girls acting like that because

 

 

1. it is hot

2. it is rare

 

If seeing girls act like that was a common occurrence there would be no reason to buy the vids.

 

All young guys know if they want to get laid they go to the bar with the older women. I can't prove it to you, but maybe you can take my word for it.

 

Well that's just ew.

I picture your cougar bar filled with older women with blonde hair, black roots walking around in high wasited jeans, black bar tops and cowboy boots with smeared red lipstick. Of course there is leapord print happening somewhere in that ensemble.

 

I'm not one of those cougars- although, technically given my age, I am a cougar.

[soserious1]

How odd! That has not been my experience at all, nor my GF's.

 

It hasn't been mine either and I get out to a variety of places pretty regularly.

 

I will say this though, experience tells me that few drunken gropings happening in nightclub parking lots aren't confined merely to cock hungry, desprite grandmothers as Von would lead us to believe.

[soserious1]

Do you want honesty? Rarely do younger men take the "cougars" out in public, or around their friends, or to meet their family.. 90% of the time spent together, sometimes 100% is behind closed doors.

 

And I don't mean a woman a few years older. I mean the 45-55 "dating" a man 15- 20 years younger.

 

And yes, I am sure there are exceptions. But those are a tiny percentage.

 

I know one woman who regularly beds guys a lot younger than she is.. they seldom go out in public.. but this is because she has college aged children and is quite well known professionally. These guys are "boy toys" the relationship is sexual in nature only, a fact both parties know up front going in.

 

I tend to prefer at least actually liking the men I bed so I disapprove of her antics because I've heard her in action on the phone and rather wince at the way she speaks to them,it's pretty clear that she might value them as dildo's in levi jeans but she has zero respect or liking for them as people..not my cup of tea.

 

I'd also image that a lot of women engaging in sexual affairs with men much younger, might also be married, in such cases discretion would be manditory

just as it is for the middle aged guy getting a little on the side.