he just got out..

[butum]

ok so this is my story. me and my bf have been having problems over the past few months due to the fact of him becoming distant. this started about about a month after our last visit which was in april. we would fight because of the fact that he was being so distant. but we would make up but of course things would not change. until about a month ago when he revealed to me that he had gotten addicted to cocaine. and took himself into rehab. which obviously explained alot. so he was there for about 20 days and just got out last sunday. i know its too soon to tell but i feel like we are just going down the same distant path we had for the past few months. i understand he just got out and things are still a bit rocky for him. i really still dont know all that happened because of the fact that he was instructed by his councelor not to talk about it. i know i need to be patient. but i just dont want things to be the same as they have been. but at the same time i dont want to pressure him or anything. i know i need to wait it out. any advice though ppl?

[TMichaels]

...until about a month ago when he revealed to me that he had gotten addicted to cocaine. and took himself into rehab. which obviously explained alot. so he was there for about 20 days and just got out last sunday. i know its too soon to tell but i feel like we are just going down the same distant path we had for the past few months. i understand he just got out and things are still a bit rocky for him. i really still dont know all that happened because of the fact that he was instructed by his councelor not to talk about it. i know i need to be patient. but i just dont want things to be the same as they have been. but at the same time i dont want to pressure him or anything. i know i need to wait it out. any advice though ppl?

 

Exactly the kind of situation a friends/family support group of Narcotics Anonymous would help you sort through, butum.

 

Did you ever check into a local chapter in your area?

 

Best,

TMichaels

[HisLove]

Yep I agree with TMichaels (of course ).

 

Butum you need to be in touch with people who are dealing with/in love with addicts.

 

At this point in time, it's all about him, not you. He is FIGHTING to get control of his addictions and life, he doesn't need to be babysitting you through your insecurities.

 

This advice is common sense, not first hand experience.

 

Just think if you had come home from hospital from major surgery and were dealing with pain and post-surgery illness and adjustments. Imagine your significant other demanding why you aren't paying attention to them?? Well his situation isn't recovering exactly, it's claiming his life from the brink of disaster.

 

It's not about you right now.