is she cheating?

[mikest281]

ok guys this is my first post on here. to give a little background info, im 26 and have have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. we really hit it off right from the start and things were great. we had many talks of marriage and moving in together and when that was about to happen things started to get a little it was only 5-6 monts into our relationship and it turns out she was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend. it was completely her fault, the guy didnt even know i existed so no matter how much i hate him shes to blame. well we worked through it and things have been great. i had some stipulations, like i wanted her to keep the ringer on on her phone and that i didnt want her to hide it from me. i wanted her to cut all contact with the guy. when i looked through her phone and called her out on what i found she started locking her phone and i asked her to take it off and she agreed to all.

i was gone for 6 weeks on a reality show and due to the situation i had no contact with her. when i came home things where great. i was nervous about leaving because what had happened before but she made me feel comfortable that nothing had happened. when i came home she moved in with me and the marriage talks had gotten really serious. so now ive been back for about 6 months and im noticing things are gettin a little weird. so heres some signs.

-ive seen in our computer history that she looks his sister up on myspace all the time, she has a private profile but she has never added her to her friends

-the sex life is up and down, sometimes its great, and sometimes its non existant.

-i never see her phone anymore. i actually tried to look through it but its like shes hiding it. it wasnt in her purse, night stand, or car. (i looked while she was sleeping)

-i got her phone out of her purse right before she left the other day and her lock is back on the phone.

-our relationship has alwasy been just us. we dont really hang out with many others besides her family and mine on occasions (they life far away) but the friends i do have here in this city she knows all of them. i dont know any of her friends. ive only met 2 of them once or twice.

-now theres many others but i want to keep this short. ill keep up with the thread and post more as others give me there opinions.

 

now we dont really go out drinking and shes home every night but i just cant understand why the phone lock is back on now and she was hiding her phone from me. trust me i looked and would have found it. so when i found the phone lock i asked her about it and she freeked out. i wasnt threatening or anything but she went nuts. well after she calmed down she did admit to talking to some of her past boyfriends, even the one who she cheated on me with. she swears she hasnt cheated since the last time but i still dont have a very good feeling. she still works out at the same gym as him. shes there alot, but shes been at the same gym since before we met. i wanted her to find a new gym but im also trying to be trusting.

i was so close to ending it. i financially support her. she doesnt help with my house payments, bills, grocery and i gave her a luxury car. at the time i didnt care because this is the girl ive been ring shopping with and planning to marry. i guess im asking for everyones opinion on whatts going on with her. please help me

[nopainnogain]

5-6 monts into our relationship and it turns out she was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend. it was completely her fault, the guy didnt even know i existed so no matter how much i hate him shes to blame. well we worked through it and things have been great.

 

you shoulda left her then. How dis you find out? was she sincerely remorsful? obviously not since she kept talking to that clown and freaked out about the phone thing. No sympathy for the pain she caused in the first place

 

 

i had some stipulations, like i wanted her to keep the ringer on on her phone and that i didnt want her to hide it from me. i wanted her to cut all contact with the guy. when i looked through her phone and called her out on what i found she started locking her phone and i asked her to take it off and she agreed to all.

 

when a R gets to this point you need to back off.

 

 

-ive seen in our computer history that she looks his sister up on myspace all the time, she has a private profile but she has never added her to her friends

-the sex life is up and down, sometimes its great, and sometimes its non existant.

-i never see her phone anymore. i actually tried to look through it but its like shes hiding it. it wasnt in her purse, night stand, or car. (i looked while she was sleeping)

-i got her phone out of her purse right before she left the other day and her lock is back on the phone.

 

what a kaniever

 

 

- i dont know any of her friends. ive only met 2 of them once or twice.

 

Thats not good

 

 

well after she calmed down she did admit to talking to some of her past boyfriends, even the one who she cheated on me with.

 

what a B*tch

 

she swears she hasnt cheated since the last time but i still dont have a very good feeling. she still works out at the same gym as him. shes there alot, but shes been at the same gym since before we met.

 

She probably gets all turned on when he is pumping iron. Sorry.

 

 

i wanted her to find a new gym but im also trying to be trusting.

 

no ,your being a doormat

 

i was so close to ending it. i financially support her. she doesnt help with my house payments, bills, grocery and i gave her a luxury car.

 

And this is the way she treats you. Dont take this crap.

 

i guess im asking for everyones opinion on whatts going on with her. please help me

 

Stay away from her. Let her know how you feel,she will come to her senses maybe. If not then its her loss. She might be codendent on you and using you.

 

good luck

[SoulStorm]

A relationship is about openness and honesty. She is clearly being deceptive.

 

Right now I do not believe she is being trustworthy.

She goes to the same gym as one of her exes and you allow it. She had sex with this guy, do you think she is not still having sex with this guy? You can't prove if she is or not. She already cheated on you. I bet she would be raising holy he77 if you were going to the same gym as someone you had sex with.

 

Gyms = tightfitting and scantilly clad work out uniforms, get the picture?

 

She is running over you like a runaway train. You might as well have "Welcome" on your forehead. She is using you for a doormat and clearly disrespecting you.

 

I would dump her like a biohazard bag filled with the aids virus