dreamy1945 Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 I am starting to see an IC and also going to marriage counseling. Does the IC report to the MC what goes on in therapy? Also do you think that IC want you to explore your feelings for the OW or just go NC and put it out of your mind only concentrating on the marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 Might be a better idea to use the same person, this way the goal remains the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 24, 2008 Share Posted August 24, 2008 Most ethical counselors would not work with the couple together, and then also take on one of them as an individual client, due to conflict of interest. (Though therapist might, on occasion, see each individually but only with goal of facilitating the primary client's goals. For MC, the "marriage" is deemed the primary client, not either of the individuals.) Therapists do NOT have an agenda for their clients -- they are there to help you with whatever you determine are the issues and feelings that you want to explore. IC is ALL ABOUT YOU, and the therapist is there to focus solely on you...your personal feelings, wants, needs, desires, etc., whether or not that's related to your marriage. They will help you gain clarity and insight on ANY subject of your choosing, and offer suggestions based on YOUR OWN goals. BUT really, these types of questions are best directed at the professional(s) with whom you are working. Wishing you successful outcomes with both IC and MC. Link to post Share on other sites
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