What "Yeah, I slept with him" means to some guys

[chicagoboy777]

Girls sometimes throw "yeah I slept with him" out there like it is no big deal and guys do to, but i honestly feel that girls do it more and tell me if I am wrong. People tell you to get over it and it is no big deal, but when you say you slept with someone that means that you had at least decent sex in many positions, the guy explored the girls body and got to see something so treasured, your girl knows what the guys dick looks like and has felt his body, balls and dick and probably kissed many intimate places. Also after the sex is cuddling, spooning, and sometimes lying there both naked with the girl on top of the guy just looking into each others eyes. Yeah I know these thoughts sound cheesy and dumb, but this is how it really is. So when a boyfriend hears his girlfriend say o yeah I slept with him or did stuff with him, it is not that easy to get over because no matter what there is almost always a moment that looks imitates real love (the way you look at each other after you both finish) when you sleep with some. Right?

[You'reasian]

Wrong.

 

You just now that they were intimate and move on.

[The Collector]

Yeah she might have found it really boring or horrible. If you're so obsessed, get her to draw you a comic about it. Or man up and accept women like sex just like you do. It's nice to have lots of special connections with different people. Of all age and nationalities. Of all shapes and sizes. Oops, I've set you off again, haven't I?

[You'reasian]

I think Chi boy comes from a very, very conservative background. No one wants to think about those things, but for cryin' out loud that stuff was the past.

 

It might be different if this was going on today, but it isn't dude. move on. spend some time with your girl.

[verve]

Facts are, most people have been with other people, you've got to accept it. The worst thing you can do is use your mind against yourself and visualise them together in graphic detail, which is apparantley what you're doing.

 

They may have done stuff, but that was in the past, the past can't hurt you in the present unless you let it. Remember that and practise controlling your own thoughts, you are the master of your own mind!

[chicagoboy777]

thanks verve

[verve]

No probs, I think at some time we've all done it, especially when we're relatively new to relationships and dating, but it will only ever cause you hurt and pain.

 

Whenever you are thinking something along them lines, remember you can change that and replace that thought with something else. It takes a little bit of practise as our minds are creatures of habbit but ultimatley its upto you what you think. You can break negative throught processes like that and it is in your best interests to replace them with positive thoughts, otherwise you'll end up an emotional wreck with low self esteem.

 

You've just got to remember, people have pasts. Unless they lie to you about them, have cheated on partners in the past or done some unsavoury acts (orgies, gangbangs etc) then you've gotta just keep it at a distance and not let it get to you.

[norajane]

So when a boyfriend hears his girlfriend say o yeah I slept with him or did stuff with him, it is not that easy to get over because no matter what there is almost always a moment that looks imitates real love (the way you look at each other after you both finish) when you sleep with some. Right?

 

Yes, there's often a moment like that, but it feels different every time. What she has with you doesn't feel like anything she's had with anyone else. So enjoy what you have and and don't ruin the good vibes between you by obsessing over it.

[Green]

This could be a deal breaker if she slept with some guy I thought of as really dirty