Ncb89 Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 I had sex with my ex boyfriend, and this guy that i was talking to found out and is now appalled by me. I was never out to intentionally hurt anyone. The thing is the guy that i was talking to he doesn't want to listen to what i have to say. Its becoming a game to him because i am practically begging him to let me say what i need to say, and he'll give in a little and once he sees that i am taking a liking to it he'll back out and be like i shouldn't even be talking to you. he wasn't my boyfriend so i don't know why he is getting so worked up about it. My ex boyfriend was my first and only boyfriend. i was very close with him and i haven't seen him in about a year because he lives in england. when i saw him i instantly felt attraction and wanted to feel close with him again, and after doing so i saw my feelings weren't the same and my passion for him was no longer there. this guy that i was talking to is also long distance and we both had feelings for each other but it was more playful than serious. i am sad that i hurt the other guy and ive done so much to show im sorry. he is extremely stubborn so i dont know if i should just give up or keep trying.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 Give it up! Dont chase a man honey, they are not worth it, the ones that are will not make you chase and also if you really like guy 2 you would not have slept with the ex - You are not a bad person you are just confused You need to think about how you REALLY feel! Link to post Share on other sites
Arise_Serpentor Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 He just lost respect for you is all! basically you had empty sex, proven by the fact he was an EX! Bothers some, doesn't others! Him, it bothers! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 I have just re read what you wrote This new guy is obviously hurt BUT ask yourself this... What have you lost? You were only TALKING to this new guy so what right does he have to judge you or to make your life a misery You need to go out and meet people who live near by and have a REAL relationship You have done nothing wrong IMO - Dont bother trying to molly coddle the new guy, he is immature and not worth it! Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted August 24, 2008 Share Posted August 24, 2008 Guy 2 has no right to judge you for sleeping with an ex, since he's neither someone close to you to be a friend, nor does his opinions count. You and him are LD yet aren't really together, so you aren't entitled to explain your actions to him. He sounds immature and not worth chasing after. I agree with Lishy. Find someone close to you to form a real relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ncb89 Posted August 24, 2008 Author Share Posted August 24, 2008 I know but i just can't stop thinking about it. Its all i think about, even though it was long distance me and him connected. He told me that i made him look like an idiot because all he did was talk about, and tell his family and friends how great i was, and then proceeded to tell me that i ****ed him over the first chance i got. i want us to start over new Link to post Share on other sites
df273 Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 curious, but how did this guy find out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ncb89 Posted August 25, 2008 Author Share Posted August 25, 2008 well, my ex and the guy that i kind of like were in the same town, but are in no way friends. my ex is a very obsessive, jealous person and absolutely hated the idea of me and my crush cause he knew of him and knew that him and i were talking, so my ex saw my crush's best friend at a party and basically told him that we had, so my crush's best friend immediately called him and told him Link to post Share on other sites
nowhereman82 Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 it's LD, you're young, little time invested. Move on. Find someone local. The end! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ncb89 Posted August 25, 2008 Author Share Posted August 25, 2008 i know but i can't get over it, its been two weeks and im still a wreck. i miss him and how much we used to talk, i keep thinking about how we'd be if we actually got into a relationship..i felt really happy when i was around him and im so mad at myself im scared i wont get over this ****! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 Hmmmmmmmm, I am thinking you need to ask yourself why you are attached to this guy so much and why he is affecting you like this when you were not even together!! Link to post Share on other sites
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