Author chacha7 Posted September 7, 2008 Author Share Posted September 7, 2008 Breaking NC actually helped I think. It brought me closure in some way. I realized that his perceptions on situations are off and I tried to get him to understand where I am coming from, because I don't think he ever really did. I really hope that he decides to use my emails and posts so that he can achieve the type of self understanding that he is looking for. Now we are back on NC, which is fine with me. It's actually pretty easy for me, and although I think sending him those emails and hearing his responses and asking him to read my LS posts was necessary, I don't think any more contact is. I told him even he ever wants to be friends again I will always be there for him, and thats all I can do really. In some way I guess I am lucky because I know what I want with my life and just have to work to get there. He has it hard because he's never happy because he doesn't knw what he wants. He is never content. Its hard being with someone who is never content and always seeking something new, because they are never really relaxing and enjoying the moment. I think I can find someone who does that! As my friend says, you don't need a boy, you need a man! lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chacha7 Posted September 15, 2008 Author Share Posted September 15, 2008 Hi everyone, I have an update. It's been three weeks and a day since the break up and I am doing much much better. I think that breaking NC brought me closure, because I had realistic goals for doing so. I knew what I wanted and knew what I didn't want and I didn't expect anything from him. Then after I said what I needed to say, I continued on NC stronger than ever. It turns out that after all of those emails he said that he had a session with his therapist who said he should be open to going to a couples counselor of my choosing. I said it was too late. There was a wedding we were supposed to go to next weekend. I am not going now for my own sake. I am not saying it is easy, but it is getting easier. And I really wish the best of luck to everyone going through a break up on this site. Keep posting on LS, it is truly a lifesaver! It is the greatest gift a broken heart can ask for. You will feel better, just wait! Link to post Share on other sites
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