FallbackGirl Posted August 11, 2003 Share Posted August 11, 2003 I might just be being Naive about everything so I want some advice before deciding. I met guy on the internet about 3 months ago Everything has been going really great except for when I bring up the fact that we still haven't talked on the phone yet. He immediatly becomes defensive and starts giving me weak excuses like "I'm afraid you won't like my voice." "I'm actually kind of a shy guy" and for wutever reason, I've gone on talking to him on the internet and nothing more. I don't know if I am being selfish by saying this but I have been more than patient with him-so don't I somewhat deserve a Phone call now? Yea,I know I am probably just a dumb naive person for putting up with this for so long-I don't know why I have but I just do :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 11, 2003 Share Posted August 11, 2003 If you meet somebody on the Internet and things are going really well yet they refuse to talk to you on the phone, end it all after a couple of weeks. Relating to another human being you've never met or talked with on the phone simply by typing is seriously nuts. There's even a chance this guy could be a girl...or, worse yet, a moose. The excuses he gave are really lame and, if valid, are excellent reasons in themselves why you shouldn't want to have anymore to do with the guy. Send him an email, give him your phone number, and tell him there will be no more IM sessions or email of any kind until he gives you a call. See what happens. Most of the time, people do exchange phone calls and it's very nice to get acquainted that way. And, yes, some people are very shy. But regardless of their reason for not talking, there is absolutely no sense in keeping up something that's going south. Remember, if they're not willing to talk to you on the phone...what do you think the chances are they'll ever want to meet you in person! End this charade immediately and start looking for love in your town...unless, of course and by some incredible reason, he calls. Lots of luck in that regard!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sexi Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 i jus wanna say that tony somethings u say ta ppl are mean ! ! ! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 22, 2003 Share Posted August 22, 2003 YOU WRITE: "i jus wanna say that tony somethings u say ta ppl are mean ! ! !" OK...but there's a difference in being mean and being blunt. What did you find here that was mean? And I didn't see you offer anything that was more kind. If you don't like something I write, I urge you to answer the poster in your own words with your own ideas. That's what makes this forum such a great place. It's easy to be critical...but at least I made an effort to help the poster make some sense of this situation. Words are never mean. Words are pretty neutral. Only people's interpretation of words can make them mean. In my opinion, this girl is being mean to herself by continuing to engage a guy on the Internet who has no intentions of having anymore to do with her than typing messages in her direction. Link to post Share on other sites
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