nasmyster Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 Hi all, I'm 21 and shes 20. we study at the same uni. Me and my girl havnt actually "gone out" yet, but i really do like her (im not sure if its love yet) we had a wonderful time together (no sex yet tho) and we said that we loved each other... but since summer holiday i went back to my home abroad.. we havent seen each other for 2 months and hardly talk... becos we decided to go on a break and then officially go out after the summer holidays. but the thing is that she confessed to me that she slept with some other guy. I feel hurt and disrespected. I really do want to end the relationship with her, because she always make me feel insecure, even before she slept with that guy. She told me that its only physical not emotional with that guy. and that we would be fine once we r together again, she used the excuse that shes not wrong because she is not technically going out with me, but i feel cheated. i still like her alot and think of her ALL the time... im thinking of ending the relationship with her for good which is very hard for me to get my head around. What should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 well you should have had sex with her... and thats pretty rude of her. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Tyra Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 I understand that you may be hurt,but you have to realized that the two of you weren't together. At least she was honest with telling you this,because she didn't have to tell you.I wouldn't end the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
vivrantflo Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 Tough call.. Yeah she was honest with you, but you gotta ask yourself if you can continue to date her knowing that she slept with some dude while you were home. Im pretty sure if the situation was reversed, the woman would be turned off, and probably not date you anymore. I don't know, I'd probably date other women.. she says she loves you, but hasnt been physical with you, although she found it neccessary to sleep with some guy just to get off.. cause you went home. She uses the excuse of "not being wrong cause you werent together technically".. trying to justify that what she did was warranted, and that you shouldnt be mad. She sounds like she could possibly be trouble in the future. Plus she's 20 and in uni...she made you feel insecure BEFORE she banged this dude... too many red flags man. I'd date other women. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nasmyster Posted August 25, 2008 Author Share Posted August 25, 2008 thanks for all your comments. i decided to break it up with her... :'( now she calls me selfish and insecure because i cant take the fact that she slept with another guy. but why the heck should i accept that she slept with another guy while we were still liking each other!! am i right? or am i overreacting? Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 thanks for all your comments. i decided to break it up with her... :'( now she calls me selfish and insecure because i cant take the fact that she slept with another guy. but why the heck should i accept that she slept with another guy while we were still liking each other!! am i right? or am i overreacting? you are extremely right my friend. Stick with your decision like a fat kid on ice cream Now I was in the same situation. By taking her back is telling her you are a pu$$y pushover. So stand your ground and show her,and most importantly yourself that you can do better than a tramp. good job Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 thanks for all your comments. i decided to break it up with her... :'( now she calls me selfish and insecure because i cant take the fact that she slept with another guy. but why the heck should i accept that she slept with another guy while we were still liking each other!! am i right? or am i overreacting? No, you are not right (or maybe you are) and yes, you are overreacting (or maybe you're not). You were not in a committed relationship with her and she did not see any sexual advances coming from you so she decided she needed to get some and she did. Next time, BE A MAN. When you start seeing somebody you're attracted to...after four or five dates, go for it in a discrete way. See if the female is open to it. Some will be, some like to wait longer. If a female is into sex and a man she has started to date shows little interest, she will go elsewhere...no matter how interested she is in the guy. Learn something from this. Now, what SHE needs to learn is to keep her mouth shut. I think it lacked a lot of class to tell you she screwed another guy. She didn't owe you that information. This would indicate that somehow she is angry or wanted it to be very clear that if you weren't going to satisfy her needs, somebody else would. However, I don't think a gal would have given you this information if she was really interested in you...unless she is extremely stupid. Now, you figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 . However, I don't think a gal would have given you this information if she was really interested in you...unless she is extremely stupid. Now, you figure it out. lol . when my ex and i were on "one of our breaks" she told me she banged some bloke while we were split. So I would have to lean on the side that she is extremely stupid:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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