a different prespective needed

[bentnotbroken]

BNB, we've gone back and forth on this issue since I first posted on the forum and obviously we are going to have to agree to disagree. I respect your opinion but don't agree with it. I only responded to Bish's post because I don't see the need to keep drumming someone's mistake/sin, whatever you want to call it, into their head. It does no one any good. Bish, from what I've seen in my short time on this forum, is extremely hostile and seems to take pleasure in putting people down. I don't believe that is the intended purpose of this site.

 

I, as well as Lostgirl and countless others, came on this site for support and some advice. Once you've made your opinion known, it is not necessary to keep harping on it. You have made it quite apparent that you consider the situations some of us are in to be morally abhorrent, sinful, etc......That's your opinion and you're entitled to it.

 

 

 

AAAHHHH, okay:confused:

[bish]

Ah, the voice of the moral majority strikes again.

 

Has nothing to do with morality. Doesn't have to be a moral crusade to recognize when someone is acting like a heathen.

 

 

Bish, don't you get tired of spouting the same old thing over and over again?

 

Nope....do you?

 

 

You seem to think you have a monopoly on what's right and wrong. I don't believe any O/W or O/M on this site believes that their actions are right.

 

Then you don't read much.

 

 

No one needs you to come down on them. Do you honestly believe that anything you say will change anyone's mind?

 

 

I know full well that selfish people will always remain selfish and will try to get what they want no matter who they hurt or what families they are submarining.

 

Still doesn't mean one can't be disgusted by it and let it be known.

 

 

The more you criticize and judge people, the more likely they are to continue the same behavior. Obviously, an expert in the human condition such as yourself should know that.

 

 

Oh please. They aren't going to change anyway. They are selfish and will remain so. Just like you.

 

 

My situation is different in that, as of this past weekend, my MM's wife knows about our relationship and they both have gone to see a lawyer.

 

Good, I hope she gets a bulldog for a lawyer and takes him to the cleaners.

 

 

I know this because his S called me after he told her about me. He has spoken to his older son and told him that they are getting divorced.

 

My heart goes out to the son and the wife. But a better life is awaiting her.

 

 

For me, there is some light at the end of the tunnel.

 

Yes, a family is about to be ripped apart, the son is probably grieving heavily, but hey, as long as you get what you want, to hell with them, right? As long as you get your "light at the end of the tunnel"...how freakin' selfish.

 

 

However, even with these new developments, I am not jumping for joy. Many things can happen and even though I am partly responsible, the break-up of a marriage is sad.

 

I'm sure you are just beside yourself with that too:rolleyes:

 

 

The choice is yours. Regardless of what anyone says, you are not a bad person. I know it sounds simplistic, but things happen.

 

Ya, she is only screwing a married man and taking his time away from his family...thats all...nothing wrong with that at all.....get real.

 

 

I've always believed that if a marriage is strong, it cannot be broken by an outsider.

 

Whatever makes you feel better in your quest to mitigate the role you played in wrecking a home. He is the most to blame, but you were part of it too. You are not without fault here whatsoever.

[bish]

BNB, we've gone back and forth on this issue since I first posted on the forum and obviously we are going to have to agree to disagree. I respect your opinion but don't agree with it. I only responded to Bish's post because I don't see the need to keep drumming someone's mistake/sin, whatever you want to call it, into their head.

 

Neither do I. However, there is a difference between people that have done those things and are seeking to make good, and those that keep doing said actions on an ongoing basis because they are trying to get "theirs".

 

Big difference there sweetheart between that which is in the past and that which keeps on ticking.

 

 

It does no one any good. Bish, from what I've seen in my short time on this forum, is extremely hostile and seems to take pleasure in putting people down. I don't believe that is the intended purpose of this site.

 

I dont believe it is the intended purpose of this site for people to seek advice and sympathy in their quest to wreck a home and betray other people.

 

Otherwise they can just take the "love" out of "loveshack".