Touche Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Awww, how beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
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marlena Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 That is my camarade! Welcome back! Thanks, my sweet. Nice to see you, too! You have a beautiful voice, by the way! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarieD Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 XNemesisX - Yes I am 35 years old & still live with my parents. That is a whole other discussion though. I am VERY close with my parents & they go to Atlantic City alot & I come & go as I please & am able to bank all my pay checks, so there is no reason for me to move out. No, I plan on raising my kids right were i am, with my parents. They said they won't have it any other way!! They want their grandkids right under their roof where they could be close to them!! I think that is SO wonderful of them!!! They said if i have my kids this way, I will have all the support & love from them!! They are awesome, & they gave me the greatest childhood possible & i plan to give my babies the greatest childhood possible as well. Why move out & just throw rent or mortgage out the window when i need ALL the money I can get if i am planning on being a single mom by choice!! Plus, I wouldn't want to come home to an empty house, what fun is that?? Also, I don't think having a child with a gay man would be something I want. I don't understand how u could suggest that!! When you say you don't know what you are getting & here right up front u suggest a gay man? I wouldn't want my child having a chance of being gay, sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarieD Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 And YES, of course i am employed! I have been working since I was 17! Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 XNemesisX - Yes I am 35 years old & still live with my parents. That is a whole other discussion though. I am VERY close with my parents & they go to Atlantic City alot & I come & go as I please & am able to bank all my pay checks, so there is no reason for me to move out. No, I plan on raising my kids right were i am, with my parents. They said they won't have it any other way!! They want their grandkids right under their roof where they could be close to them!! I think that is SO wonderful of them!!! They said if i have my kids this way, I will have all the support & love from them!! They are awesome, & they gave me the greatest childhood possible & i plan to give my babies the greatest childhood possible as well. Why move out & just throw rent or mortgage out the window when i need ALL the money I can get if i am planning on being a single mom by choice!! Plus, I wouldn't want to come home to an empty house, what fun is that?? Also, I don't think having a child with a gay man would be something I want. I don't understand how u could suggest that!! When you say you don't know what you are getting & here right up front u suggest a gay man? I wouldn't want my child having a chance of being gay, sorry! rent is toilet, yes, mortgaging (owning) is never throwing away money. And in my opinion, an empty house is awesome. I can run around naked in my living room and no one cares or knows but me! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarieD Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 I always lived with people around, I am not the type of person to come home to an empty house. True that paying a mortgage isnt' throwing money away, but I MUCH rather spend that money on my baby. I could always buy a house later on in life! My baby is most important now at this age! Run around naked!! hahah Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 I always lived with people around, I am not the type of person to come home to an empty house. True that paying a mortgage isnt' throwing money away, but I MUCH rather spend that money on my baby. I could always buy a house later on in life! My baby is most important now at this age! Run around naked!! hahah yeah but the money that would be going toward your house will now be spent on the baby. You can't just say "i could always buy a house later on in life" b/c monetarily maybe you wont be able to afford it. I guess you need to decide what's more important...b/c you might not be able to have both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarieD Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 MarieD, if you have the support of your parents, which you would need since you live with them, then do what you want and be happy. Aw thanks Luv!! That was very sweet of you! I really appreciate it! Yes Love, having kids at this time in my life is much more important than buying a new house. I am happy where i am now, I wouldn't change a thing. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Also, I don't think having a child with a gay man would be something I want. I don't understand how u could suggest that!! When you say you don't know what you are getting & here right up front u suggest a gay man? I wouldn't want my child having a chance of being gay, sorry! Marie, having a gay dad doesn't make a kids likelihood of being gay any higher. And you need to not be so quick to say something like this, what if your sperm bank baby does become gay...there is nothing you can do to predict this. Would you then stop loving your child??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarieD Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 Porter- of course not i wouldn't love my baby any less if he/she became gay! I guess i don't know much about being gay, i thought maybe it could be a gene that could be passed down. I apoligize for my comment if anyone was offended. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 I don't think having a child with a gay man would be something I want. ... I wouldn't want my child having a chance of being gay ANY child you have will have a chance of being gay, though -- straight parents have been creating gay offspring since forever! Or, 3 straight kids and 1 gay one. Or vice versa. That part of it is a crap shoot. In any event, hopefully that won't stop you from pursuing your own dreams to become a parent...under whatever circumstances you deem appropriate for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Porter- of course not i wouldn't love my baby any less if he/she became gay! I guess i don't know much about being gay, i thought maybe it could be a gene that could be passed down. I apoligize for my comment if anyone was offended. Oh I was just trying to point out that when you are deciding to have a child you need to make sure you are very open minded about a lot of stuff because you never know what your child will turn out to be like. Link to post Share on other sites
GPFan Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Hi Marie, Your scenario, whilst not matching Western Society's ideal, isn't a bad one by far. Raising a child surrounded and supported by loving family with positive male and female role models in the person of parents/siblings is appealing a lot of ways. Other, non Western models, discourage the idea of parents going it alone with no practical support. Other family members can step in and either discipline or advocate for any child within their group. Quite naturally this discourages even subtle means of abuse. Your child will be cared for by those who love him/her as opposed to being handed over to strangers. You, yourself, will have it easier by not being confined alone with your child 24/7. Variety, help and support will accrue great benefits for your child. The more I explore this idea, the more sense it makes... Link to post Share on other sites
Author MarieD Posted August 29, 2008 Author Share Posted August 29, 2008 Ronnie - Thanks Ronnie! :-) Porter - Yes I have to be open minded u r correct! GPFan - I'm sure my Plan B isn't supported by MANY people, BUT it may be my only way that I could have babies & enjoy motherhood. Hopefully things will work out with my current boyfriend, but I have to have a backup plan! Yes, my child will be surrounded by MANY people who will love him/her so much!! That is very important! The more I think about the plan too, the more it makes sense. Of course there are negatives, but thats life right!! Just wanted to say thank you ALL for all your replies!!! I really appreciate it!! Link to post Share on other sites
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