D-D Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 I'm a male turning 25 in a few months and I am still single (haven't really ever been in a serious relationship). I have had a couple of dates this year which didn't really amount to anything (hadn't dated in a few years before these dates). I met a girl at work and went out a bit but that fell apart and then I was set up on blind date with a co-worker's friend, but there was no chemistry. All my friends are married and have kids (most of them are a little older than me). It is really hard to meet people when you have that type of a social circle. I am also very shy around girls, so that doesn't help me one bit (I am getting better and much more outgoing than a few years ago though). I have a great career, i'm in good shape and not a bad looking guy, though I am short at 5'6" which doesn't help =(. I am happy with everything in my life other than the fact that I'd like to get married and have a kids, but that seems pretty far off, if not impossible some days. I don't know whether it is me or if I am just having bad luck? I have been considering on-line dating, but I am not sure whether it is a worth it or not (they are expensive). I kind of think that this is maybe a good alternative for me as at least I may meet some people and get some dates out of it. What has your experiences been with online dating? Any other suggestions for meeting people with dating potential for someone in my situation? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 well honestly any way to meet someone is a good way. . .just make sure its safe and convenient. I've never had to resort to online dating. . .thank god, but I won't go bashing it cause it seems to be working out for some people. With your situation, it just seems that you need to work on your confidence around girls more than anything. . .being a bit shy is okay, but you have to know how to handle yourself and not make things awkwardly shy and what not. Also try not to think too far ahead. . . your ideas of marriage and family are probably affecting you because of who you are around (friends in marriages w/ kids) yet you yourself are left out of the mix. It's easy to feel that urge/need to have and be what they have and are, maybe its time to step back and start associating yourself with the single crowd. . .enjoy living that life until someone comes into your life that you KNOW you WANT to BE WITH. Don't force or press the issue, because it'll never really happen or be what you wanted it to be. If you really feel the need to try online dating, dont have high expectations, be realistic with what it is and what it offers. . .its an alternative, but its not a solution to your problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-D Posted September 1, 2008 Author Share Posted September 1, 2008 ^^^ Thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
FleshNBones Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Online dating seems seems to have the most hostile (if you aren't handsome or burly) group of women. Usually one sour note is reason enough for them to push the reject button. Link to post Share on other sites
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