Internal Tug of War & Resolution

[coffeemaker]

I've always found that relationships act like a mirror for me, accentuating things about myself that are hidden underneath the surface. The most recent bit of self-knowledge I've gained is that I'm a basket of strongly opposing tendencies.

 

I'm wondering if anyone else has/is aware of their own strongly opposed tendencies and how they balance them. Here's my list (i doubt it's all that unique!).

 

Indian vs. American

My folks were born in India and I was born/raised in NY. There are times when both worlds seem foreign to me. What to do when both viewpoints make intellectual sense and are the basis for action. How do you pick one?

 

Passion vs. Reason

I'm moved pretty easily and tend to feel things deeply - be that joy or sorrow. In some situations i'm never sure what's right. Both passion and reason tend to be diametrically opposed for certain decisions.

 

Stability vs. Wanderlust

I have both an insatiable curiosity and innate desire for stability that's affected my career choices and romantic relationships. It's an interesting tension.

 

Silly vs. Serious

I'm goofball at heart, but I can be awfully introspective (hence this post). These aren't really opposites as the behavior is depends on the circumstances.

[Green]

I'm my funiest to other people when I'm being serious so go figure. I have my own internal tug of war going so I like to think other sophisticated people deal with simalar issues

[Lovelybird]

It seems to me that you are following several "guidances", sometimes it is passion, sometimes it is reason, sometimes it may be someone's opinions, sometimes it is Indian culture, sometimes it is American culture, and several "guidances" will definitely fight with each other, because you are not sure which one will lead you to a better choice

 

I was like this before, sometimes I felt doing something was right, but later I felt terriblely wrong, all according to which 'guidance' I used. It was confusing and waste of energy

 

But now it is very simple, because I know there are universal rules, if I follow these rules, I get better and choose better, no confusing no fighting. sometimes maybe fight "obey or not obey these rules", but it is much better than before not knowing, now I know which way is good for me, the rest is do or not do. So I have ONE guidance --God and Jesus's words, and Holy Spirit within me. when I have this one ultimate guidance, passion and reason will fall right into places, they help each other, not fight with each other.

 

so the key point here is if you find the ONE ultimate guidance? There are many voices, some will pull you down, some will drag you right into trap, some will depress you, but there is one voice-God's voice to guide us and tell the truth, liberate and lift up us

 

Depends on which guidance you follow and which voice you hear. If you find real guidance, your spirit will soar, so as your life