Rooster_DAR Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Kat, There are many posters here with pretty good advice, but I like LB and Owls advice and opinions, and would agree with their observations as logical approaches. Lizzie's advice was just plain bad, she (or anybody else for that matter) does not know enough about you and your situation to provide any perfect answer here. It seems that there is love for you husband at some level, perhaps you just need time to work through your situation and decide whether you want to get back your relationship or not. On the surface sometimes things seem very clear, especially when it comes to attraction to a new person, but be very careful that you think things through before you make a decision. I've read many stories like yours, and statistically going with the new lover rarely works out, but that's not to say it can't. If you are being honest with yourself and your H does not budge, it seems to me that reconciling may be out of reach. My advice would be to take a timeout from both sides and spend a little time with yourself, it's hard to think clearly when your pining for someone, and struggling with your marriage at the same time. Good luck, Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Owl, you know as well as I do, the best thing for this man to do, is to Divorce his wife, she doesn't care about him at all, and her actions prove this. He'd have to go through Hell with the toughts, well, he'll have to go through that anyway, but, If he Divorces her, he doesn't have to look at her face and remember all the Hell she put him though, he may even heal faster, if that's possible........ Obviously I know no such thing...if I DID know something along these lines, I would have undoubtedly posted much different advice than I did, no? I hear what you're saying...but I also know how far these things can turn around as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Obviously I know no such thing...if I DID know something along these lines, I would have undoubtedly posted much different advice than I did, no? I hear what you're saying...but I also know how far these things can turn around as well. Owl! Work with me here! Well, as long as you know what I'm saying, then it's ok, I guess............ Link to post Share on other sites
ahhhchooo Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 So you've seen the greener grass. You might as well enjoy it before you notice the next paddock, You've already betrayed the person you told you'd have in better times or worse, as long as you both shall live. Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Kat, I've read your posts and have come to the following conclusions: 1. Your husband is not marriage material no matter how amazing you perceive him for his problems may not be fixable by you or anyone else! See..http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1692393&postcount=61 2. You, on the other hand are equally troubled for you can be "woo'd" by any man at any time which makes you unsuitable as marriage material also. I believe you should divorce and go your separate ways for you are not compatible in your relationship. Furthermore, I'd suggest that you both spend time spinning in your own dark orbits until you've achieved enough inner growth to become fully actualized adults capable of handling the rigors of a long term commitment such as is required in a marriage! JMO! Link to post Share on other sites
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